Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

Well, of course it had to happen last night 🤣🤣

OP told us he only works till the middle of the night on a Thursday so, if it didn’t come to a climax (pun fully intended) last night, she’s have to wait another week for her smugness to play out!!

Im not sure where the OP is but last night was one of the chilliest we’ve had for weeks - and that includes all the wet cooler days we’ve had during half term - yet, for OP it was that much warmer she had the bedroom window open and she stayed up till the early hours of the morning just to hear him come home and they just happened to have an explosive row last night - though perhaps she lied about winning the lottery, spending money on a holiday or down the betting shop🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

1. no one is defending a potential adulterer
2. Abusing you

what they are doing is telling you to get a life and making up nonsense to try and defend your position.

Well, or the woman neighbour ate the snack her shiftworker partner/DH had planned to have when he got in in the early hours and then denied all knowledge of it, to his sleep-deprived fury. Or anything, really.

Out of all things that never happened, your story didnt happen the most.

You have no Idea what they were arguing about. The word liar could be used in lots of circumstances. Younare making a lot of assumptions. You know what they say about assumptions. They make an ASS of U and ME.

Why would anyone owe you an apology?! 🤣
Whatever is going on or not going on with your neighbours is absolutely NONE of your concern. Why does it matter to you? And if you feel 'smug' at thinking your suspicions have been confirmed... well that's just embarrassing.

Absolutely not! Neighbours lives are none of our business at all (unless it’s negatively affecting you personally)
You have no idea really if she’s actually having an affair, and even if you did, it’s still not your place to say anything.

You read my mind. She's a fantasist.

I’d suggest reading my recent update - they’ve had it out!

You opened by saying morally should you say something but do you think it's morally right for you and your dh to be nosy and over invested in your neighbours lives, spy on them, watch them, listen to their conversations and comment on their appearance, gossip online and pass judgement. No one is going to apologise.

My DH has just made a good point whilst we’ve been chuckling at some of the replies.

We wonder how many MN’rs themselves have had affairs? Quite a few we suspect.

Again - no business of yours. Why your obsession with affairs though?

Well I’ve not I just think you sound nuts and nosey . Oh and god damn boring.

Crikey you two need to get a life!

Except for the bit where you've told DH to get the fry up on?

I mean, even by my standards it’s a bit early for the champers!

The OP and her DH are living proof that there's someone out there for everyone.

Live your own life, and mind your own business 🙄

I am going against the grain here. This is a very serious issue. No all heroes wear capes
I suggest logging in with 101, and get your neighbourhood watch team together to do some detective work and follow her. Get photos. check the car is taxed and MOT’d. Deirdre at number 10 used to work for Mi5; (not that you’d know it, she looks like a sweet little old lady, but she could break every bone in your body in 30 seconds). Deidre will log it with her pals at Mi5 and get her phone tapped via GCHQ.
Let the local vicar know she is in danger of breaking her marriage vows and ask him to sprinkle some holy water on her rhododendrons (not a euphemism).
Bravo op and thank you for your service. Neighbours like you are the back bone of society. Make sure Deidre nominates you for an MBE. .

How many affairs have you and your husband had?

You seem obsessed. Strange husband too.

Don't be daft, celebrate, open the bubbly and wring your hands in glee, unless you've got something better and more important to do today.

Loads. Every time I leave the house unaccompanied. Especiallly if I am wearing perfume and dressed up. I’m like the Pied Piper, me. Men just can’t help themselves. I’m a siren. I’ve had more cock that KFC. Usually accidental, I fall on them when I’m in haste to return before the stroke of midnight and I turn into a pumpkin.

They say the people who accuse others of various ‘sins’ are the ones most likely to be doing the same……

Ye
The fry up and thick skinned

I had just thought the same

OP hasn't had any
If anyone propositions her she calls their employer