Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

MN double standards again.
Calling a child what she did not OK, but the presumed violence of “you’ll never visit M&S again” all fine and dandy?

Pot kettle black comes to mind.

More than good deeds, I think you need to go to therapy. Did people use language like that around you growing up? Is that where this comes from? What on earth possessed you? You have brought two young children into the world and you owe it to them to work on yourself. Calling a child a cunt is just so beyond the bounds of acceptable or proportionate behaviour that if I were you I’d get your head seen to pronto.

That was a weak insult at best.

Hopefully one day he harasses the wrong person and gets pushed off his stupid scooter. He needs a faceplanting.

Nah, honestly I think you are fine. Sometimes being the bigger person just doesn’t work, it would be nice if badly behaved people received more pushback at an earlier age so they understand that society isn’t obliged to tolerate them.

Yep and trying to convince us they’re so hard like we’re going to be impressed 🤣

Funny how people only get like this with women and don’t front up to men.

The dramatics. Why would OP go to therapy for losing it once with a kid who was in fact being a dick?

He sounds like an annoying kid but “fat cunt” is so harsh even if this were an adult. I always think it’s awful to bring someone’s appearance into insults, no need for it.

I think if a “young person” is riding around a supermarket on his/her illegal scooter intimidating people, being called what you said is the least of the child’s problems. Most people would have just deliberately pushed him directly into a freezer!

i worked in a shop when I left school, and I remember parents saying “if you’re naughty, the lady will tell you off and ask us to leave” my reply always was “if you’re unable to keep your kid calm, why and how do you expect me too”, and then the parents would call me a cunt and I would laugh because suddenly the realisation washed all over their faces!

I love this. His dad didn’t believe him about the fat cunt comment 😂

I wouldn’t have said that, but I would have shoved him off his scooter.

Meh I think calling him a fat cunt is mild. I might have run the little shit over with my car. But then I’m not sure I have this fully developed adult brain people talk about.

You’re not going to undo a lifetime of ill discipline with a single sentence.

Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell

Next time you encounter him and if he says anything report it to M&S immediately as it could escalate. A kid bold enough to follow an adult to their car shouting those insults (even if in retaliation) is possibly bold enough to egg you or assault you in some way. What you said was wrong but it shouldn’t end up being some long running feud, where you and your children are insulted if you see him.

Allthegoodhorses

Personally it sounds like the kid deserved it. Too many unruly kids these days with feeble parents telling them to ‘use their words’ - considering how he spoke to you that language was not new to him and to retaliate and follow you (at 11 years old!!) tells me he’s going to be an out of control yob who’s not been parented correctly

the dad apologised to op and was try to get his child home so I don’t think it’s the same as him out on his own causing chaos. I agree though that the language wasn’t new to him BUT you’d hope children would be turned around by being able to mirror good behaviour around them- imagine the difference if op had said ‘that’s a cool scooter’ and the kid had had a conversation back, it probably wouldn’t have happened but you’d still think there’s a possibility. I work at a checkout and there’s sullen, silent kids until I pick up things like sweets and say ‘I love these,’ or ‘these are fine the second they get into my house’ or ‘bet you’re glad you’ve no school tomorrow’ etc

Because it is abusive. Calling a child a cunt is abusive language and if I’d exploded like that I’d be questioning my fitness as a mother, frankly. I’m appalled by the people on here excusing it. Perhaps they were called similar names growing up and are perpetuating the cycle? Either way it’s deeply dysfunctional and needs examining imo.

Which is exactly my point!

Exactly!

Oh don’t worry OP, yes it wasn’t the best of ideas but you will learn from this. Everyone makes mistakes and I am like you a bit hot headed at times then regret my choices. I don’t judge you, the little antisocial terror might actually learn something too.

The fact you are thinking about it so much proves that you aren’t a bad person. Hold your head high in M&S and learn from it

I shouted "stupid little pricks" at a bunch of teens weaving in and out of the road on bikes in front of my car the other day purposefully on the wind up.

They stopped.

Domt lose a wink of sleep over it op, kids got a lot worse than that back in the day if they behaved even 1 10th as badly and you know what - served them right.

How big was the car park if he was able to do this for a good 5 minutes?

Little twat.
good for you

The UK’s philosophy for dealing with antisocial youths the last few decades has been “get a good job so you can live somewhere you don’t need to deal with them as much”.

Someone needed to parent the kid and OP, whilst your words were a bit on the spicy side, he needed to be told.

If my child was behaving badly I wouldn’t complain what they were called- I’d be thinking (if not saying) the exact same too!

How big does a space have to be to insult someone for 5 minutes?

Very classy. As much as the little shit might have deserved it you really shouldn't have lowered yourself to that extent.

Anyway what's done is done. Try and not to engage if there's ever a next time.

I know someone like OP. Always has to speak their mind. Can’t shrug anything off. You invited the child to engage with you further when you made your silly PA comment about him needing a doctor. Unnecessary. But you felt the need to pass comment. The person I know always does the same and then wonders why they end up is so many conflictful (not a word?!) situations. It’s because they can’t let anything go. And then they get huffy about the fact the other person responded back in a way they didn’t like and they get all offended and righteous and start defending their behaviour. FWIW the kid was being a little cunt (no idea if he was fat!) but as soon as you called him that you lost any moral high ground. Live and let live. Kid was being annoying. Report to security next time. Or ignore. Try to avoid calling people cunts. Especially children.