AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

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So I work and DH is retired. We have a dog. I work 4 days a week . On the days I work DH walks the dog in the morning and I walk it in the evening. My days off we swap it around.
There is a group of dog walkers that meet in the morning. One man thinks its hilarious to ask if Ive enjoyed my sleep in/ lazy day/ sending DH out while I relax ect.
every single time I see him. 2 years of me just ignoring him / saying I work ect.
I work in a unit that deals with palliative care. Yesterday was a bloody hard day.
So this morning he said it must be nice to laze about on a Sunday and send DH out so I let him have it with both barrels - told him ( in rough terms) what my day consisted of. That I was up and out by 6am. Long drive. The realities of my job.
He was silent. Got home and his wife has watsapped to say Ive upset him !@@.
AIBU to think he deserves it.

......and Annoying Fucker has left the Watsapp group.

I think that if someone was pissing my husband off for 2 years by making a comment about being lazy, when I knew he was a palliative nurse at work 4 days a week…. I would have said something.

He knows what he is saying and he would only dare say that to a woman. This is bullying albeit low-key underhand bullying. Women put up with this kind of crap, in its many different forms, all their lives. They are taught to ‘be nice’ , not cause a fuss, take it as a joke, ignore it, put up with it. The minute a woman stands up for herself we have a bus load of other women sticking up for the poor helpless man who has ‘had his feelings hurt.’ Maybe, just maybe if people are called out for this passive aggressive bullshit directed at women then they will think twice about doing it to other women and slowly, very slowly men will realise how to behave properly.

Nope.

We don't have to pander to twats.

Just my view, ofc.

oh I’d love to attend tomorrow morning’s walk 😆

As an aside… HRT patches… game changer for dealing with rages!

Do you really think that this man is just trying to be polite and doesn't really know what to say? This man has driven another dog walker away by asking her every time he sees her if her sister in law is a lady-boy because she is from the Philippines. Is that sort of racist comment polite?

Some posters are bending over backwards to make excuses for this misogynistic and racist twat.

All I can say is if you’re meno he’s very lucky that you didn’t kill him 😗 I know, I’ve been there.

I cant wait, its a 7am one tomorrow. Though now he has left the watsapp group I doubt he will be there.
I am a bit bemused by the poster who seems to think that my DH should have had a word- I haven't been raging about it to him for years, Ive mentioned it once or twice.

…a good menopausal rage directed at the right person for the right reason is very cathartic.

He deserved it. Good on you!

Im also aghast at the posters who think that being a racist, misogynistic arsehole is totally fine as long as you own a penis. Baffling.

Please share tomorrow's goss 🍿

I didn’t say he “should” have had a word

I am surprised that in 2 years, seeing him 4x a week and knowing how much he annoyed you… he wasn’t inclined to say something of his own free will.

This is Mumsnet, it’s full of people who take this kind of awful shit from their husbands but think they deserve it. Sadly.

Oh Jesus @Hardgum let it go. 🙄

Wouldn’t you have said something to someone if it was your husband working 4 days a week as a palliative and you know that on his one precious day of walking… he had faced a woman denigrating him? For 2 years!

That question has been answered. I think you might need to find something more productive to do. You seem very fixated.

Will it be you walking or dh tomorrow?

So the answer was no?
I missed that!

No, the OP saying that she was at work, or choosing to ignore the stupid comment (time and time again) should be enough for an adult to ‘read the room’ and see it’s not getting the response he wanted and to stop. And yet he didn’t, despite not getting any indication to suggest the OP found this funny, he repeatedly said the same comments.

It doesn’t sound like the OP has once laughed along, or encouraged this ‘humour’, this wasn’t a long standing ‘in joke’ between friends that the OP suddenly decided to have a go at him after playing along for 2 years.

The fact that someone else has commented on the WhatsApp group speaks volumes for how annoying it is.

It would be tempting to say how lucky he is to have been able to have a rest and a lie in while his DW did his WhatsApp messages for him.

However the high moral ground is always best, so if you see him dog walking again just be civil but don't engage.

Me, I do mon, tue, weds.

Hear hear.

Let it lie for goodness sake.
Op has told you that she only mentioned it to her Husband a couple of times.
It’s for the Op to say something ( which she now has), not her DH.