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Tom Felton getting stick. Is this really the world we live in now?

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User012389 · 10/06/2025 10:26

Whatever your stance is on trans issues do people really have nothing better to do than verbally slaughter him for choosing to continue within the franchise and being honest that he has no strong opinions on the matter? He's a big boy now and I'm sure he can handle himself but it makes me terrified for the young actors who are also already being subjected to this as well.

I myself was also pretty much forced to remove a post on a facebook group congratulating one of the young actors on being cast in the TV series as some of the vitriol I received completely overpowered the positive intention of the post. I said nothing inflammatory just pointed out that not everyone disagrees with JK's opinions and that we need to be accepting of opinions which are different to our own.

I'd understand the backlash if JK or so called TERFS were spreading genuine hate or encouraging persecution of a group but I just don't see that. IMO whatever your views on gender identity are there's way more horrible and important things going on in the world. Is a lot of trans-activisim really just a way for young people to express their very valid dissatisfaction with the world in general in a reasonably safe way? Honestly maybe I'm getting old and boring but I just don't get it.

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MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 10/06/2025 17:13

He wouldn't repeat the doctrine, or denounce the chief witch, the absolute bastard, and during the holy month as well!! 😱 Burn the heretic!!

Just kidding, he's a bloke so they'll get bored soon enough, they'll be a woman they need to hound along shortly I'm sure.

You could see the look on his face answering that though, like "I will be tactfully side stepping around that crazy train thank you very much, so do not push me further into it's path"

It would have been the easiest thing in the world to chuck JKR under the bus like so many have, and the TRAs are so used to hearing platitudes off celebs they come to expect it. Always a shock when someone won't pander to the brats. Good man that he didn't.

Hotflushesandchilblains · 10/06/2025 17:14

Whatever you think, having an opinion is your right and no one should take away from it. Personally I am troubled by some of the language and messages on both sides of the debate and can see why someone would want to opt out of having any opinion. At the end of the day, he is an actor in a franchise which is enjoyed by millions. Giving him stick for belonging to that is really out of line.

Petitchat · 10/06/2025 17:15

LittleAlexHornesPocket · 10/06/2025 11:02

Oooh I wasn't aware Mumsnet had "thread police" now.

How do I get such a prestigious role please? Do you need any qualifications?

Your sarcasm is brilliant. Wish I'd beaten you to it 😁 👍

Petitchat · 10/06/2025 17:22

The more aggressive, dictatorial and bullying they are, the more we will NEVER EVER want them in our toilets etc.

They're not very bright if they can't see that they're making their own case worse.....

soupycustard · 10/06/2025 17:27

Merrymouse · 10/06/2025 15:16

So my family member tried to kill themselves after a series of bullying occurrences last year, before trans rights were even rolled back by JK Rowlings funding. It was me who found them and had to try to save them. Its a horrifying experience that i will never get over.

I am very sorry that this happened to your family member.

Perhaps you and they would be helped if you understood the law a bit better.

JK Rowling has not changed the law.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'cis', but women can only defend their rights if they can be defined in law. Women need abortions because of their sex, not their gender identity or their level of femininity. That is why the Supreme Court decided as it did - not because of a campaign against trans people, but because it has to deal in logic and the reality of the material world.

Your family member remains protected by the protected characteristic of gender reassignment.

This very clear outline of the facts is worth repeating. A law has to use words that can be defined. A law to protect women therefore has to be clear as to what a woman is. The only possible answer is that it is defined by biological sex.

Helleofabore · 10/06/2025 17:35

For those who wonder just how long women have been accused of being to polarised in their view and not 'moderate' enough, I was recently looking at an old MN thread from 2014, and I found a link to this blog.

https://feministsunknown.wordpress.com/2014/06/16/on-becoming-a-terf/

Nearly 9 years to the day, and I am sure that many women will be able to read that and nod along, even now.

And you know what, it doesn't fucking matter if feminists don't speak for 'every' woman. If they speak for the ones who feel they cannot speak at all, isn't that what feminists are supposed to do.

Isn't the discussion about the needs of female people making sure that the those who really need single sex provisions are the ones who DO get prioritised? That just because a woman has the privilege to dismiss those single sex provisions, including those of opportunities, representation and sports, not just single sex spaces, that those who need them are centred.

This fallacy of 'you don't speak for me' is just that. A fallacy. Because of course, feminist campaigns are not supported by every female person. They never were. But to dismiss feminist voices as manipulated and polarising, that shows some pretty significant lack of thinking and prejudice.

On becoming a TERF

You’re not quite sure when it started. It was a creeping hysteria, progressing inch by inch, breaking down the boundaries word by word and phrase by phrase. When the ground is being pulled fr…

https://feministsunknown.wordpress.com/2014/06/16/on-becoming-a-terf/

SidewaysOtter · 10/06/2025 17:40

@Helleofabore Wow, I hadn't realised this had all been going on quite that long.

(And even longer than 9 years unless it's 2023 where you are Wink )

Swirlythingy2025 · 10/06/2025 17:41

god help us when humanity has to explain its history to aliens in the galaxies and milky way etc

Joleyne · 10/06/2025 17:45

I have never understood why this debate turned into a Left and Right issue. It really isn't that simple.

Some Left wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology; some do not. The Communist Party is gender critical.
Some Right wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology some do not. One of the founder members of Press for Change is a Conservative and there are TRAs in all the main parties. The first trans (only!) MP in the UK was a Conservative and that party, under Theresa May, was as firmly TWAW as you could wish to see.

Helleofabore · 10/06/2025 17:46

SidewaysOtter · 10/06/2025 17:40

@Helleofabore Wow, I hadn't realised this had all been going on quite that long.

(And even longer than 9 years unless it's 2023 where you are Wink )

oh... yeah. you are spot on. Thank you!

Some times I feel trapped in 2023, and prior to some of the court cases.

But yes, I believe that lesbian feminists were discussing this at least around the time of the GRA. 2004.

It makes a fucking mockery of the 'if you just were more moderate the whole thing will have been sorted'.

Firealarm1414 · 10/06/2025 17:47

Meanwhile, you have actors clamoring to star in Woody Allen and Roman Polanski films and not a word is said. Strange that

Helleofabore · 10/06/2025 17:48

Joleyne · 10/06/2025 17:45

I have never understood why this debate turned into a Left and Right issue. It really isn't that simple.

Some Left wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology; some do not. The Communist Party is gender critical.
Some Right wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology some do not. One of the founder members of Press for Change is a Conservative and there are TRAs in all the main parties. The first trans (only!) MP in the UK was a Conservative and that party, under Theresa May, was as firmly TWAW as you could wish to see.

You are quite right. It is a universal issue.

It covers the spectrum of political belief.

TooBigForMyBoots · 10/06/2025 17:56

Joleyne · 10/06/2025 17:45

I have never understood why this debate turned into a Left and Right issue. It really isn't that simple.

Some Left wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology; some do not. The Communist Party is gender critical.
Some Right wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology some do not. One of the founder members of Press for Change is a Conservative and there are TRAs in all the main parties. The first trans (only!) MP in the UK was a Conservative and that party, under Theresa May, was as firmly TWAW as you could wish to see.

Well said.

I'll add that not everyone who knows TWAM is talented, a feminist or beneficial to women.

DancingDangerously · 10/06/2025 18:00

It's been a discussion on MN for many years, and rightly so.

It's definitely not a right vs. left thing, nor is it male vs. female (except of course, for very important issues relating to sex and protections).

TheKeatingFive · 10/06/2025 18:03

Petitchat · 10/06/2025 17:22

The more aggressive, dictatorial and bullying they are, the more we will NEVER EVER want them in our toilets etc.

They're not very bright if they can't see that they're making their own case worse.....

It was never about winning hearts and minds though.

It's about using fear and intimidation to get what they want.

BundleBoogie · 10/06/2025 18:19

Trans activists it’s have to bully people into capitulation - it’s all they’ve got.

There are no coherent arguments for changing the meaning of basic words, allowing men to use women’s spaces and participate in women’s sports and people can’t change sex so..

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 10/06/2025 18:38

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 10/06/2025 15:25

Very sensible approach. Some other actors could do with following his example, starting with David Tennant.

Who? Oh yeah, that fella who presented that game show that nobody watched and itv suspiciously quickly stopped plugging. Can't think anyone will be very interested in his drivel now, nor find him particularly credible assuming they ever did anyway.

Totallymessed · 10/06/2025 18:44

Joleyne · 10/06/2025 17:45

I have never understood why this debate turned into a Left and Right issue. It really isn't that simple.

Some Left wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology; some do not. The Communist Party is gender critical.
Some Right wingers are TRAs and believe in gender idiology some do not. One of the founder members of Press for Change is a Conservative and there are TRAs in all the main parties. The first trans (only!) MP in the UK was a Conservative and that party, under Theresa May, was as firmly TWAW as you could wish to see.

This is very true. There are people on all the parts of the political spectrum who are happy to destroy women's rights to placate the demands of a small number of deluded (mostly) men.

Helleofabore · 10/06/2025 18:49

"We could and should have found a reasonable way for both sides to feel okay about all this before it went mad and that would have stopped it all going mad."

You know, the more I think about this statement, the more incredulous I feel that someone actually believes this. The topic was well under discussion in the 2000s. On MN, there was push back from posters even as early as 2010 on feminists stating that no male person can ever change sex and that female people needed single sex provisions that excluded male people.

The censuring of women's voices has a very long history on this topic. And the 2019 Denton's report specifically stated as one of the strategies for achieving goals in government and NGOs stated 'Be wary of compromise'. page 21

www.trust.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/downloaded_file-69.pdf

To make such a statement above, really shows the level of misinformation that there is in the current on line discussions. I have seen since the Supreme Court judgement that there are extreme trans activists * declaring that women have only been raising the issue recently. Before that women were accepting of male people in spaces etc.

No fucking way. It was discussed before then. But from about 2015 Stonewall took on its role in representing transgender interests. It is when the 'no debate' really took hold.

In at least two court cases over the past 3 - 4 years, extreme transgender activists in roles of power of women (who may or may not have been people with transgender identities) said under oath in court that women are allowed to think anything they want. However, there is no possible way, in their mind for a woman to express the belief that no male person can be a female person. One of those people was part of the Dr Upton case just months ago, saying that there was no way that Sandie Peggie could say that Upton should not be using a female NHS changing room without being considered hateful and transphobic.

And yet, we are told that "We could and should have found a reasonable way for both sides to feel okay about all this before it went mad and that would have stopped it all going mad.". When women are still not even able to be able to say in their workplace that they need a single sex space to remain single sex.

There really is no symmetry between women who have been silenced for so long, who cannot even have a meeting to discuss these issues. Meetings have regularly either been cancelled because the venue has succumbed to pressure from extreme transgender activists, or drowned out by music or as in one instance people bashing on glass windows and scaring women with the violence of it all, or blocking entrance into the meet up, or protesting when inside to disrupt the meeting.

There really is no symmetry when lesbians are being banned or limited from campaigning or marching for their specific needs, as female people from LGBT+ events. Even in 2018, Munroe Bergdorf told women that they should not be centring female reproductive needs in a Women's March because it was exclusionary.

But apparently...

"We could and should have found a reasonable way for both sides to feel okay about all this before it went mad and that would have stopped it all going mad."

*Extreme trans activists are those who are demanding additional privileges for male people with transgender identities. And by 'additional privileges' I mean privileges that are not available to any other male person, such as being able to access not only male people's rights and provisions, but also female rights and provisions. This sub group have different aims to the trans activists who are rightfully campaigning to be not discriminated against in their work place so that they don't get jobs, or housing etc.

Merrymouse · 10/06/2025 18:59

Helleofabore · 10/06/2025 18:49

"We could and should have found a reasonable way for both sides to feel okay about all this before it went mad and that would have stopped it all going mad."

You know, the more I think about this statement, the more incredulous I feel that someone actually believes this. The topic was well under discussion in the 2000s. On MN, there was push back from posters even as early as 2010 on feminists stating that no male person can ever change sex and that female people needed single sex provisions that excluded male people.

The censuring of women's voices has a very long history on this topic. And the 2019 Denton's report specifically stated as one of the strategies for achieving goals in government and NGOs stated 'Be wary of compromise'. page 21

www.trust.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/downloaded_file-69.pdf

To make such a statement above, really shows the level of misinformation that there is in the current on line discussions. I have seen since the Supreme Court judgement that there are extreme trans activists * declaring that women have only been raising the issue recently. Before that women were accepting of male people in spaces etc.

No fucking way. It was discussed before then. But from about 2015 Stonewall took on its role in representing transgender interests. It is when the 'no debate' really took hold.

In at least two court cases over the past 3 - 4 years, extreme transgender activists in roles of power of women (who may or may not have been people with transgender identities) said under oath in court that women are allowed to think anything they want. However, there is no possible way, in their mind for a woman to express the belief that no male person can be a female person. One of those people was part of the Dr Upton case just months ago, saying that there was no way that Sandie Peggie could say that Upton should not be using a female NHS changing room without being considered hateful and transphobic.

And yet, we are told that "We could and should have found a reasonable way for both sides to feel okay about all this before it went mad and that would have stopped it all going mad.". When women are still not even able to be able to say in their workplace that they need a single sex space to remain single sex.

There really is no symmetry between women who have been silenced for so long, who cannot even have a meeting to discuss these issues. Meetings have regularly either been cancelled because the venue has succumbed to pressure from extreme transgender activists, or drowned out by music or as in one instance people bashing on glass windows and scaring women with the violence of it all, or blocking entrance into the meet up, or protesting when inside to disrupt the meeting.

There really is no symmetry when lesbians are being banned or limited from campaigning or marching for their specific needs, as female people from LGBT+ events. Even in 2018, Munroe Bergdorf told women that they should not be centring female reproductive needs in a Women's March because it was exclusionary.

But apparently...

"We could and should have found a reasonable way for both sides to feel okay about all this before it went mad and that would have stopped it all going mad."

*Extreme trans activists are those who are demanding additional privileges for male people with transgender identities. And by 'additional privileges' I mean privileges that are not available to any other male person, such as being able to access not only male people's rights and provisions, but also female rights and provisions. This sub group have different aims to the trans activists who are rightfully campaigning to be not discriminated against in their work place so that they don't get jobs, or housing etc.

If only the ‘reasonable way’ had been revealed on this thread, but we will never know.

Helleofabore · 10/06/2025 19:04

Merrymouse · 10/06/2025 18:59

If only the ‘reasonable way’ had been revealed on this thread, but we will never know.

Yes. Usually the 'reasonable' way is third spaces where needed.

Which I believe feminists have been suggesting for going on two decades.

But... apparently, it would have all been sorted if only both sides had stopped it 'going mad' and been 'reasonable'. It really is telling granny how to suck eggs. It is completely fucking tone deaf.

Nanny0gg · 10/06/2025 19:07

bellinisurge · 10/06/2025 11:04

You should see what they are doing to bunny rescues. These clowns are taking a long time burning themselves out. But they will

Saw that

What's the problem?

Nanny0gg · 10/06/2025 19:14

They're coming after Riley Gaines (US swimmer) now

Simone Biles has had a huge go at her with added support for transwomen whilst failing to notice that men's gymnastics is very different to women's so it's not a problem she'll ever face

BundleBoogie · 10/06/2025 19:15

itsnotabouthepasta · 10/06/2025 11:54

honestly I just think if all these people put their efforts and energies into overcoming stereotypes, the whole thing goes away.

My daughter loves football, wrestling and dinosaurs. When she was 2 she was obsessed with Fireman Sam and trains. She's not comfortable wearing skirts or dresses, but she also loves playing with hair and barbies - we've never limited anything. She's not a boy. Never ever thought she was a boy or anything, but I do worry that someone with nefarious intent could try to say that because she likes "boy" things (and I mean that in the most stereotypical sense possible) that she is a boy.

If a boy likes pink and is comfortable in dresses or wants to play with dolls - go right ahead! But it doesn't mean your a girl - if we can break down those gender stereotypes I genuinely think people would be much happier.

Well done you you and your daughter. She sounds similar tone when was a kid. My favourite Christmas present was a football and I coveted one of the boys Big Traks.

Sadly, we had made huge progress breaking down sex based stereotypes in the 70s and 80s - the trans lobby has enforced them on steroids.

Hotflushesandchilblains · 10/06/2025 19:22

Sadly, we had made huge progress breaking down sex based stereotypes in the 70s and 80s - the trans lobby has enforced them on steroids.

I dont think it is just one group that did this, to be honest. I despair at how things have been swinging back from where they were. I remember in the 80s how babies were dressed in neutral colours. 10 years later, trying to find anything not pink or blue was impossible.