Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

I’d put money on it that either you or your husband are having an affair judging by how invested you both are in this.

Husband ! He’s bored silly at home.

She goes to drama group. Maybe you need to join

Wow you really need to mind your own business. I can’t believe how gleeful you are that you may be right (you still don’t really know what is going on). Taking pleasure in someone’s relationship breakdown is pretty low.

My ex h had an affair. At no point did I think that my neighbours should have popped round to say they had seen him getting out of a woman’s car a few times.

I can only conclude, after reading the updates. The OP is insane.

Oh you must be thrilled OP! Well done, all your curtain twitching wasn’t wasted after all. Enjoy your celebratory fry-up.

The 1960s called, they need an Ena Sharples type character for a new soap they’re producing.

When I moved across the country to my new home, I did a few walks around the area to get my bearings of where the shops etc were, two of my walks were with a lady from the corner of the road doing her dog walk & explaining bus routes & times, no more than ten minutes walks. A few months later my neighbour told me that she was told by a few people that her new neighbour (me) was having an affair with dog walking lady, I had been seen walking in surrounding roads with her. No such event happened.

You have standards? Your nosy parkering ways suggest they may require some work.

Word just in from Neighbourhood Watch. The slanging match was because the neighbour’s husband came home to find his wife had eaten the last KitKat Chunky. She denied it. There is nothing worse than working a long shift to find someone has been at your Chunky.

I haven’t. I think you sound very strangely old fashioned, like you have time-slipped from another era. Are you and your dh elderly?

Oh no. I believed the teacher threads and defended OP. Now I feel like a right fool.

And you anticipate having an amicable relationship with the woman after that, do you? This is how feuds get started. You don't think there might be retaliation, as soon as she thinks (rightly or wrongly) that you're up to something she disapproves of? Come on.

Why would anyone apologise to you? It's still absolutely none of your business and it just proves a) that your intervention wasn't necessary and b) you aren't just a curtain twitcher but a particularly gleeful one who was never motivated by concern for the husband.

No apology from me. Your later posts make you sound even more insufferable.

Oh do fuck off OP and take your croc of shit with you 🥱 🥱
Of course this all happened 🙄🙄

Why would there be any apologies? The main point everyone here is making is that it’s none of your damn business.

Gotta mitigate those rejection letters somehow , you have the writing style of a thwarted Barbara Cartland, mixed with some really bad soap storytelling OP, but hey come to Mumsnet and it's all ok I can fantasise and keep my creative juices flowing daaahling. Don't give up the day job chick.

I've thought that from OP's writing style from the first post, sounds like some one older maybe 60's plus.
Younger people wouldn't care because they are working, have kids, busy with their lives or just not interested.
You and dh seem to spend a lot of time watching your neighbour /s which to me suggests retired.

And that it’s none of your business whether the woman neighbour is dropping her knickers for every man under 90 in the county, or whether she’s out socialising/playing the viola in the local symphony/ doing an evening shift as front of hours in an upscale restaurant.

This was also said about her on her last thread about the teacher at the nightclub wanting to bend her over the school desk.

Do you read the thread about the teacher at the night club chatting up the op. She told the school where he works that he wanted to bend her over and give her a good seeing too. This is the same poster.

That’s a bit ageist. My retired friend is just back from hiking in some Chinese mountains I’ve never heard of, and the retired next door neighbours are usually off on their boat.

The OP, whether or not she’s retired, is a tragically under-occupied fantasist. That much is clear.

Interesting dysfunctional personality that seeks attention by making up nonsense on the internet. Weird!

The bloke had a lucky escape then 😂😂
Honestly OP is just making up stories to fill her sad little life I suspect.

Wow, wow! I think you’re out of date there. Women in their 60s and 70s are part of the rock and roll free love, festival extremely cool generation!