To think high heels (especially when worn casually) look absolutely ridiculous?

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I’m probably going to get absolutely flamed for this.

But aibu to think that high heels are a complete monstrosity? The only time I think they are passable is if it’s something very formal. For example TV presenters sitting on a couch, or attending an award ceremony. As they’re really being worn just for show.

Tbh I don’t see many people wearing high heels these days, but sometimes I’ll notice a women teetering round the park or the shops, barely able to walk and looking very uncomfortable, I’ve even seen a woman bowling in high heels.

They look so uncomfortable and impractical.

Not many but I have seen it in quite a few occasions.

It’s just one of those things that I notice. Probably because they are always teetering.

I can almost feel the discomfort.

You go for the larger size and put an insole or half insole in the shoe with the smaller foot.

Well yes but it’s just how I feel.

It’s like you get people laughing at the whole lip filler and Botox thing. Or people don’t like nail extensions, or scrunch bum leggings, or leggings full stop.

People laugh at men in tracksuits.

Exactly. It's a you thing. Not a them thing.

:-)

Surely, that's in the eye of the beholder.

I can't remember which username I posted under but it was only 4 years or so that I got the same sort of vitriol for saying I liked ballet flats and kitten heels.

They were deemed dated/ hideous/ terrible for your feet.

I very rarely wear heels because I prioritise comfort and mobility but I don't feel the need to call other people's style "ridiculous" because it's not mine.

Most people have agreed that wearing heels in some circumstances is ridiculous.

Its completely disingenuous to pretend that you never judge anything that anyone ever wears ever.

Well I wouldn’t wear them for a daily shop as I think sweats and heels aren’t really my style. I wear them when I go into the office (because Amy feet under my desk at home is normally shoeless). I know you don’t believe it but I am perfectly comfortable and happy to walk around all day in them.

And they are in the wrong too... Feel how you like, everyone is entitled to their opinions. Go ahead and wear what you want obviously. But starting a thread mocking people, is mean and cannot be excused by "But, but, other people do it too...!".

I think someone forgot to tell the women in NYC that heels were aging and out of date because I see them everywhere on all ages and they invariably look great. But each to their own. I mean, I would't wear them to traipse around Trader Joe's but the right occasion, absolutely!

Some people are very invested in believing that heels look stupid, are dated, aren't worn by young people, because they want both the comfort of their flats and to feel they're 'getting it right' style wise. It doesn't matter how many people say that in their town/city/night out they've seen stylish young women in heels, they will staunchly deny their existence because they will be looking only for affirmation that their comfy shoes are still on trend, and so will have noticed only what they wish to see.

I did a double take in the Post Office the other month as the woman in front was wearing a bright red pair of really high stilettos! Rest of her clothing was pretty ordinary so not off to a wedding or anything.
It’s an unusual sight these days!

That’s social conditioning

Men don’t look sexier in heels so why do women

Exactly this. This is such a bizarre thread.

Wear what you like on your feet, maybe don't give it so much thought.

Of course I do. But I don't start a thread about it and go on and on and on defending a position which comes down to simple bitchiness because it's their choice and they can wear what they like

'dont deserve to be called shoes' is proper mad talk. There's a difference between 'i don't like x' and 'it you do x you must be a y and z'.

My heels wearing days are far behind me thanks to bulging discs in my lower back and arthritis in my knees. I love pretty shoes, but these days they have to be flat and preferably have a thick enough sole to cushion any impact.

This is the first time Ive ever come across this, the investment is crazy!!!

Well everything is social conditioning then, we are conditioned to believe all sorts

Men usually don't have hips that sway so that's why typically they don't look good in heels

That said, some men, such as those who wear drag, look amazing in heels

It just depends on the thread and who's on mumsnet on the day tbh

I think that flats can look amazing 🙌

Oh I don’t know, this man is sex on legs

Ah yes I suppose it’s fashion though - kitten heels are having a moment again aren’t they! I couldn’t see the sense in them fifteen / twenty years ago; you either wore a heel or you didn’t. However now that I favour a flatter foot I can see the elegance in them now; it’s all relative I guess! That said you were certainly ahead of the curve to be suggesting them four years ago 😊

I agree.

A lot of women have so much internalised misogyny.

A group of men would be laughing at and enjoying the thought of a bunch of women arguing and tearing each other down about fucking footwear, and what they see as “sexy” “dated” “chavvy” etc.

It happened on several threads. It's only quite recently that the "ballet flats are sooo dated" brigade or the shrieks of horror at kitten heels have piped down

It comes up on MN on a fairly regular basis. Usually triggered by someone having seen a woman in heels and wanting reassurance that they're not coming back. I get it. I'd love to think that the shoes my 56 year old feet are happy in are the very things that women with younger more resilient feet are wearing because they're the height of fashion. But I only need to glance at the high strappy sandals, ankle boots and cowboy boots around me when I venture out out to know its not always the case.