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Nigel Farage on abortions- slippery slope?

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Ph2028 · 28/05/2025 01:13

Following the speech, Farage was also asked about his view on abortion limits. He replied that he was pro-choice but that it was "utterly ludicrous" for abortion to be allowed up to 24 weeks, when a hospital would "move heaven and earth" to help a baby born at 22 weeks survive.

Aibu to think it may be a slippery slope to reducing the number of weeks until it is effectively banned...

Anyway it's a bit of a non issue on Nigel's part given nearly 94% of reported abortions happen before two and a half months of pregnancy.so very few abortions happen at 24 weeks.

Now i remember why I requested a tubal ligation when I was pregnant with first baby as I didn't want anymore in any circumstances. It was predictably denied so dh got a vasectomy instead.

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RareGoalsVerge · 28/05/2025 09:04

Nigel Farage (and anyone else calling for a reduction in the limit) clearly hasn't bothered to think about this properly or find out more about the typical circumstances for a 23 week abortion (which is exceptionally rare)

It's 24 weeks because some really awful genetic or development abnormalities won't be detected until fairly close to that deadline, and giving the parents enough time to process the news and to work out how to balance the amount of suffering and pain if they continue the pregnancy vs if they don't, means that they may be right up against the deadline when the procedure happens. This doesn't happen often but when it does the parents need compassion and support not legalistic barriers.

No one undergoes a 23 week abortion lightly. It isn’t like a 6 week abortion. They induce labour and giving birth to a dead foetus is a grim experience.

In other cases it might be because of difficulty accessing pregnancy tests or abortion services earlier, or mental health or social circumstances causing the woman to hide or be in denial about the pregnancy.

If the limit is reduced, net pain and suffering will increase unless there is first:

  • significant investment in making early abortion easie to access
  • massively improved CAMHS and other support services for young people so that we don't get young women so vulnerable and unsupported that they are in denial or attempting to hide their pregnancies until they become too noticeable.
  • medical advances to make testing for major life-limiting (or incompatible with life at all) abnormalities detected more accurately earlier on during pregnancies.
  • sufficient advances in feminism that all women feel empowered to know for certain whether or not motherhood at this point is the right decision, and have no shame or hangups or ignorance around their body so that they know what's going on, are incontrol of their fertility and have no doubt about being aware of and knowing what to do about an unwanted pregnancy if it happens.

Any reduction in limits without first establishing all these would be pure misogyny.

If all these measures were properly instituted, late abortions would become so vanishingly rare that no legal changes would be required and it would be a waste of government time to change the law.

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:06

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 09:04

Adoption these days is always open meaning that the child knows they are adopted and have access to details about their birth family. The idea that it’s a simple solution to just have your baby adopted if you don’t want it is ludicrous. First, you have to go through the pregnancy. As well as the physical trauma of that (if it’s unwanted) you will also have your family, friends, neighbours, colleagues, strangers on the street knowing you are pregnant, probably congratulating you, awkward conversations if you say you’re not keeping it, extreme social stigma (“what sort of a woman gives up her baby”), attempts at changing your mind (“I will buy you a house if you keep the baby, it’s my grandchild”), other members of the family wanting to keep in touch with the baby post-adoption (and likely succeeding). Oh and then when the child is older, contact from the child and questions about how you could give them up etc.

It’s the shittest idea ever and only worked in the past because young girls concealed their pregnancy, were sent away to give birth and the child was not told they were adopted. It just doesn’t work in today’s society.

This is a ridiculous take on adoption. You're saying that there are no happy adopted children? Do all adopted wish they had been aborted?

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:06

And also forced birthers think adoption is a sort of golden bullet. Not the very complex issue that it is.

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 09:07

Sofiewoo · 28/05/2025 08:30

No, no, I haven’t misread you at all.

“Boasting openly about having abortions is far from classy. It’s symptomatic of a society which generally no longer values privacy. People over-sharing about everything to everyone. I dislike it.”

I have never heard anyone boasting happily about aborting a wanted baby who they knew would be born with severe health conditions. That’s a completely different and very sad situation. I am sorry to hear what you have been through, and was not talking about you.

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:07

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:06

This is a ridiculous take on adoption. You're saying that there are no happy adopted children? Do all adopted wish they had been aborted?

No. But it is not a simple solution.

Motomum23 · 28/05/2025 09:08

Mnni · 28/05/2025 02:13

I do think any anti abortion rhetoric from right wing factions is to be treated with caution.

Personally I don't believe there should be a limit at all. As early as possible, as late as necessary.

I'm curious as to necessary in your opinion. Necessary for whom? Do you think you ought to be able to abort a full term fetus just because you have a panic about parenthood or your other half ditches you?? What about a newborn baby should we be able to drown them at birth if they come out with undiagnosed downs syndrome???

I think there's definitely a need for women's rights but I think post 20 weeks is abhorrent.

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:08

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 09:07

I have never heard anyone boasting happily about aborting a wanted baby who they knew would be born with severe health conditions. That’s a completely different and very sad situation. I am sorry to hear what you have been through, and was not talking about you.

To be honest, I have never heard anyone “boasting” about having an abortion under any circumstances.

Sofiewoo · 28/05/2025 09:08

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 08:53

Where did I say I want to ban all abortion?

Probably when you said the cut off should be foetal heart beat detection, which is before the majority of women even find out they’re pregnant.

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 09:08

scatterolight · 28/05/2025 08:59

We don't have the death penalty in this country because of the outlier possibility that someone innocent might be executed. Even in an age of DNA, copious CCTV and digital footprints it's still thought not worth the risk that one life might be unjustly taken.

Yet the majority on here think it perfectly fine to allow abortion up to birth because no mother would EVER chose this due to less than scrupulous reasons. There would never be a mother with a chaotic life, addictions, domestic issues, mental health problems, or any other problem that would mean she'd choose to "abort" a perfectly healthy baby at 40 weeks. When it comes to abortion the whole "all life is sacred / one innocent is too many", shtick goes out the window.

As people have pointed out you can have a late term abortion for medical reasons ANYWAY. And just because YOU personally would never abort a 40 week old healthy baby doesn't mean there wouldn't be someone who would given the chance. A horrific evil.

Women seem to have a real issue with clear moral thinking around abortion. It is enormously depressing.

No, we don’t have the death penalty because it’s barbaric to permit the state to kill someone and not befitting for civilised society.
In Canada they allow abortion to term. Why are no Canadian women aborting healthy fetuses at 39 weeks? Plus doctors do have autonomy and can refuse to perform it.

Aintnobodygottime · 28/05/2025 09:08

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:06

This is a ridiculous take on adoption. You're saying that there are no happy adopted children? Do all adopted wish they had been aborted?

I think if you reread it the poster is saying that adoption is not a simple solution, nor a very practical one. Nothing about the happiness of the child in that situation.

Nominative · 28/05/2025 09:08

I strongly suspect a government led by Farage would have no interest in providing help for all the expenses involved in bringing up the seriously disabled children who would no longer be aborted if he had his way.

Frankly, the whole thing of Farage getting involved in encouraging people to have more children gives me the ick anyway. It has strong echoes of a mindset that thinks that the priorities for women should be Kinder, Kuche, Kirche, and that our job is to produce and bring up lots of good Aryan children.

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:09

Motomum23 · 28/05/2025 09:08

I'm curious as to necessary in your opinion. Necessary for whom? Do you think you ought to be able to abort a full term fetus just because you have a panic about parenthood or your other half ditches you?? What about a newborn baby should we be able to drown them at birth if they come out with undiagnosed downs syndrome???

I think there's definitely a need for women's rights but I think post 20 weeks is abhorrent.

Under any circumstances?

Sofiewoo · 28/05/2025 09:10

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 09:07

I have never heard anyone boasting happily about aborting a wanted baby who they knew would be born with severe health conditions. That’s a completely different and very sad situation. I am sorry to hear what you have been through, and was not talking about you.

You cannot pick and choose who you are talking to when you say discussing an abortion “is not classy”.

Simonjt · 28/05/2025 09:10

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:04

It’s so depressing how the forced birthers always focus on the very late term abortions. Which are always a hideous least worst choice.

The forced birthers don’t seem to care about children either, it isn’t uncommon to find them moaning that children born to parents who can’t afford them or don’t want them require state support.

FatherFrosty · 28/05/2025 09:10

farage wants to privatise the nhs doesn’t he?
how on earth is that compatible with lowering the abortion limit

Digdongdoo · 28/05/2025 09:12

FatherFrosty · 28/05/2025 09:10

farage wants to privatise the nhs doesn’t he?
how on earth is that compatible with lowering the abortion limit

Its not compatible. But he doesn't care. It's got fuck all to do with anyone's wellbeing.

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 09:12

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:06

This is a ridiculous take on adoption. You're saying that there are no happy adopted children? Do all adopted wish they had been aborted?

It’s a realistic take on adoption and what would be involved for a woman who goes through with a pregnancy that she doesn’t want. You can’t keep adoptions secret. There are of course happy adopted children. I was talking more about the impact on the woman - it would be a lifelong trauma that she can’t escape and the idea that that is better than an abortion is ridiculous.

Aintnobodygottime · 28/05/2025 09:12

The straw (wo)man in this sort of discussion is the one who cheerily looks to abort a full term healthy foetus for no reason whatsoever. Who ARE these women? Seriously, have you ever in your life met anyone who would do that? How many women do you think would do that if the pesky law didn’t stop them?

Nominative · 28/05/2025 09:12

sunnybeee · 28/05/2025 08:19

I can’t stand Farage however I agree on this. Totally pro choice but unless there are medical reasons for either baby or mother, I think it’s outrageous to abort at as late as 24 weeks.

Would you also prevent, say, a child who has been raped and who didn't know she was pregnant from getting an abortion after 14 weeks?

Tiredofwhataboutery · 28/05/2025 09:13

LookingAtMyBhunas · 28/05/2025 08:53

nearly 94% of reported abortions happen before two and a half months of pregnancy.

Thought it would be higher than this tbh.

I've had 2 early abortions so am clearly absolutely not anti abortion, I supported and drove my friend to hers in December.

I am currently 23 weeks. She's kicking and moving I would break legs to save her if I was to go into pre term labour. Late term abortions aren't anything like early ones, the trauma the mother goes through physically is totally different. I also think more needs support and emphasis should be put on adoption.

99% of abortions are carried out before 20 weeks . The abortions carried out after this point are generally done under ground E (fetal abnormality, people aren’t choosing to have late abortions they are having them because their fetus has defects.

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 09:13

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 08:26

Yeah I’m sure that’s a really mentally healthy experience for the mother’s existing children who get to see their mum pregnant, giving birth to a sibling and said sibling then mysteriously vanishes never to be seen again. Jeez, people really don’t think these things though. It’s all about producing babies for the supposedly desperate. But not disabled ones obviously.

Of course people can choose to have a child with disabilities.

I actually found the degree of questioning around having checks for Down’s syndrome during pregnancy a bit much. I refused them all, I didn’t care if my children had Down’s syndrome or not.

I’ve also heard of many cases where women have aborted healthy, wanted babies based on medical information which has been proven afterwards to be incorrect, and they are rightly taking legal action against. Lots of advice around ifs, buts and maybes incorrectly influences women to abort, which needs addressing as it is wrong and harmful to those families.

There is arguably now far too much early scanning, over-analysis and fear-mongering throughout perfectly viable pregnancies, which terrifies women unnecessarily.

HopingForTheBest25 · 28/05/2025 09:13

Once a pregnancy reaches 24 weeks, as brutal as it sounds, at this point, it is killing a baby. At 24 weeks a foetus is fully formed, it feels pain. If it was born prematurely, it would have a good chance of living.

Imo there should have to be reasons beyond the argument that it's a woman's body and entirely her choice, even if she's 9 months pregnant!

Of course there should remain exemptions for severe foetal abnormality and hand in hand with a reduction in time, should be better maternity care inc earlier testing - no woman should be waiting until 20+ weeks for an abnormality scan!

Idisagreewithu · 28/05/2025 09:14

Naepalz · 28/05/2025 03:35

Babies born at under 24 weeks gestation can indeed survive, but not without a huge amount of medical interventions keeping them alive. Therefore the argument about viability vs abortion limits, is in my opinion a total red herring. Those calling for the time limit to be lowered are often those who don't agree with abortion full stop. 35 years ago I had a baby born at 23 weeks who survived birth but died at 9 months old. This has not changed my opinion that the limit should remain as it is. Abortions near the limit are not only uncommon, but usually carried out for very legitimate reasons. I think abortion law should be left alone, as I agree that lowering the time limit is just not helpful or necessary and I worry about where this would lead.

The limit for abortion obviously used to be 28 weeks. It would seem logical from what folk are saying that the 24 weeks is already the slope and that we should therefore be campaigning for a return to the 28 week limit. From this POV if you want to maintain a 24 week limit (rather than return to 28 weeks), you are part of the problem.

StandFirm · 28/05/2025 09:15

FatherFrosty · 28/05/2025 09:10

farage wants to privatise the nhs doesn’t he?
how on earth is that compatible with lowering the abortion limit

Again, Farage is following a script. If you look at everything he says through the prism of American politics and culture wars, it will make sense. Big US pharma has wanted access to the UK market for a long time. The NHS is a strong regulating force and an obstacle for them.

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:15

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 09:12

It’s a realistic take on adoption and what would be involved for a woman who goes through with a pregnancy that she doesn’t want. You can’t keep adoptions secret. There are of course happy adopted children. I was talking more about the impact on the woman - it would be a lifelong trauma that she can’t escape and the idea that that is better than an abortion is ridiculous.

Is the trauma of having a baby and giving it up for adoption worse than the trauma of terminating a pregnancy of a healthy baby? Neither option is going to leave no mental scars