Grown man at cinema on his own

[Littlebluecreature]

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

Like I said earlier - he could have been an animator or in VFX / may have worked on film/ missed final screening or wanting to see how it looked. It’s very common.

Indeed. That poster also wins a prize for shoe-horning trans into a thread where it had no relevance whatsoever.

I know who's odd and it isn't the guy in the cinema.

This has really upset me. A lot of people, myself included, have to do things by themselves, if we didn’t we wouldn’t do anything at all! The man might just have wanted to see the film or he might just have wanted to get out of the house but I don’t suppose that would have occurred to you!

I'm autistic, so my behaviour is sometimes considered to be a bit odd. Useful to know that would make people like you "guarded". Can I ask what the obvious reasons are though?

It is called an analogy. Look it up. I never said he was identifying as a woman.

I work in Animation storyboarding and keep up to date with the latest animated films as well as live action ones. On a rainy Saturday afternoon, I quite often go to the Cinema alone and not once have I thought anyone would consider it odd or thought I would be judged.

He's only being judged because he's male. And that's grim.

He'd probably have liked to go last week but knew that people would think the worst of him being in a cinema full of kids at half term. I'm so glad to be female and not under constant suspicion.

It wasn't an analogy, it was bring something completely irrelevant into the thread in lieu of having any actual point.

As others have said, defending men is not something I make a habit of but for fuck sake. An adult man (or woman) going to see a film by himself is not and will never be deserving of any suspicion.

So what if it's a kids film? Unless we are talking paw patrol levels of shit, most kids films will appeal to adults as well because, y'know, normally adults have to take their kids to see them. Some of the best films ever made are classed as "kids" or "family" films, do you think that no adult should be allowed to watch them without an accompanying child?

Not harming anyone.
Maybe he has one of those monthly passes and makes most of it.
Maybe a friend let him down
Maybe he's a loner and wants to be alone.
Many reasons.

The anti-trans people here are very angry. All of the time. It's exhausting to be so angry and care so much about something that doesn't affect them, so it's easy to see why they can't help themselves.

I don't think there's anything wrong with people being curious, wondering silently to themselves and maybe being a bit mindful and cautious of others in situations that don't sit right with them

I often walk my dog where I see kids with hoodies smoking. I am not judging them as bad kids. They may be lovely. But equally, I do form judgements about why they might be where they are, and keep my wits about me, just in case.

It's ok and actually quite sensible to be careful and to wonder about people.

I'd be a little cautious of this man if I had my children with me. He may be, probably in fact, is lovely and all is fine and he's there for innocent reasons. But it's protective and human instinct to question to yourself, something that doesn't feel right... And an adult man watching a kids movie by himself is quite unusual so it's ok to feel a bit weird about it.

Please don’t say OP was on phone with its glaringly bright screen while the film was on!

If I was the man, I’d be judging YOU

It's a shit analogy.

Women's spaces are only for women (biological ones)

The cinema doesn't have an upper age limit for films. Therefore anyone can go and see a children's film. Unless you're letting your young children run around the cinema naked, or leaving them unattended, they aren't at risk from another person watching the film.

Maybe I move in different circles but I know several people who enjoy animated films, me included

Several adult people, to make it clear

Unless you're letting your young children run around the cinema naked, or leaving them unattended, they aren't at risk from another person watching the film.

And if you're doing that, the man on his own in the cinema is not the problem.

Exactly!! I said this earlier- twice!! 😅 - he may have been an animator/ worked on this film/ interested in its style/ looking at latest rendering techniques / who knows. Certainly lots of people who work in the industry go and view films for other reasons than simply the story. And often on their own - as they just go when they can fit it in around work.
(And for those who replied earlier saying it’s live action - it’s not really its supposed to look as real as possible - but it’s photorealistic CGI as opposed to traditional animation) x

The "must be a predator" people are very confusing. Of all the places for them to be planning nefarious things, going to a cinema where anyone moving around/talking is going to be very noticeable makes perfect sense(!)

My dad has one of the cinema passes and sometimes he will just go to get out the house. Don’t think he’d watch Lilo and Stitch alone to be honest because he’s too old for the nostalgia of that, but if a remake of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang came out or something like that he would probably go if it was convenient. When I was at uni I had a cinema pass and I would go and see anything, from live operas to the Sonic movies.

yabu girl, but I think you know

god i hate to have to defend a man

Really? Do you know men that would enjoy going to watch a kids movie?

I don't know any adult men that I can think of who would enjoy going to watch a kids movie at the cinema on their own.

I have however, met several child sex offenders of the years who have enjoyed such things, as well as sitting in playparks by themself and going to places like trampoline parks on their own.

It is possibly just my social circle and my work history that has formed my opinion! But I'm surprised at how many posters seem to think that adult men going to watch kids movies is normal and they have friends that do it :)

I know of some men that wear cartoon ties and socks so maybe?

The sex offenders that I can think of, that might have visited the cinema to watch lilo and stitch, would have been going to take advantage of the dark environment where they could busy themselves while watching the movie and kids enjoying it.

I'm aware most men aren't like this. But I've never met an adult man who I am aware of that has been to watch kids movies by himself for any reason other than an inappropriate one.

As I said though, my work history has skewed my opinion and so has my lack of friendships with men who would enjoy these things.

Indeed!