Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

Meh, not ideal behaviour but I wouldn't lose a wink of sleep over it.

Nope. The kid and its shitty parents are vile. That’s why we have entitled yobs hanging around town centres intimidating adults.

As if M&S were not dealing with enough problems already..
Could it not have been Waitrose? Or Iceland ..

To put it shortly - it basically means going to that same shop wouldn't even cross someone’s mind again if I found out they’d called my child what this grown woman did.

Op you crossed a line. Kids learn not just from their parents but from the wider world around them. By calling him that, you taught him/reinforced the idea that he can verbally abuse people.
And personally I hate and never use that C word as I find it offensive and deeply misogynistic.

And I always tell my kids (both under 5 so perhaps easy at this point) never to use fat as an insult. It's a horrendous thing as being fat is a physical state not a character failing. And I imagine can be hurtful to people that are fat.
Two wrongs don't make a right

OP, are you actually Ricky Gervais?

Kids like that don't understand or give a toss about consequences because they are never disciplined. Fat cunt, especially if he was fat was well deserved. And YES! great that the dad didn't believe him😹

What? You’d have beaten her up? For calling your kid out when they were being a little shit? Nice

I called some brats ‘feral little bastards’ on a different thread. Is that worse or better? I don’t know. Cunt gets people all twisted out of shape. I’m finding this thread amusing too though. It makes me laugh that you let his dad think he was a fibber, naughty OP.

Maybe if the parent actually parented his child properly and didn't allow him to go around bullying multiple customers the op wouldn't have lost her temper.

It wasn't ideal, but she's only human.

Probably better that the op called him a cunt than having the next person smack the kid in the face.

😂😂❤

But you haven’t explained how you would prevent her from doing so…

Many of those "entitled yobs" are exploited and vulnerable children. The majority in fact. I work with this demographic and I've yet to meet one who's simply just a shit. I can think of young people I have worked with who would have acted in that way as a result of brain injury or serious abuse in childhood or just plain neglect. Is it still cool to call kids in those circumstances fat c*nts? Because sadly they don't come with warning labels. They look just the same as the rest.

YANBU OP, I laughed out loud at this.

Quite possibly deserved...but I'm assuming you didn't admit that you said it to the Dad?
So now the kid is being blamed for lying when he didn't; that won't help his behaviour imo.

Not a great thing to say, but I also don’t blame you.

If the little shit has the gumption to FOLLOW you and call you names, well, it’s not like he doesn’t use similar language too.

I’ve seen similarly behaved children and it boils my piss too. Ideally, you’d rise above it but sometimes these things happen.

"Maybe if the parent actually parented his child properly and didn't allow him to go around bullying multiple customers the op would have lost her temper."

Op also had time to do a full shop between interacting with the child and seeing him again. That's not "lost temper" that's just malicious. She saw an opportunity to attack him so she took it to make him feel small.

No wonder he responded the way he did. If someone spoke to me that way I'd have a few choice words ready for them as well.

Which is where the OP's kids could be headed if they're brought up by a mother who thinks it's ok to call a 10 year old a fat cunt.

Poor behaviour breeds poor behaviour.

Errrr don't think you can pretend it's not a word you use when you called a child that...

In short, yes, you're pretty despicable.

I think this is a bit much!! Some kids are just little shits, no brain damage, no hard life just entitled little shits.

The kid was clearly behaving atrociously. The thing is, this sort of thing doesn’t just slip out of your mouth unless it’s in your mind. I have literally never called anyone fat in my entire adult life (I’m told as a very young child I called my grandma fat when I didn’t know it was rude), it’s just not how I think. I have on a very small number of occasions referred to someone as a cunt, but this is is based on lots of information about severely abusive behaviour over an extended period of time. I can’t think of any examples right now, but there’s been I think a few instances where someone’s been just such an incredibly awful person I thought that really it was the right word for them and would have thought that or at most said it to my husband or a close friend. The fact that in the heat of the moment these words came out of your mouth says a lot about the way you think. And what it says isn’t good.

All this “oh, he’s troubled!” And “you’ve reinforced his beliefs about the world”…. nah. You said something to him that shocked him. That was a much needed slap in his face. About time he faced some real world consequences. If his dad believe him, that’s not the OP’s problem. I was an exceptionally well-behaved and respectful child so my parents would have believed me. So, no sympathy for the shit.

This is true, a lot of them were probably gently parented.

I wondered the same thing 😂

This kid though was in marks and sparks on a bike (well in the car park) with a (hapless) father. Doesn’t sound like neglect or a brain injury, just sounds like a little fucker that needs to learn some manners and be parented.