AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

[Guttyyyyyyyyy]

So I work and DH is retired. We have a dog. I work 4 days a week . On the days I work DH walks the dog in the morning and I walk it in the evening. My days off we swap it around.
There is a group of dog walkers that meet in the morning. One man thinks its hilarious to ask if Ive enjoyed my sleep in/ lazy day/ sending DH out while I relax ect.
every single time I see him. 2 years of me just ignoring him / saying I work ect.
I work in a unit that deals with palliative care. Yesterday was a bloody hard day.
So this morning he said it must be nice to laze about on a Sunday and send DH out so I let him have it with both barrels - told him ( in rough terms) what my day consisted of. That I was up and out by 6am. Long drive. The realities of my job.
He was silent. Got home and his wife has watsapped to say Ive upset him !@@.
AIBU to think he deserves it.

I didnt go full meltdown, no tears, shouting , swearing or stamping of feet.
I am a 52 year old professional in healthcare not a toddler.
Believe it or not giving information in a concise manner is part of my job .
I gave him the full, unvarnished lowdown on what I was actually doing yesterday, nothing more.

Delighted to hear it. Good for you.

Some people deliberately post to be contrary, OP, don't pay any heed.

I know it's not quite the same,but years ago I had a customer that was exactly the same with his pathetic comments-but only to women

He'd cower at men-I saw him do it many times-it was normally to younger women (young girls,first job,didn't feel they could make a fuss-and me)

I'd be polite but back right off if he came in

Well one day,I was sorting out the bin when he came out of nowhere and ground his hard cock into my back

I freaked out,told the bosses,who then checked the cctv and rang the police

Police 'had a word' and immediately the girlfriend started sticking up for him

'He didn't do it' 'he didn't mean it' 'it's a game they play' 'she's over reacting'

When that didn't wash,she started coming in to have a go at me,started a smear campaign on sm about me (which got her nowhere) and still bad mouths me in the street

He however just hid behind her and still does to this day

They are cowards-he wouldn't have done that to a man and by hiding behind her and her gob,proves he's not a 'real' man

She quoted Melania Trump? Even more ironic.

Three cheers for you.

Man makes ignorant annoying sexist comments for years.
Man is finally told his unwelcome assumptions are wrong
Man makes a bit fuss about hurty feelings.

He owes you an apology but I'd just ignore both of them.

Oh wow, he is definitely one of them then…and here was me thinking maybe he wasn’t that bad 🫣

Whoop! Good for you OP!

😂

When is the next walk OP? What’s the betting he flounces from the walking group.

I know a sexist man like this except his DW would have posted on the WhatsApp group "Well done for what you said, he's bang out of order x"

YANBU and thank you for the incredibly important but stressful work you do xx

Good for you Op! I wouldn't have waited nearly that long.

No I absolutely wouldn’t either, based on his wife being a pillock too, and his history of making other stupid/racist/etc comments.

it doesn’t sound like a loss at all if you don’t have to speak to this guy again.

This is where we needed the laugh emoji, brilliant response

He 110% deserved it, sounds very Narc now playing the victim. We also have a N dog owner at our dog park, picks on people, corrects them, gives dog advice as well as being as rude personally to people as he can. His dog totally unruly, massively overweight giant breed he doesn't notice when it acts out. I'm guessing others are sick of him also, go head held high. Be brave joke with him loudly "I got the text from your mum about me bullying you", am I in detention now? Lmao

Sorry @Guttyyyyyyyyy i wasn’t claiming you had gone full meltdown. It’s just the language used by previous poster indicated that they thought ‘properly served’ was an appropriate way to deal with someone, when it sounds like they are advocating for someone to kick off if this situation arose.

He is definitely part of the problem. As well as these clearly sexist remarks to OP, OP has just said:

'Another group member has just told me that the reason she hasn't been for weeks is that he kept asking her if her sis in law was a ladyboy because the sis in law is from the Phillipines.'

So he's very obviously a racist twat as well as a misogynistic twat. It is pretty clear that he is a jerk and he is stupid. The two aren't mutually exclusive.

I also think you over reacted , he was annoying and sexist as he would not have said all that bollocks to your oh but
you could have drawn on all your skills to say something assertive but kind to get him to stop
the fact he is so upset his wife is standing up for him he must be very sensitive

be the bigger person and apologise for

“ giving it to him both barrels” like you said menopause and work stress made you lose your cool

I bet he’s one of the guys who says “It’s a jokkkke!!”

OP, thank you for doing the work that you do and thank you to you and your colleagues for bearing so much without taking it all out on every passer by, let alone sexist dickheads. I don’t know how you do it, but I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

keep us in the loop! 👀👀👀

I guess that is the end of the dog walking group then 🤣

Don’t you find that sometimes it’s the most obnoxious who are the most ‘sensitive’?

No - they'll just be one down.

You gave got to be kidding me.

BE KIND! Kind! Kind! Sugar and spice!

God how pathetic. The epitome of a pick me if I ever saw it. Do you really need validation from men to such an extent that you are prepared to throw women under the bus? Genuinely pathetic.

🤣🤣🤣 'Sensitive'!