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Nigel Farage on abortions- slippery slope?

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Ph2028 · 28/05/2025 01:13

Following the speech, Farage was also asked about his view on abortion limits. He replied that he was pro-choice but that it was "utterly ludicrous" for abortion to be allowed up to 24 weeks, when a hospital would "move heaven and earth" to help a baby born at 22 weeks survive.

Aibu to think it may be a slippery slope to reducing the number of weeks until it is effectively banned...

Anyway it's a bit of a non issue on Nigel's part given nearly 94% of reported abortions happen before two and a half months of pregnancy.so very few abortions happen at 24 weeks.

Now i remember why I requested a tubal ligation when I was pregnant with first baby as I didn't want anymore in any circumstances. It was predictably denied so dh got a vasectomy instead.

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Glowingup · 28/05/2025 12:41

Rainiac · 28/05/2025 12:33

For all those in the "but foetal abnormalities" crowd, there is a Bill currently on its 2nd reading in parliament to include things like cleft lip, cleft palate and clubfoot as reasons for termination up to 40 weeks. I know people with cleft lip/palate who live normal, happy, productive lives. That is killing a baby because of a non-life limiting disfigurement.

Farage is right & the limit should be reduced to viability or lower. Most happen in the first 9 weeks anyway, and we should endeavour to reduce that number by being stricter with teaching young women & girls the meaning and value of sex for them and only to have sex with men they'd like to have kids with.

I remember our sex ed at school in the 2000s was a cartoon video of a couple running around a bedroom naked tickling each other. It was perverted and not at all educational, including being mixed-sex and not giving enough space to discuss the unequal risk of sex for both men and women. Boys watching pornography on the playground from 12/13.

Evidently more access to contraception hasn't reduced the number of unwanted pregnancies. Men nowadays get what would have been marriage "benefits" without the commitment or responsibility. All liberalism/lax abortion & sex attitudes have done is removed the burden of responsibility from men and placed it on to women.

Reading the case against the sexual revolution by Louise Perry & reactionary feminism by Mary Harrington really changed my mind on this issue, and I am youngish (28) and not religious.

Do you mean that the bill is seeking to remove these as fetal abnormalities? Because I’m pretty sure they have always been termed serious abnormalities and there have been past campaigns to remove them that have failed, including one by a vicar born with a cleft palate.

The idea that women would only have sex with someone they want kids with is nonsense tradwife stuff (and yes peddled by Louise Perry and Mary Harrington - easy to have that view when you’re happily married etc but lots of women are in abusive relationships and the last thing they need is a baby). Women need to have the autonomy to make their own choices about their bodies and whether they want to be pregnant. That’s the end of it - it’s a choice for the woman and the woman alone.

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 12:43

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 11:00

It shouldn’t be. I disagree that optional abortion are ‘essential healthcare’. That’s just a nice, polite, sanitary term for glossing over murdering foetuses. True healthcare is about preserving and saving life, which is far from this (unless Mum/baby would definitely die without one).

Final thoughts- if this goes to a national vote, I will be voting to lower the limit from 24 weeks. I would also vote to back any doctor/other medical professional who morally objects to performing this so-called healthcare, they should have every right to refuse. Same with assisted dying. I’d love to know how many people who are so pro- abortions or assisted dying would actually be prepared to perform them themselves?

Murdering foetuses? You are showing your true colours now. You are a fanatic.

As previous posters have said, banning abortion which is obviously what you would like, doesn't stop abortions. It just stops safe abortions.

Rainiac · 28/05/2025 12:48

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 12:41

Do you mean that the bill is seeking to remove these as fetal abnormalities? Because I’m pretty sure they have always been termed serious abnormalities and there have been past campaigns to remove them that have failed, including one by a vicar born with a cleft palate.

The idea that women would only have sex with someone they want kids with is nonsense tradwife stuff (and yes peddled by Louise Perry and Mary Harrington - easy to have that view when you’re happily married etc but lots of women are in abusive relationships and the last thing they need is a baby). Women need to have the autonomy to make their own choices about their bodies and whether they want to be pregnant. That’s the end of it - it’s a choice for the woman and the woman alone.

Sorry yes my wording was wrong, I meant it is currently possible (even if it never happens, the idea that some sort of physical violence against a person is legal even if it never happens is unacceptable & this should be too).

I am by no means a tradwife advocate & I had an abortion in my early 20s. I am not trying to remove that right but I am saying something needs to change. We are one of the only western European countries where abortion has gone up (by quite a lot actually) rather than down in recent years. That is a deviation from other similar countries for some sort of reasons & we should be open to critically looking at what & why.

Whiteflowerscreed · 28/05/2025 12:49

Tbh I agree with him. I’d like the limit to be 16/18 weeks or so

Menopausalsourpuss · 28/05/2025 12:51

Youdontseehow · 28/05/2025 09:17

Many many many more women are coerced into pregnancy than abortion. Rape, controlling men, lack of access to contraception, incest, abuse. Should these women be coerced into giving birth? If the child is unwanted? And if the concern is for the child - how are they going to feel in later life if they find out they are the product of rape or incest?

Just because you “felt like a baby” from early on doesn’t mean every woman or girl does. Think about a 14 year old raped by a family member for instance. She might want to have the child but she might not, and that should absolutely be her choice.

Again extreme cases. The number of abortions relating to pregnant 14 year old is extremely low. And we simply don't know the numbers coerced into pregnancy or abortion so no point speculating.

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 12:53

What do the anti abortion posters and think of the morning after pill?

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 12:54

Rainiac · 28/05/2025 12:48

Sorry yes my wording was wrong, I meant it is currently possible (even if it never happens, the idea that some sort of physical violence against a person is legal even if it never happens is unacceptable & this should be too).

I am by no means a tradwife advocate & I had an abortion in my early 20s. I am not trying to remove that right but I am saying something needs to change. We are one of the only western European countries where abortion has gone up (by quite a lot actually) rather than down in recent years. That is a deviation from other similar countries for some sort of reasons & we should be open to critically looking at what & why.

Do you have stats for that because from what I can see the UK has a lower rate of abortions than many other European countries?

Quite the error to make there with the Bill - “omg did you know people are trying to make it legal to abort babies with clubfoot” errr no, I think you will find that few to no late term abortions take place for that reason even if technically that has always been permitted.

Rainiac · 28/05/2025 12:55

Whiteflowerscreed · 28/05/2025 12:49

Tbh I agree with him. I’d like the limit to be 16/18 weeks or so

Yes traditionally "quickening" was the mark of personhood. This also aligns with neural tubes connecting & first brain activity iirc. I think that seems appropriate too.

KingJanie · 28/05/2025 12:58

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 12:53

What do the anti abortion posters and think of the morning after pill?

I think it's preferable to a 24 week abortion of a healthy baby.

What do you think?

Do you think there's any difference or both just equally valid choices?

Dangermoo · 28/05/2025 12:58

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 12:39

What inanimate object?

She wasn't proud of her abortion, she was grateful that she had the right to choose whether to continue a pregnancy to term. This was in 2020 when the US thankfully avoided a second Trump term which would have meant rolling back abortion rights.

Obviously, Trump is now back and the Supreme Court struck down Roe V Wade so individual states have the right to limit abortion rights as they wish. This is bad news for women and Nigel is a Trump acolyte.

Thankfully, abortion has never been a hot-button issue in the UK like it is in the US. With Farage and Reform in the ascendant, that may very well change.

It would have been even worse news for women if Trump hadn't refused the idea of a national ban. Once again, what is the relevance to the UK, other than Farage aiding the Trump campaign? Oh right, Farage talks about abortion and all the haters immediately shout out Trump. What Farage is referring to has no connection to Roe v Wade.

wordywitch · 28/05/2025 12:59

Let’s see, we have the two child benefit cap, disability and carers’ support being slashed, the state of maternity care in the toilet, cost of living through the roof, absent fathers, a misogyny epidemic, extortionate childcare costs, reduced pay and career prospects, 18+ years of intensive parenting with little support, and pressure to stay thin, young, and beautiful for all eternity while also working and being a domestic servant on offer. All while being told not to scrounge off the state and don’t have kids you can’t afford or don’t want. So appealing!

The far right and the religious zealots are going to have to make motherhood far more desirable and supported if they truly want to reduce abortion. Until then, I am very confident in saying that being anti abortion is not at all about ‘saving babies’ but about a deep hatred and seething jealousy of women who don’t follow the wife-mother-servant handbook.

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 12:59

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 12:43

Murdering foetuses? You are showing your true colours now. You are a fanatic.

As previous posters have said, banning abortion which is obviously what you would like, doesn't stop abortions. It just stops safe abortions.

How much time have you personally spent in the NICU? Do you personally know what late abortions entail?

You do realise that even taking legal abortion medication carries huge risks which are not made fully clear to people?

How do I know? Well, because I actually had to take the exact same medication and go through the exact same procedure when I had a missed miscarriage. My body didn’t get the memo that it had died, I was at risk of severe infection, so had to take those same tablets. I was in one of the best hospitals in the UK and it went horribly, horribly wrong. I bled continuously for several days, blacked out at the hospital, needed my DH to help me use a bedpan, had to be very closely monitored for a blood transfusion. I wasn’t fully recovered for weeks, spent the first 2 weeks after laid up taking multiple iron tablets, bleeding and suffering from severe fatigue. I had no idea the extent of this, I thought it would be quick and straightforward. Sadly not. I don’t think this is publicised honestly enough.

Its not an experience I would wish on anybody.

TheSwarm · 28/05/2025 13:00

Whiteflowerscreed · 28/05/2025 12:49

Tbh I agree with him. I’d like the limit to be 16/18 weeks or so

Why though?

Just... why? What good do you actually think that achieves? Which lives do you imagine you are actually saving or improving?

Naepalz · 28/05/2025 13:01

Idisagreewithu · 28/05/2025 09:14

The limit for abortion obviously used to be 28 weeks. It would seem logical from what folk are saying that the 24 weeks is already the slope and that we should therefore be campaigning for a return to the 28 week limit. From this POV if you want to maintain a 24 week limit (rather than return to 28 weeks), you are part of the problem.

What problem am I part of exactly? I absolutely support a woman's right to choose and am seriously pissed off that you suggest otherwise.

The law change bringing the limit down to 24 weeks, as I recall, was made in 1990, the same year my 23 week baby was born. I agreed reluctantly with that change then and still do now, for what I feel is a very good reason. During the 9 months when I spent time every single day in a neonatal unit, I saw and learned a hell of a lot. I witnessed a couple of babies born at 28 weeks that needed next to no medical intervention other than keeping warm. They could breathe unassisted. Now while this was not typical at that gestation it did sometimes happen. Personally I think that if a baby born at that gestation can pretty much manage on their own with some supervision, then it would be wrong to leave the limit for elective abortions for social reasons that high. Basically no baby born at 24 weeks could survive without ventilation, supplementary oxygen etc etc. That is why that limit seems fair to me. A line surely has to be drawn somewhere or would you support elective termination for social reasons right up to birth?
Abortion past 24 weeks is still allowed in the interests of the mothers health or if serious foetal abnormalities come to light. That seems a fair balance to me.

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 13:02

Actually the increase in abortion was seen in 2022 and was a 17% increase. Likely due to effects of pandemic on being able to secure decent contraception.
The key to avoiding abortion is to have an extremely efficient system of providing long term contraception such as the injection or coil. Most unwanted pregnancy is due to contraceptive failures such as forgetting to take the pill or condoms breaking.
I recently had a coil fitted. I had to wait eight weeks to get an appointment for it. It shouldn’t be that long. There should be walk in clinics with readily available appointments so that women can get themselves fully sorted and avoid unwanted pregnancy.

jljlj · 28/05/2025 13:03

TheSwarm · 28/05/2025 12:38

Murder is the unlawful killing of another human being.

Legal abortion is not murder, no matter what you think. Using the word murder to describe legal abortion is just deliberately placing a term loaded with emotion and baggage on something which it should not be applied to.

Well, it will be unlawful and therefore murder if the limit is reduced. I'm referring to 22-24 weeks. And I agree that it should be called murder - to abort a healthy and fully formed baby at 22-24 weeks.

MattCauthon · 28/05/2025 13:04

Menopausalsourpuss · 28/05/2025 12:51

Again extreme cases. The number of abortions relating to pregnant 14 year old is extremely low. And we simply don't know the numbers coerced into pregnancy or abortion so no point speculating.

Funny, you were very clear it was 15% coerced into abortion earlier.

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 13:07

jljlj · 28/05/2025 13:03

Well, it will be unlawful and therefore murder if the limit is reduced. I'm referring to 22-24 weeks. And I agree that it should be called murder - to abort a healthy and fully formed baby at 22-24 weeks.

It won’t be murder. Murder is a specific offence. You can’t commit it against anyone who has not been born. The offence in question is unlawfully procuring a miscarriage/abortion. That is not murder.

TheSwarm · 28/05/2025 13:07

jljlj · 28/05/2025 13:03

Well, it will be unlawful and therefore murder if the limit is reduced. I'm referring to 22-24 weeks. And I agree that it should be called murder - to abort a healthy and fully formed baby at 22-24 weeks.

No, it still wouldn't be murder.

But glad we agree that you were wrong to describe legal abortion as such.

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 28/05/2025 13:09

I think that for Farage this was pretty sensible thinking !

PlutoCat · 28/05/2025 13:09

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 12:59

How much time have you personally spent in the NICU? Do you personally know what late abortions entail?

You do realise that even taking legal abortion medication carries huge risks which are not made fully clear to people?

How do I know? Well, because I actually had to take the exact same medication and go through the exact same procedure when I had a missed miscarriage. My body didn’t get the memo that it had died, I was at risk of severe infection, so had to take those same tablets. I was in one of the best hospitals in the UK and it went horribly, horribly wrong. I bled continuously for several days, blacked out at the hospital, needed my DH to help me use a bedpan, had to be very closely monitored for a blood transfusion. I wasn’t fully recovered for weeks, spent the first 2 weeks after laid up taking multiple iron tablets, bleeding and suffering from severe fatigue. I had no idea the extent of this, I thought it would be quick and straightforward. Sadly not. I don’t think this is publicised honestly enough.

Its not an experience I would wish on anybody.

I am very sorry for your experience and your loss.

What you experienced demonstrates how vital it is that women are not forced into the position where they have to access abortions without proper medical support.

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 13:12

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 12:59

How much time have you personally spent in the NICU? Do you personally know what late abortions entail?

You do realise that even taking legal abortion medication carries huge risks which are not made fully clear to people?

How do I know? Well, because I actually had to take the exact same medication and go through the exact same procedure when I had a missed miscarriage. My body didn’t get the memo that it had died, I was at risk of severe infection, so had to take those same tablets. I was in one of the best hospitals in the UK and it went horribly, horribly wrong. I bled continuously for several days, blacked out at the hospital, needed my DH to help me use a bedpan, had to be very closely monitored for a blood transfusion. I wasn’t fully recovered for weeks, spent the first 2 weeks after laid up taking multiple iron tablets, bleeding and suffering from severe fatigue. I had no idea the extent of this, I thought it would be quick and straightforward. Sadly not. I don’t think this is publicised honestly enough.

Its not an experience I would wish on anybody.

But you say people are routinely using abortion as contraception?

Wishingplenty · 28/05/2025 13:13

I think that people that hold extreme pro choice or prolife views are both two sides of the same coin. The abortion debate will never move forward because both sides both dig out such extreme views and examples to counteract each others argument. I like to believe that the vast silent majority on the subject are pro common sense, but I think most are too scared to voice this opinion for fear of being attacked by either side of the argument.

Dangermoo · 28/05/2025 13:13

jljlj · 28/05/2025 13:03

Well, it will be unlawful and therefore murder if the limit is reduced. I'm referring to 22-24 weeks. And I agree that it should be called murder - to abort a healthy and fully formed baby at 22-24 weeks.

Just as well the legal definition of murder doesn't accord with your view.

wordywitch · 28/05/2025 13:14

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 12:59

How much time have you personally spent in the NICU? Do you personally know what late abortions entail?

You do realise that even taking legal abortion medication carries huge risks which are not made fully clear to people?

How do I know? Well, because I actually had to take the exact same medication and go through the exact same procedure when I had a missed miscarriage. My body didn’t get the memo that it had died, I was at risk of severe infection, so had to take those same tablets. I was in one of the best hospitals in the UK and it went horribly, horribly wrong. I bled continuously for several days, blacked out at the hospital, needed my DH to help me use a bedpan, had to be very closely monitored for a blood transfusion. I wasn’t fully recovered for weeks, spent the first 2 weeks after laid up taking multiple iron tablets, bleeding and suffering from severe fatigue. I had no idea the extent of this, I thought it would be quick and straightforward. Sadly not. I don’t think this is publicised honestly enough.

Its not an experience I would wish on anybody.

So you want women to undergo the same procedure you underwent but in a much more dangerous and unsafe situation, done illegally, with a much higher chance that they will die? I mean, at least you’re honest about the hypocrisy.

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