Neighbour not happy with my fence?

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So basically after months of neighbours kids:

Playing-on my drive
Trespassing on my drive
Chucking footballs at my living room window.
Constantly standing by my living room window
Shouting and waking my toddlers up.

I finally got a fence installed on Monday which has solved all the issues.

But now my neighbour will apparently struggle to fit two cars on her drive as before the man and his partner would park close on the boundary and his door would open on my bit.
He has asked if I could move the fence further on my bit but it will impact my own ability to have 2 cars on my drive.

AIBU to decline this as it’s on my own drive?

they need to reverse in (or not, whatever they are doing now that leaves them unable to open the door)

and you do nothing

ETA: or think up an outrageous price for the small strip of land and offer to sell it to them?

Isn't it a sign of breathtaking arrogance that they instinctively expect OP to move her fence and give them some of her land, rather than very slightly inconvenience themselves by driving/reversing in for a simple solution to their problem?

Never mind the fact that they are clearly blissfully unaware of why OP felt forced into erecting a fence in the first place.

I would say no and use this ^ answer about boundary. I wouldn’t argue about: I’ve told you before/ you didn’t watch your kids/ you damaged my plans etc. It won’t get you anywhere.

The answer is no. And I would tell them the only reason you have done this is because of the actions of the neighbours kids (including his?) and parents not stopping them. I suggest if one reserves onto the drive and one goes in front first then the drivers doors will open in the middle not against your fence

I would go even further and say the OP doesn’t need a reason, it’s her property and she doesn’t need to give anyone who doesn’t own it any kind explanation. The less she says the better

for sure, but I wouldn't have waited - first time my flowers were trampled i'd have given them a bill and put the fence up. And any bleating about not being able to get out of their car would have had me asking if they want me to teach them how to reverse park (or whatever)

And probably i would have said something about it being their own fault for not containing their feral children.

Here they are, feeling the consequences of their inaction and trying to shift the inconvenience onto you. If they'd done what you asked there wouldn't have been a fence to inconvenience them. Instead, they were happy for their kids to inconvenience you. You legally stopped it. Boo hoo if that doesn't work for them.

I’m surprised you’re even asking. Of course you should decline.

I actually agree with this^ 100%,
but sometimes you need to have an extra answer and boundary one is good for this imo.

Tell them the fence is staying on your boundary. If they need room to open car doors, one needs to reverse on so both doors open in to the centre of the drive. That way they can both park close to the edge and maximise door space.

From a legal standpoint, it totally depends on the rights reserved and granted on the deeds. Is it a shared driveway? You need to look at the Title Register and associated documents, or your report on title from you conveyancer.

I’ve made a mental note of this sentence as it is brilliant!!

"you would like me to pay to move the fence - that was only erected because you allowed your children to damage my front garden - and leave me able to only park one car on my drive for you to be able to park two ? I'm sure you know my answer to that."

YANBU OP, the CF has had many chances to deal with their rude and intrusive children and to ensure they behave well. You are protecting your property and family. Keep that fence up!

They'll have to park one of their cars on the road then, won't they? Not your problem.

Yep, this is what's known as killing the golden goose.

"But how would I be able to use that part of my drive if I moved the fence in front of it?"

They ruined it for themselves. Well done to you for installing a fence!

He appears to have completely misunderstood the purpose of a fence, which amongst other things, is to mark a boundary.
From what you say he has a problem with other boundaries, but there is absolutely no reason for you to move your fence. He might even be able to make a claim on your land in years to come if you choose to indulge him.

Nope and good for you!

The clue is in the name - boundary fence. Its a fence marking where your property ends and theirs begins. you cant just move a boundary. absolutely 100% no on this. if you move it then they can at a later date put in a claim for the land. just stand your ground and stop engaging with them. No - its a full sentance remember.

That. Exactly!!

Its a shame you can't say hell no, Say no , it's a shame they didn't listen about their kids because you wouldn't have had to put a fence up if they had.

But best to bite your tongue and just say no, you need all your land for yourself.

Keep the other bit in reserve in case they argue with you.

Me too 👌

This is so simple in my eyes.
You had a right to firstly ask they respect the boundary & keep their kids in their own garden. Sadly, for whatever reason this wasn’t possible for them.

You were forced to find your own solution, and at a cost to you. Unfortunately, this makes it difficult for them to get their cars on the drive.

They have a right to ask you to consider making adjustments to accommodate them.

You have the right to politely decline.

Actions have consequences. They could’ve been neighbourly, and I’m sure you would’ve reciprocated. You’re giving the energy you received. Power to you.