Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

Good. I hope it upsets the fat little cunt forever and he learns from it that:

1. Adults are unlikely to call kids fat cunts.
2. He's a fat little cunt.

In Bruges:

Ken: Harry, let's face it. And I'm not being funny. I mean no disrespect, but you're a cunt. You're a cunt now, and you've always been a cunt. And the only thing that's going to change is that you're going to be an even bigger cunt. Maybe have some more cunt kids.
Harry: [furious] Leave my kids fucking out of it! What have they done? You fucking retract that bit about my cunt fucking kids!
Ken: I retract that bit about your cunt fucking kids.

I also have a ND 9 year old who looks 12ish. And yes, she will play up when things don't go as expected, cry, shout at me etc. But if she ever behaved intentionally rudely towards a stranger I would fully expect them to pull her up on it, as I expect her teachers to do.

Yes our children have extra challenges, but we don't know what the other person is going through, they may also be ND, they may have had a horrifiic day, be in pain, just received terrible news etc, it's unreasonable for us to expect then to make allowances for however our child behaves but not make any allowances for them?

Why was this child being allowed to ride an electric scooter round M&S?

It was outside in the car park, not inside the shop.

this really made me smile OP. YANBU. I had a very similar incident a few years back when this horrible kid was constantly knocking on my door to demand that my son play with him - throwing stones at my windows, shouting insults etc

in the end I opened the door and said “look, my son isn’t allowed to play with you, you’re a horrible scruffy little bastard and I don’t want you anywhere near him. Now fuck off you fat little shit and get a wash”.

In my defence, my fury had been bubbling up for quite some time and this was a particularly bad day. His parents didn’t believe him either and i denied all knowledge 😂 he didn’t come back.

Body shame? The only thing more annoying than a horrible kid is a horrible fat kid

You definitely crossed a line and you should feel guilty. That's no way to speak to a child, no matter what they've done. As you've witnessed you just escalated things so it wasn't an effective way to manage it.

I can’t really believe adults are posting and applauding this kind of thing.

It’s disgusting.

Its really not a big triumph to hurl insults at a child then deny it; I’m not sure why so many people are acting as though it is somehow inspired or clever. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you think most people who go round mouthing off and losing their cool aren’t also frustrated?

There are so many threads about body dysmorphia and anorexia etc and everyone wrings their hands about how sad it is, but adults insulting children by calling them childish things like “ fat fuck” are part of the cause. And some children are actually technically bastards; how do you think people like you make them feel?

No wonder the world is such a mess when people think it’s clever to hurl insults at children - then lie and deny it to boot.

Some kids are cunts. I hate that word but the kid was being a nuisance so try not to feel too bad. Good for you for calling him out . Kids like this should be chastised by strangers when they have useless parents.

They have to learn 🤷‍♀️

Maybe the kid will think twice about being a cunt in future? Better for everyone

Or maybe they will learn that when they are frustrated the way to handle it is to hurl insults at people and lie about it.

And we end up with just one more person in society behaving that way.

Well this kid is already doing that isn’t he? So from this he’s learnt that sometimes - people retaliate 🤷‍♀️

They do.

And he will probably retailiate when he’s in a relationship and call his partner a “fat bitch” because he’s frustrated then gaslight her about the fact he never said it when she reports his treatment.

No one thinks that’s funny so why is it funny when it’s a child ?

From OPs description this fat little cunt is already the type of kid to do this to a future partner - I mean, it did it to OP didn’t it?

No sympathy for it, it will learn one way or another.

Well it was sort of funny when Ricky Gervais did it in afterlife. But that's because it's wasn't real life. It was an act. But you can't go round actually calling kids fat or cunts.

Generally, when kids behave like cunts, it's because they have already endured more than their fair share of adverse experiences in their lives, and what they really need is someone to use firm, fair, kind boundaries.

A security guard having a quiet word in a firm way would have been far more appropriate

The more you tell a kid they're a cunt, the more likely they are to become one as adults. You have sadly, just added another unhelpful message to this kids life experience. Lest hope one day he meets a kind adult that is able to make a positive difference in his life.

Who knows, maybe the man that was with him is a foster parent that's trying to help him, or a residential care worker, or maybe it's his real dad and he's trying to help him overcome some trauma.

We never know what's going on in other people lives. But with kids behaving like this, it's safe to assume that they haven't had it easy for much of their life so far...

And likely hasn’t had the role models to help him behave differently.

Children become the adults in their world.

Yes of course we find children annoying at times, especially when we are tired, and yes it’s funny up to a point to imagine doing these things. But actually doing them is a whole other step.

I’m kind of hoping some of the posts on this thread are actually empty boasts of what they felt like doing but never would have stooped to in reality.

Oh come on, this kid is already doing that, he knows how to do it and he's been doing it, he clearly had zero respect for OP or indeed anyone to behave towards her and others in that manner to start with.

He's already a person in society behaving that way. He's not going to be, he already is, and that's got nothing to do with OP. She was just there when he did it this time.

It's not up to OP or anyone doing their shopping or the staff of M&S to be responsible for the issues in society and fix them while the perpetrators and parents if they're a minor, carry on regardless, but demand they're tolerated.

OP is not responsible for him growing up to rob a bank, or mug old ladies or abuse a partner he might have. He is, and at the moment his parents are responsible for his behaviour.

If he's learned anything, which I doubt, it's that if you open the door to treating other people badly just because you can, other people can walk through it and do exactly the same and you will be on the recieving end.

Exactly. He’s learned an important lesson that not every woman that you terrorise for funsies is going to meekly stand by and let you do it.

The reaching going on to defend this little scrote is unbelievable. Yes, some kids behave badly because of their life experiences, some are just little shits and a product of piss poor parenting- as this one obviously was.

There’s nothing wrong at all with not putting up with it.

But there are ways and ways of doing things.

Need to get checked out op

If a village had raised this kid there's a possibility he may not have turned out to be a badly behaved fat cunt.

Ole

This is always my 'go to' solution for kids on scooters in shops.
Can I book a seat on the express straight to hell?

Think they’re currently offering buy one ticket, get one free. I’ll join you! 🤣