AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

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So I work and DH is retired. We have a dog. I work 4 days a week . On the days I work DH walks the dog in the morning and I walk it in the evening. My days off we swap it around.
There is a group of dog walkers that meet in the morning. One man thinks its hilarious to ask if Ive enjoyed my sleep in/ lazy day/ sending DH out while I relax ect.
every single time I see him. 2 years of me just ignoring him / saying I work ect.
I work in a unit that deals with palliative care. Yesterday was a bloody hard day.
So this morning he said it must be nice to laze about on a Sunday and send DH out so I let him have it with both barrels - told him ( in rough terms) what my day consisted of. That I was up and out by 6am. Long drive. The realities of my job.
He was silent. Got home and his wife has watsapped to say Ive upset him !@@.
AIBU to think he deserves it.

I hope this has also been fed back to the daft wife!!!!

A helicopter wife! How pathetic 😂

MN need to bring back the laughing emoji, this comment needed it!

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Spare a thought for his poor wife who will now be sitting there with her arms folded looking like thunder telling her DH "you've made me look a right prat, Derek" (or whatever his name is.) She would be played by Allison Steadman in the film version. 😂

Well done, OP. They don't like it up 'em!

Hopefully that will shut him up.

Right behind you - he deserved it !

What’s up with some posters thinking OP is unreasonable and her DH has been encouraging it? Totally absurd conclusions.

If I were his wife I’d tell him he deserved it and to stop talking to women like that, it’s obnoxious. I wouldn't be defending him. Maybe he’s just ground her down over the years because I’d bet money he’s an absolute jerk to live with.

No, but it isn’t about the apology, it’s about the olive branch. I appreciate that some men are jerks, but others aren’t, and we don’t know whether this one is a jerk or just stupid, I’m guessing the latter.

I just don’t think that the right way to get men to respect women is to act disproportionately, as happened in this case.

im not on his side, he clearly can’t read a room, but that doesn’t mean he is part of the problem

Yes, 'human shield wife' is about right. I was thinking 'enabler'.

I had a couple in the family who would do this: the husband would say something to, or demand something from, someone & if they did't react they way the husband wanted, then the wife would ring that person & tell them they'd upset her husband, with the expectation that they would immediately capitulate.

Whenever she did it to me, I took it as a sign that I was completely in the right. And that he was a pathetic coward.

Seems rather silly to remove it when we can just use the standard one on iphones.

He’s to old to claim stupid, perhaps he’ll stop being stupid now that he’s been pulled up on it.

Shame his wife was too stupid to not tell him early he’s embarrassing!

After the other lady in the group told me about the ladyboy comments Im convinced that he is an arsehole.

And I have no intention of offering an olive branch, I don't feel the need to engage with him again.

I could make a suggestion for the olive branch…….

And this is exactly the type of pathetic, pandering nonsense that validates misogynistic behaviour. Thankfully more and more women are waking up and rallying against this nonsense as not all of us are prepared to limit or minimise ourselves and our needs in order to garner approval from misogynists. Hopefully you will also wake up one day and realise that men are not worth more than women.

Good for you. He should be extending the olive branch accompanied by a good bottle of wine and a big bunch of flowers.

With a bit of luck, he and his wife will slope off and find another group to piss off, where once again it won't be his fault.

What are you talking about?

and also…‘properly served’ - if you don’t like what someone says then tell them, nobody need to go full meltdown, just tell them politely that you don’t appreciate their comments and move on. It doesn’t have to be a race to the bottom

@Boreded

Two years of comments (which she’s never laughed at or indulged) and one instance where she told him she didn’t appreciate it and explained the actual situation to him doesn’t seem disproportionate to me.

It seems your standards for men’s behaviour are very low and your expectations for what women should tolerate to ‘keep the peace’ (aka prioritise a man’s comfort over their own) are unreasonably high tbh,

Fight fire with fire! The twat had been ignored for two years, what made him think his “joke” that wasn’t funny two years ago had got funny?

Two fucking years of hearing his inane boring “joke”!

Wow! You’ve got to wonder how dissatisfied with their own life someone’s got to be to be such a fucking prick. Well done for politely telling him where to go. At least you only had to deal with him for a minute. He has to take his shitty self everywhere he goes!

I’ve put on weight as a result of medical issues - it’s really hard.

This and add "Now tell your husband the same".

they both sound really irritating
i would leave the whatsapp group personally

If that’s what you take from this that is fine. But I treat people the way I wish to be treated, and I call out disrespect in a respectful way. That’s all I’m saying should happen.

Yes, he’s a twat.