to think it is polite to ask first?

[Brownthosebrownonionsbrown]

Fuming

BF (few months relationship) invited me over to his for a meal, home made thai curry, so far so good. He plated it up in the kitchen and brought the food to me with all of the curry and sauce on top of the rice, when I like to have them side by side and have some clean rice as a palate cleanser.

Its just good manners and basic rice etiquette to ask first. I cannot believe I was dating such a neanderthal. He even tried to gas light me, saying that it doesn't make any difference and basically trying to invalidate my feelings and lived experience.

Eugh men

It’s a perfectly usual way to serve curry with rice if you’re not helping yourself from a collective bowl, not something someone would usually have to ask about. If you have specific preferences in terms of how your food is served, it’s up to you to specify first.

ETA. Sorry, misread your tone! You’re joking. 😀 And I like the expression ‘rice Neanderthal.’

Oh it's supposed to be a bloody badly written joke. 🙄

Some people ask, others plate up and serve the meal. I've never heard of rice etiquette and I'm in my 40s. He may have become defensive because he thought he was doing something nice for you?

This has to be a tongue in cheek post surely?

I think OP is being slightly tongue in cheek, you can lower the pitchforks.

Ha ha, I wouldn't like this post to have been a GCSE reading comprehension question. I would have failed

LTB

Maybe next time take round your own plastic toddler plate with the separate section bits?

The world is so fucked it's difficult to distinguish between real and jokes.

It's not out of the realms of possibility that this be true.

But I'm going to assume you're joking. To what end, I'm not sure.

Get out now, you can't be in the presence of a man without a chaperone

Duplicate post

I hope he throws you back

Don't worry he'll dump you for your craziness or poor sense of humour - not sure which!

Surely this is a rage baiting post? Otherwise you’re an entitled ungrateful person.

Review his restaurant on TripAdvisor.

Not sure if you are trolling or just outright obnoxious.
I will give you the benefit of the doubt and congratulate you for the elaborated bait. Surely nobody is so insufferable in real life.

🥱

Some people have got too much time on their hands

😂I assume.

What an absolute prick. Jesus, you’re SO not being unreasonable.

I would have thrown it into his face and kicked his cat on the way out. Arsehole. Him and his cat.

Ewwww, dry rice, I'm afraid you are the neanderthal here op, 😂

'trying to invalidate my feelings and lived experience.'

If this is real you need help.

I appreciate you're being tongue in cheek OP but I genuinely hate when people do this (like you I know it's a ME issue), so you have my full sympathy!!! 😀

But then the bored and indignant won't have a pile on to entertain them this morning.

Top marks for shoe horning "lived experience" in there and I do appreciate the new term rice etiquette .

I'm with you, side by side rice and curry. Educate or throw him back it's savage behaviour. 😄

And you wrote a post becuase you are fuming someone lovingly cooked you a meal and put the curry on top of the rice😂
Have a word with yourself and think about why you might be single. Maybe you are better off being single if you have such uncompromising standards.
In relationahips you have to compromise and do some things in the way your partner might like to do them, as do they. It's about learning to form a partnership, not railroading your exacting standards over another person.