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MiloMinderbinder925 · 06/06/2025 17:31

MonTuesWeds · 06/06/2025 17:30

Do I get to opt out of serving militant trans rights activists?

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Do whatever you like.

harriethoyle · 06/06/2025 17:31

MiloMinderbinder925 · 06/06/2025 17:27

What's Tony Robinson done?

Digging everywhere, making holes, scattering old pots hither and thither. Drat the man! Burn him! 🤣

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neverbeenskiing · 06/06/2025 17:32

MonTuesWeds · 06/06/2025 17:30

Do I get to opt out of serving militant trans rights activists?

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If you own the business then yes, you can choose your customers as you wish.

Lolapusht · 06/06/2025 17:32

KurtShirty · 06/06/2025 17:27

I guess this is why we have protected characteristics? To give us a line.

Protected characteristics don’t give us a line and they only work in the context of discrimination. They offer legal protection against discrimination. Your argument suggests that if you don’t have a protected characteristic then there is no line and anything can be done to you.

It’s also more nuanced than bringing in discrimination legislation. There are plenty of situations prior to reaching actual discrimination where a similar thing may happen. That’s the bit that doesn’t sit right with me.

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 06/06/2025 17:32

MiloMinderbinder925 · 06/06/2025 17:27

What's Tony Robinson done?

@MiloMinderbinder925 He had a cunning plan

MonTuesWeds · 06/06/2025 17:32

lnks · 06/06/2025 17:30

Just to add, freedom of speech is one of the most crucial parts of a democracy. If you really believe in these principles, you have to accept that you will hear views that you find offensive.

This is the UK in 2025, freedom of speech as a pillar of democracy is an ancient memory, and most people are quite happy with that. While they feel they hold the power of course, wait until reform win an election and see them change their minds.

Ponoka7 · 06/06/2025 17:32

Jujujudo · 06/06/2025 16:55

Freedom of speech and all…. But I suppose if we live in a world where Jews are denied access into certain places based on them being Jewish, then this sort of thing will also just become acceptable.

But do we live on a country were that happens? I despise SYL but, it could have easily have been JK Rowling based on how trans people are treated globally.
If what he has said is within the law, then he shouldn't be denied service.

MrsMitford3 · 06/06/2025 17:33

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 06/06/2025 17:32

@MiloMinderbinder925 He had a cunning plan

this is why I wish we still had the laughing emoji 😂

ChessorBuckaroo · 06/06/2025 17:34

It's a private business. If they don't want to serve a white nationalist that is their right.

To force a private business to serve someone is dictatorial.

neverbeenskiing · 06/06/2025 17:34

lnks · 06/06/2025 17:30

Just to add, freedom of speech is one of the most crucial parts of a democracy. If you really believe in these principles, you have to accept that you will hear views that you find offensive.

Freedom of speech does not mean freedom from the consequnces of that speech. If TR has a right to express his disgusting views publicly, then people (and businesses) have a right to decide they don't want to associate with someone who holds those views.

Echobelly · 06/06/2025 17:34

Jujujudo · 06/06/2025 16:55

Freedom of speech and all…. But I suppose if we live in a world where Jews are denied access into certain places based on them being Jewish, then this sort of thing will also just become acceptable.

I'm Jewish, where are we not being allowed access into and what has it got to do with this? 🤔I don't particularly want to see being Jewish being aligned with being Tommy Robinson thank you very much.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 06/06/2025 17:35

harriethoyle · 06/06/2025 17:31

Digging everywhere, making holes, scattering old pots hither and thither. Drat the man! Burn him! 🤣

He is a bit of a nuisance.

Lanzarotelady · 06/06/2025 17:35

neverbeenskiing · 06/06/2025 17:32

If you own the business then yes, you can choose your customers as you wish.

But the staff there don't own the business do they, they will be employees.

I bet half of them didn't even know who he was until they were informed and then they became offended.

Here's the thing, you are employed to do a job, if that job offends you, or puts you into meltdown, or triggers you, then maybe waiting on isn't the job for you!

BeachPebbleWave · 06/06/2025 17:35

Lolapusht · 06/06/2025 17:26

Where’s the line, though?

Tony Robinson?
Posie Parker?
Nigel Farage?
Kemi Badenoch?
Peter Tatchell?
Jews?
Muslims?

He’s the only dangerous convicted criminal on your list with more proceedings pending (in court yesterday charged with harassment to cause fear of violence against two journalists)

The last two are protected characteristics.

JamieCannister · 06/06/2025 17:37

If you support freedom of speech and expression almost absolutely, then this is horrific.

If you support the idea that anyone can refuse to serve whoever they like for their beliefs or any other reason then this is great, but you might end up not getting served because you are a tory or you have a tattoo.

If you support the current law, then whether this is good or bad depends on whether you think TRs beliefs are worthy of respect in a democratic society, and given how many people share, and given they do not directly impinge on the rights of others, them I am sure they are. In which case the restaurant broke the law

GingerBeverage · 06/06/2025 17:38

BeachPebbleWave · 06/06/2025 17:35

He’s the only dangerous convicted criminal on your list with more proceedings pending (in court yesterday charged with harassment to cause fear of violence against two journalists)

The last two are protected characteristics.

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OK but Nelson Mandela went to prison.

neverbeenskiing · 06/06/2025 17:38

Ponoka7 · 06/06/2025 17:32

But do we live on a country were that happens? I despise SYL but, it could have easily have been JK Rowling based on how trans people are treated globally.
If what he has said is within the law, then he shouldn't be denied service.

It's not up to you to say he "shouldn't be denied service", it's up to the individual business owner to decide who they will and will not sell their product to.

Also can we not have just one thread that isn't about JKR and trans people!

JamieCannister · 06/06/2025 17:38

BeachPebbleWave · 06/06/2025 17:35

He’s the only dangerous convicted criminal on your list with more proceedings pending (in court yesterday charged with harassment to cause fear of violence against two journalists)

The last two are protected characteristics.

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Posie's beliefs are protected, as is her sex and sexual orietnation - she cannot be kicked out for being a woman, being right on women's rights, or for being straight.

DontTouchRoach · 06/06/2025 17:39

user101101 · 06/06/2025 16:53

Did he harass someone in the restaurant? Why was he thrown out? If it’s just due to his views then I think this is wrong. What if everyone decided to not serve Christians or something

I certainly wouldn't serve a Christian who was a convicted football hooligan, espoused racist views, incited violence and whose criminal record included kicking a police officer in the head because he intervened in a domestic abuse incident.

Establishments can and do bar people for their behaviour, public image or even their choice of clothing all the time. If a nightclub can throw you out for wearing trainers, I'm pretty sure a restaurant can throw you out for being a total cunt.

TattiePants · 06/06/2025 17:39

user101101 · 06/06/2025 16:53

Did he harass someone in the restaurant? Why was he thrown out? If it’s just due to his views then I think this is wrong. What if everyone decided to not serve Christians or something

Being Tommy Robinson isn't a protected characteristic.

Fimofriend · 06/06/2025 17:39

Septembiosis · 06/06/2025 17:18

Unpopular opinion (apparently), but I think that if your job is to serve food in a restaurant, you should do just that, regardless of what you think about the people at the table (obviously assuming they're not being rude or threatening). You don't have to be your customer's friend, but you should do your job, like anyone else has to do.

But he is known for being violent and for having a hair trigger. Can you not understand that they were afraid?

JamieCannister · 06/06/2025 17:39

neverbeenskiing · 06/06/2025 17:38

It's not up to you to say he "shouldn't be denied service", it's up to the individual business owner to decide who they will and will not sell their product to.

Also can we not have just one thread that isn't about JKR and trans people!

Many of us only know about the law on protected beliefs due to the women's rights / LGB rights issue.

cocoromo · 06/06/2025 17:40

user101101 · 06/06/2025 16:53

Did he harass someone in the restaurant? Why was he thrown out? If it’s just due to his views then I think this is wrong. What if everyone decided to not serve Christians or something

Totally agree.

harriethoyle · 06/06/2025 17:40

@neverbeenskiing you talk a lot of sense and I entirely agree - on both of your recent posts!

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AgnesX · 06/06/2025 17:41

I think as long as he and his dinner companions are quietly minding their own business they should be allowed to eat their dinner in peace. The minute that doesn't happen they should then be asked to leave.

I'd also be making a mental note not to visit that particular shop (easily done).

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