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Neighbour not happy with my fence?

203 replies

chcocooo · 12/06/2025 08:20

So basically after months of neighbours kids:

Playing-on my drive
Trespassing on my drive
Chucking footballs at my living room window.
Constantly standing by my living room window
Shouting and waking my toddlers up.

I finally got a fence installed on Monday which has solved all the issues.

But now my neighbour will apparently struggle to fit two cars on her drive as before the man and his partner would park close on the boundary and his door would open on my bit.
He has asked if I could move the fence further on my bit but it will impact my own ability to have 2 cars on my drive.

AIBU to decline this as it’s on my own drive?

OP posts:
TubeScreamer · 12/06/2025 13:44

Under no circumstances move it!

PurplePattern · 12/06/2025 13:58

Never ever move that fence, absolutely CF of neighbours to even suggest this.

Nanny0gg · 12/06/2025 14:25

chcocooo · 12/06/2025 12:34

Hi all thanks for the replies.

The fence really was a last resort after months of hoping the kids would stop after telling them and their parents multiple times.

I just spoke to the wife and told her how would she like the constant trespass right by their living room window on a daily basis walking up her toddlers?
She said she understood and will just try to reverse in now.

I would never dream of inconveniencing my neighbours like this, it’s not just the kids it’s them and their visitors.

Its all stopped now, money well spent!

Hmm.

Let's see how long before you find some 'damage'

How does the fence stop their kids going on your drive etc?

longtompot · 12/06/2025 15:41

He has asked if I could move the fence further on my bit but it will impact my own ability to have 2 cars on my drive

I would answer this by saying why would I give you some of my land, as that is what he is asking, instead of just living within the boundaries of his own space.

Cel119 · 12/06/2025 16:48

WhereYouLeftIt · 12/06/2025 13:07

I agree with @mumda and @starfishmummy - consider getting some CCTV / Ring doorbell to cover your drive / fence to ensure no damage occurs.

"The fence is one of those low ones it’s not a 6ft fence but enough to stop them opening doors on my driveway and to stop their kids playing on it."
I'd also consider a higher fence. Balls could still 'stray'.

Usually, the rules are, no fences above 6 foot to a front garden. Where i live anyway.

llizzie · 12/06/2025 18:32

Swiftie1878 · 12/06/2025 08:21

No, you are not BU.

I second that. My neighbour had a similar problem. When his wife had a car they wanted a wider drive and MIL who had a front room wouldn't let her park it under her window.

They dug up enough of my garden when I wasn't looking and laid concrete down in it. They also put concrete in the middle of the original drive so two cars could park.

They didn't like the three colour drive, so engaged the services of an Irish workforce to lay tarmac down. Now I had a flower bed by my front door with a statue of Our Lady, and the Irishman asked if we were Catholics. I said no. We got to talking and I explained that one of the strips of concrete was my garden and the neighbour wouldn't take it up.

Those Irish navvies then stopped work, 'sat down on the job' until the neighbour gave his permission to remove the concrete and put my garden back.

But for their kindness it would never have happened.

llizzie · 12/06/2025 18:34

Cel119 · 12/06/2025 16:48

Usually, the rules are, no fences above 6 foot to a front garden. Where i live anyway.

Edited

It is the law, apparently, not to exceed 3ft. It should be in the deeds if you own the property.

Doesn't mean you can make them though without going to court.

Cel119 · 12/06/2025 18:38

llizzie · 12/06/2025 18:34

It is the law, apparently, not to exceed 3ft. It should be in the deeds if you own the property.

Doesn't mean you can make them though without going to court.

I wasnt sure if it was just something my council had as I have seen 6 foot fences to front gardens in other towns. I think you can ask for permission for it in exceptional circumstances.

WhereYouLeftIt · 12/06/2025 18:42

Cel119 · 12/06/2025 16:48

Usually, the rules are, no fences above 6 foot to a front garden. Where i live anyway.

Edited

I live in Warwickshire and the fence between my front garden and the front gardens on either side are shoulder height to me so about 4 foot. No driveways.

Tollington · 12/06/2025 18:47

If they had controlled the children in the first place this wouldn’t have happened so it’s their own fault

Keyfob23 · 12/06/2025 18:49

The fence is installed on your own property, and it was put in place to resolve a series of concerns, trespassing, noise disruption, and property damage. You are within your rights to use your own land in a way that protects your privacy.

While it’s understandable your neighbour now finds it more difficult to park two cars (as they did previously), that arrangement depended on them encroaching onto your land. You’re not required to compromise your own parking space or property boundaries to accommodate their convenience.

As long as the fence is within your legal boundary and complies with any local planning or council regulations, you are fully within your rights to keep it as is.

Greenfitflop · 12/06/2025 18:50

Absolutely not.
If they had controlled their feral children it wouldn't have been necessary.
Get a video door bell up too, lest anything happens to your property.

I cannot stand people who can't/wont control their children.

EwwSprouts · 12/06/2025 18:57

No. The boundary is the boundary. Karma.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 12/06/2025 18:57

Gardenlaw.co.uk

I found this website and forum brilliant when I had a difficult neighbour. Best of luck, OP.

CAW112 · 12/06/2025 18:58

No, as long as it is definitely on your land and boundary and no issues listed for having a fence. Perhaps if they had controlled their children the fence wouldn’t be needed.

Glitchymn1 · 12/06/2025 19:00

Decline, it reduces your house value. CF’s.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/06/2025 19:00

nopineapplepizza · 12/06/2025 08:31

The fuck-arounders never like the find-out phase do they? 🤷‍♀️

This!!

Gettingbysomehow · 12/06/2025 19:02

Sod them. No reason why you should even be bothered to reply. They have brought this upon themselves.

fetchacloth · 12/06/2025 19:11

YANBU leave it as it is.
Maybe if your neighbours and their children had behaved better, there wouldn't have been a need for the fence.

Cel119 · 12/06/2025 19:11

Apologies, I meant from my original reply that I think it's the law that no fences above 3 foot, not 6, to front garden. But not sureif it's just my council as i have seen other towns with fences higher. I have even seen this in my own town.
However, I think if that is the case, you can get permission in exceptional circumstances.

myheadsjustmush · 12/06/2025 19:17

Good for you Op - you keep that fence and don't move it. Ever!

It's tough $h!t for your neighbours - they should have taught their kids to be more respectful of your property and privacy.

Now it is their turn to be inconvenienced......what a shame 😂

<<listens for the tiniest of violins playing>>

Drew79 · 12/06/2025 19:21

Prayingforananswer · 12/06/2025 08:22

Decline. We fit two cars in our garage by having one reverse in, so both cars used the same space in the middle for opening doors.

Do people put cars in their garages?? 😮

llizzie · 12/06/2025 19:27

Cel119 · 12/06/2025 18:38

I wasnt sure if it was just something my council had as I have seen 6 foot fences to front gardens in other towns. I think you can ask for permission for it in exceptional circumstances.

You can google it on dear new Ai will come up with the answer to everything.

I would copy and paste it on here, but there are posters who insult and humiliate anyone who does that. They think everything is fake, even if you quote the government's own site. It is all this talk of fake news and fake photos.

I was surprised about the rules for fences when I looked it up.

Cel119 · 12/06/2025 19:33

llizzie · 12/06/2025 19:27

You can google it on dear new Ai will come up with the answer to everything.

I would copy and paste it on here, but there are posters who insult and humiliate anyone who does that. They think everything is fake, even if you quote the government's own site. It is all this talk of fake news and fake photos.

I was surprised about the rules for fences when I looked it up.

Edited

AI got something wrong today when I asked it. So not always right.

I asked for a 6 foot fence panel(1 panel) to my front. They at first declined and said I would need planning permission. Then planning permission told the council that that is not necessary for a fence panel and it's just at their discretion on whether to allow permission for this. I didn't put it up in the end as I could see it causing a massive issue with neighbour that legally may mean I paid out for it to then be removed. I kept my hedge which can grow above 6 foot legally.

Laura95167 · 12/06/2025 19:36

Assuming fence is on your land. The car thing is his problem, a problem he wouldn't have if he controlled his children.

I wouldn't move it

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