to think it is polite to ask first?

[Brownthosebrownonionsbrown]

Fuming

BF (few months relationship) invited me over to his for a meal, home made thai curry, so far so good. He plated it up in the kitchen and brought the food to me with all of the curry and sauce on top of the rice, when I like to have them side by side and have some clean rice as a palate cleanser.

Its just good manners and basic rice etiquette to ask first. I cannot believe I was dating such a neanderthal. He even tried to gas light me, saying that it doesn't make any difference and basically trying to invalidate my feelings and lived experience.

Eugh men

One reads so much batshit stuff on MN it really is hard to distinguish the jokey posts from the simply barmy!

And you're still with him?

Definitely LTB

Jokes aside, IMO unless it’s for close family, when you know much they like, plating up should be banned anyway. How can anyone know exactly how much someone else would like?

(I dare say I’m influenced by gruesome memories of a SiL giving me a huge plated-up helping of couscous and very fatty lamb. 🤮)

OP, I'm sorry you had to experience this, it's simply unacceptable & I'd question the relationship going forward.

Fwiw, a good quality chardonnay makes a good pallete cleanser....

And a mallet can come in handy for BF cleansing. 👀

He is depraved and you should bin him out immediately. Didn't you know about his weird culinary habits when you married him? Does he also prefer cheddar to parmesan on his spag bol? No wonder the world's going to hell in a handcart 😁

Agree - see also, pouring gravy over the whole dish if it's a roast. I decide where I want gravy.

Log it with 101.

Only reading OP to know this is not funny what so ever.
If this was true and I doubt it, I feel sorry for her fella.
Bridge is that way love.

No self-respecting Neanderthal would eat rice with a curry. Foraged wild grains or nothing.

It depends.

Was there any clean rice at all? Could you not scoop/manoeuvre underlying rice from below? If not, I think you have bigger problems i.e. the rice/sauce ratio was all wrong.

You need help

Long as he knows for next time. Once is excusable 😂

Sorry, must have lost my sense of humour, what's funny about it ?🤔

I’m not kidding, I have seriously thought about buying one of these, but maybe prison size?

He needs to leave…

If it was the other way around there would be hell on.

Is this a joke?

I'm with you OP. No foods should ever touch. I almost faint when I see spaghetti and sauce. Don't get me started on macaroni cheese!

It's the same for weetabix. I eat three dry biscuits first then use diffusion to suck the milk from a separate glass into my dehydrated mouth.

I also eat the sugar, tea and milk in a strict order. The milk is the starter then the tea and the sugar is the pudding part.

I don’t mean to be mean….. but you sound hard work.

He invited you into his home, cooked you a lovely meal and you ate morning about how it was served (do you have some odd food disorder were foods can not touch)?

I haven’t read the rest of the thread but if he’s dumped you - he’s dodged a massive bullet.

In a curry? She not a fucking animal.

She’s a lady.

Hasn’t he got any of those silver bowl things they have at the Indian? Christmas is coming OP, treat him!

Spot on.

It would genuinely brighten my day so much if this was real 😂

Jeez, it's just a light aside not the headline act on Live At The Apollo.

Fuck me is this serious? 😂

YABU and sound incredibly spoilt and rude. Your fella should dump you.

When you dine out, do you swan into the kitchen in restaurants to dictate to the chefs about how they plate up your meals? Because if you do, I hope they give you the old Gordon Ramsey style “fuck off”

If DP does this I scape it onto his plate. And give him a hard stare.

My body is a moderately well-run church methodist church youth club; not a food waste bin (to paraphrase Emo Phillips).