Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

The OP is a good example of why trial by jury is a bad idea.

I said what I did because a lot of older retired people I have known have smaller worlds and seem to enjoy gossiping about other people not always in a good way.
It's good that your friend is healthy and able to hike and neighbours yachting.
Many older peeps don't enjoy that sort of health, or have the money to do those things.
I'm not putting older people down because I am one.😀

Well, you SAY no such thing happened, but how can we be sure? Walking around with somebody is incontrovertible proof that you're having a steamy affair. Everybody knows that! I think you should have been reported. Disgusting behaviour!

So you hear the word “liar” & that proves your theory?? Jesus it’s so creepy hearing how you & your DH listen in to your neighbours’ lives like this. And how much enjoyment & glee you derive from it & from “being right”. They are allowed to argue over other topics not ones approved & predetermined by you you know.

You’re the reason why I detest neighbours.

I'm offended! I'm nearer 70 than 60 and I'm far too busy having a life to bother about what my neighbours are doing. And I'm not married and I have got a partner (shock, horror!)

Everyone needs to stop feeding it now. 🧌

Yes it's a pity that MN's casual ageism has to strike again. The OP sounds absolutely nothing like any real life "older person" I know, including myself.

A lot of them aren't where I live, It is a tight knit community and a hive of gossip.
I'm 62 and rocking out the DM's and heavy metal t shirts.😁
I'm often commented on that I dress/ act too young.
Thanks but I'm not dead yet and I don't give a shit that "Audrey goes to an old peoples day centre, but she shouldn't because she's only 63" and Muriel is having a coffee morning yet again for the select few gossips in the close.
Live and let live.
Having said that my elderly neighbour is a constant curtain twitcher and back door snoop. If I'm in the garden for two minutes in the pouring rain he would find an excuse to come out to see what I'm doing.

Good for you, and long may it last, but it's sad when a persons world narrows like my neighbours.
Some are so bitter about others good fortunes it's unbelievable.

OP had another post between Chatting Up Teacher and Cheating Neighbour which was equally as inane and quickly sussed

I can only assume she is either insane, bored or trialing new book material

That's why he's giggling along to @AmzJS comments. He's probably thinking that whilst she's focused on the neighbours he can do what he wants 😂

Agree. I reported the thread to mn but they seem happy enough 🤷‍♀️

Hussy 🤣😂🤣

How depressing. Fortunately, I don’t know people like them.

I’m in my 60s and she comes across much older than me. More a 1960s 60 something than a 2025 60 something (hence my feeling she’s time slipped 😁)

Absolutely and even then it sounds more like a character in her 60s in a play set in the 60s written today by someone who thinks that's howvsuch a character would behave.

OP comes across like a character from a 60s kitchen sink drama (I actually love them) or a character from the black and white Classic Coronation Street era. Her character would be called something like Eunice Margaret Grimshaw and her husband would be Harold Geoffrey Alfred (after his war hero granddads).

Stop it you silly woman. Go and find some socks to darn or a sideboard to dust. Or maybe see your GP about your feverish obsession with what your neighbour is or isn't doing.

Whatever else you say you really sound like you are loving this - almost revelling in it. Just remember one day your life just might implode too.

what a strange thread you have no idea what they were arguing about "(if it evven happened) stay out of other peoples business

There's certainly something thick , but I don't think it's your skin😂

Oh, I don't think you need to state you lack in thick, skin or elsewhere. What you do seem to be lacking is a life.

Not on topic but is something going on with the scrolling on these threads (using iphone). The scrolling seems to be going on forever, never getting to the bottom of the page. Or is it just my phone playing up?

OP - the fact that you are listening in on your neighbours argument and appear to be revelling in it and posting online further shows your lack of respect and inability to give them privacy. I think you really need to reflect on how you would feel if your neighbours treated you like this.

He's started shouting at her on the middle of the night. Conveniently the only word you heard was liar, which fits your narrative. It also fits mine that he's abusive and the lie was that she told him she would stay at home, rather than going to see her friends.
Well done on their surprisingly well timed argument providing you with more material though.