Grown man at cinema on his own

[Littlebluecreature]

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

What in the world has this got to do with trans issues for or against? This man was not identifying as a woman.

The only point of relevance that I can see, is that people are probably more likely to think they must really be of the opposite gender, if anything that they do that isn't absolutely conventional for their sex role is promptly 'called out' as 'weird'.

Yep. I'm really pleased to see the vast majority of posts supporting him.

For all the benefits of being make, this is a huge downside. A lone middle aged man, whether going for a walk in the woods, or going to the cinema on his own, has to worry about seeming 'odd' (or worse) whereas I can have my daily evening walk in the woods and go to the cinema to watch a family film on my own, without having to worry what people might think.

Maybe log a call with 101, just in case. I mean, according to people on this very site, there is a paedophile on literally every street. In fact, that's a conservative estimate. Make that five on every street. Better be overvigiliant than too trusting.
(biggest /s in the universe. Just in case that wasn't clear!)

You shouldn't be on your phone in the cinema.

What absolute, irrelevant bollocks.

I saw a man who I assumed to be at the cinema alone when I went with the kids at Easter to watch Minecraft. I freely admit I did wonder why but it didn't bother me enough to ask others about it. As it turned out he was actually with some kids but sat further away, I'm assuming a grandparent tasked with supervising from afar.

I think it's fine to wonder about everything in life and everybody can be judgemental but as long as it's not hurting anybody then let them be.

Someone has to try and be sane

Like not trying to make out a man is a weirdo for watching a film alone and not calling women names because they don't agree with you

YABU

There's loads of kids films I enjoy watching.... I have DC so can use them as an excuse to go and watch.... I wouldn't be brave enough to go on my own because of judgy people like you 😅

Shocking, I know. 😂 I think a local byelaw’s being drawn up - nobody to walk round here without a spouse or a pet. I’ll have to get a lead for the cat.

It's odd you noticing him and then posting about it.

Why shouldn't an adult go to the movies alone? As you say yourself it's aimed at a younger audience, but refers to a cartoon from 20 years ago. So he could be an old school fan. But maybe none of his mates are and so he went by himself.

If it was a group of ten 40 yo men would that seem more or less weird?

Anyway just watch the screen. Imagine if he posted on a forum saying he though you or your family looked out of place or peculiar while enjoying a film?!

YABU! I think it’s sweet. Maybe he has special needs/ autism and likes cartoony films (my son does), maybe he doesn’t and just wanted to watch the film, so what? I could happily sit and watch a child’s film on my own. He isn’t harming anyone, stop being so judgmental and mean.

What's the problem? I always go to the cinema on my own.
OK, so it's a kids film, but he's allowed to watch that. This is a non issue.

I've seen MNers call posters "cool girls" and "pick me's" for saying that it's wrong to lie to your partner about being on the pill. Pretty sure that takes the cake!

Same here.

I used to go to the cinema on my own when I was a student. Now that I'm a crone, I do the same.

Well, you can if you're female. But if you're a male you are not allowed to leave the house without a wife, child or pet in tow to prove you are an upstanding member of society and not a weirdo. Because what possible reason would a man have for wanting to go out ALONE apart from being a predator?!

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Christ - i go to the cinema myself op - stop being so bladdy mean.

Oh shit I've missed that

That might just be worse ye!

I'll go against the grain and say I do find it odd.

Lilo and stitch isn't really an adults film. He may have a learning disability and being innocently enjoying it. Of course.

However, as someone that has worked professionally with men with child sex offence histories, seeing a lone male (assuming he has no additional needs) watching a kids movie by himself would make me question his motives.

Would your husbands or boyfriends enjoy watching lilo and stitch on their own? I doubt it.

I’m 36 and went to see the recent Snow White on my own, hope no one made a mumsnet post about that! Or is it just men who aren’t allowed?

This! Given the awfulness some of them are putting out there on a daily business, I think a man going to cinema alone is not the fight I want to have.

I have a monthly cinema pass and often go alone. I don't see lots of kids' films when I do, so I can't honestly say how unusual this is for that particular situation, but I do see a lot of people, women and men, there to see a film by themselves. If that's not acceptable for men we're really heading into a difficult place. Dodgy behaviour shouldn't be brushed over but we're way away from that at this point! Let the man watch his chosen film and leave him in peace.

Or he may have no learning disability and still enjoy it! I have a high IQ and I still love Looney Tunes and all kinds of things which are supposedly 'for kids'. To extrapolate that he is a paedophile from him watching a 'kids' film in a cinema is a new low even for this site.

It makes me so sad for my sons that men can’t live their lives in peace without being judged as a threat.

He didn't plan it very well then waiting until after half term.

My DH doesn't like Disney but plenty of adults do, males included.

When I had a pass I saw everything cinema was just round the corner and it was an excuse to be out from a really tedious flat share where people hogged the kitchen and loaned about washing up so I’d hide out in the cinema for £10 a month. Unless he’s trying to engage with children I’d just leave him alone tbh.

I do think it's sad, and of course this man is entitled to go to the cinema on his own.

However, not very many adults like watching kids movies. Given our particular culture, men especially are unlikely to go to the cinema on their own to watch a kids movie. It's just how it is. While our culture remains thus, I think it's ok to question to yourself someone's motives. We all form judgements all the time and in this case, i think it is (sadly) ok to be wary and to wonder

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