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Nigel Farage on abortions- slippery slope?

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Ph2028 · 28/05/2025 01:13

Following the speech, Farage was also asked about his view on abortion limits. He replied that he was pro-choice but that it was "utterly ludicrous" for abortion to be allowed up to 24 weeks, when a hospital would "move heaven and earth" to help a baby born at 22 weeks survive.

Aibu to think it may be a slippery slope to reducing the number of weeks until it is effectively banned...

Anyway it's a bit of a non issue on Nigel's part given nearly 94% of reported abortions happen before two and a half months of pregnancy.so very few abortions happen at 24 weeks.

Now i remember why I requested a tubal ligation when I was pregnant with first baby as I didn't want anymore in any circumstances. It was predictably denied so dh got a vasectomy instead.

OP posts:
MyUmberSeal · 28/05/2025 09:41

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:15

Is the trauma of having a baby and giving it up for adoption worse than the trauma of terminating a pregnancy of a healthy baby? Neither option is going to leave no mental scars

Terminating a pregnancy isn’t traumatic for many women. It wasn’t remotely traumatic for me. It was a done deal as soon as I knew I was pregnant. Job done.

PlutoCat · 28/05/2025 09:44

TheSwarm · 28/05/2025 09:30

As late as necessary, as early as possible.

Pro-life is such a complete lie of a term. Pro-lifers don't give a shit about life. They don't give a tiny crap about the thousands of women who die each year because they can't access safe abortion. They just see their control over all those careless women slipping away, and that makes them angry.

Yep. Some of the pro-lifers on this thread are also the ones that blather on about benefit scroungers and support the two children cap etc.

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 09:45

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:04

Very good point

It's not a good point because women aren't currently able to access abortion services after 24 weeks unless they are having a termination for medical reasons.

2021x · 28/05/2025 09:46

In NZ there is no upper limit for abortion though after 20 weeks you need medical sign off.

I cannot find any statistics on how many abortions were performed after 20 weeks last year. The only stats were 763 post 20 weeks abortions were performed over the period of 2009-2019. In a population of 4-5millions

This indicates to me that any of these abortions were for medical reasons to protect the life of the mother. It is most likely that these were wanted babies and heaping any further judgement causes pain to those already in one of the shittest of shit situations.

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 09:50

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:06

This is a ridiculous take on adoption. You're saying that there are no happy adopted children? Do all adopted wish they had been aborted?

I think many adopted children may have feelings of abandonment, particularly if they learn that their birth mother had other children which she kept.

I wouldn't care if I had been aborted as I wouldn't have known anything about it.

tigerlily9 · 28/05/2025 09:50

Glowingup · 28/05/2025 07:18

Then many of the “it feels like a baby” crowd go oddly silent.

What is definition of serious disability? I know some argue you should be allowed to terminate if baby has a cleft palate! There’s nothing wrong to thinking a fetus has a right to life. We know not all terminations are for medical reasons so the hysteria about babies being in pain, and risk to mothers life is not the majority. It’s such an ableist argument as well that disability is so bad you have no option but to terminate. I am pro choice and am happy with rules based on viability. It’s not batshit right wing or god squad to think that. I don’t support a liberal free for all that doesn’t value life or rule of law. If you don’t want a baby use contraception not abortion to control your fertility. If you are unlucky to have to make a difficult decision then you have my sympathy.

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 09:57

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 09:23

Yes and unfortunately the baby doesn't get any say in it

Babies get no say in anything. Babies who are born into a family that doesn't want them because the mother was unable to access an abortion and who are neglected and abused have no say in that either.

Most anti-abortion zealots love the foetus in utero but couldn't give a fuck about them once they have been born.

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:59

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 09:22

Yes I can, because we live in a democracy and I am entitled to my own opinion.

Example A- finds out later in their pregnancy a much-wanted baby will die as soon as they are born, there is nothing anybody can do about that, Mum may even die too. Mum needs to talk about that afterwards because she is inconsolable, trying to process why this has happened and raise understanding and awareness.

Example B- someone who is on their third avoidable, early abortion of a viable foetus minimising this with ‘oh well, it’s only a bundle of cells, it’s no different to using contraception’ and openly boasting about this as an empowered choice to anyone and everyone.

I absolutely have more sympathy and understanding for example A. I would listen to example A talking for hours. Example B I would have less time for.

Talk to me about this “open boasting” you have heard so often. Because I have been involved in women’s reproductive health and abortion rights for many years, and I have NEVER heard anyone “boasting”…..

Aintnobodygottime · 28/05/2025 10:01

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 09:57

Babies get no say in anything. Babies who are born into a family that doesn't want them because the mother was unable to access an abortion and who are neglected and abused have no say in that either.

Most anti-abortion zealots love the foetus in utero but couldn't give a fuck about them once they have been born.

Well, quite often they like the ‘people shouldn’t have babies they can’t afford’ line.

Digdongdoo · 28/05/2025 10:02

thepariscrimefiles · 28/05/2025 09:57

Babies get no say in anything. Babies who are born into a family that doesn't want them because the mother was unable to access an abortion and who are neglected and abused have no say in that either.

Most anti-abortion zealots love the foetus in utero but couldn't give a fuck about them once they have been born.

They don't even love the foetus. What they love is telling women what to do and feeling like they have moral superiority.

Aintnobodygottime · 28/05/2025 10:02

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:59

Talk to me about this “open boasting” you have heard so often. Because I have been involved in women’s reproductive health and abortion rights for many years, and I have NEVER heard anyone “boasting”…..

I’ve heard a LOT of women say how relieved they felt to have had an abortion. I think it is incredibly difficult for women who have only ever been pregnant with much wanted babies to imagine how distressing pregnancy is when you don’t want to be pregnant.

ExtraOnions · 28/05/2025 10:04

Nige wants to tighten abortion rules, remove the 2 child cap .. and would not surprise me to see him look to end free contraception.

He wants us breeding, and staying at home … he wants the population increasing … the White One anyway.

It’s all part of a bigger agenda to restricts women’s rights, choices and opportunities

RafaistheKingofClay · 28/05/2025 10:05

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 07:33

I agree that the limit should be lowered. It wasn’t until I was pregnant myself and saw my baby at my 20 week scan that I realised how developed they are, I was amazed at seeing all of their bones and organs. Facially, my son looks like he does now at almost 7 even from his 12 week scan.

I have every sympathy for any woman who becomes pregnant as a consequence of rape (not her choice), knows her baby will be born with severe health conditions or could die herself during pregnancy or birth. A mother’s life should be saved at any point. Undoubtedly there are many women who have had abortions in devastating circumstances who will be devastated and would have loved a different outcome. My heart goes out to them.

Prevention is better than cure though in many cases, and given we live in a country where there are multiple different forms of contraception for both men and women, which are no longer frowned upon, we do have a responsibility as a couple to not become pregnant in the first place if we don’t want to. Abortion should absolutely not be treated lightly as another form of contraception, and I do know of one person IRL who has treated it that flippantly.

I also find the speeches from some famous women gushing publicly about how ‘empowered’ and ‘successful’ they feel after having abortions unnecessary and quite frankly abhorrent. Show a bit of dignity and class!

I doubt anyone is having an abortion between 20 and 24 weeks as a form of contraception fgs.

RafaistheKingofClay · 28/05/2025 10:07

ExtraOnions · 28/05/2025 10:04

Nige wants to tighten abortion rules, remove the 2 child cap .. and would not surprise me to see him look to end free contraception.

He wants us breeding, and staying at home … he wants the population increasing … the White One anyway.

It’s all part of a bigger agenda to restricts women’s rights, choices and opportunities

Not the white one quite so broadly. I’m going to take a wild stab in the dark and suggest that he wasn’t happy when the U.K. birth rate was being propped up by white Europeans.

PetiteBlondeDuBoulevardBrune · 28/05/2025 10:10

QuestionableMouse · 28/05/2025 06:39

Anyone having an abortion at 24 weeks isn't doing it because they've decided they don't want to have a baby any more. It's likely they've had a devastating diagnosis which means the baby is profoundly disabled and will not survive anyway.

Exactly, and preventing them from aborting means people left to raise a disabled baby against their will… not exactly ideal conditions!

Dotjones · 28/05/2025 10:14

He's allowed his view. If enough people share a view they can get a party elected and the law can be changed. That's how democracy works.

Personally I believe abortion should be allowed at any time up to 36 months. Some people will think that's too late, others perhaps too early. That's fine, we all just need to obey the law as currently active and lobby to change it - or to keep it as is - if we're that concerned.

My view has long been if you don't want an abortion, don't have one, but if people want to live in a society where it is restricted to 10 weeks or banned altogether they are entitled to campaign for a change in the law.

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 10:16

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 09:59

Talk to me about this “open boasting” you have heard so often. Because I have been involved in women’s reproductive health and abortion rights for many years, and I have NEVER heard anyone “boasting”…..

My own best friend has. Also, my own sister, who is Gen Z, massively approves of the current trend of celebrity boasting about it at award ceremonies, saying they have every right to be ‘proud’ of it. That’s going way too far. I don’t think having an abortion is something anybody really aspires to do.

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 10:18

RafaistheKingofClay · 28/05/2025 10:05

I doubt anyone is having an abortion between 20 and 24 weeks as a form of contraception fgs.

I do think some people have normalised it as a form of contraception for early pregnancies, and I disagree with that. It’s irresponsible- we live in a country with multiple forms of free contraception for both men and women.

BDG007 · 28/05/2025 10:19

Dotjones · 28/05/2025 10:14

He's allowed his view. If enough people share a view they can get a party elected and the law can be changed. That's how democracy works.

Personally I believe abortion should be allowed at any time up to 36 months. Some people will think that's too late, others perhaps too early. That's fine, we all just need to obey the law as currently active and lobby to change it - or to keep it as is - if we're that concerned.

My view has long been if you don't want an abortion, don't have one, but if people want to live in a society where it is restricted to 10 weeks or banned altogether they are entitled to campaign for a change in the law.

An abortion at 36 months feels a little late

CurlewKate · 28/05/2025 10:19

Aintnobodygottime · 28/05/2025 10:02

I’ve heard a LOT of women say how relieved they felt to have had an abortion. I think it is incredibly difficult for women who have only ever been pregnant with much wanted babies to imagine how distressing pregnancy is when you don’t want to be pregnant.

Absolutely. Relief is a common and appropriate response. I wonder if that’s what @OutandAboutMum1821 means by “openly boasting”?

Sofiewoo · 28/05/2025 10:20

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 10:16

My own best friend has. Also, my own sister, who is Gen Z, massively approves of the current trend of celebrity boasting about it at award ceremonies, saying they have every right to be ‘proud’ of it. That’s going way too far. I don’t think having an abortion is something anybody really aspires to do.

In what way has your friend “boasted” about her abortion? Do you even understand the words you’re choosing to use?

FatherFrosty · 28/05/2025 10:21

ExtraOnions · 28/05/2025 10:04

Nige wants to tighten abortion rules, remove the 2 child cap .. and would not surprise me to see him look to end free contraception.

He wants us breeding, and staying at home … he wants the population increasing … the White One anyway.

It’s all part of a bigger agenda to restricts women’s rights, choices and opportunities

Yeah I can’t work this out

either we are full or we aren’t

Digdongdoo · 28/05/2025 10:21

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 10:16

My own best friend has. Also, my own sister, who is Gen Z, massively approves of the current trend of celebrity boasting about it at award ceremonies, saying they have every right to be ‘proud’ of it. That’s going way too far. I don’t think having an abortion is something anybody really aspires to do.

How can you call her your "best friend" when you clearly have such a low opinion of her decisions?

Cherrytree86 · 28/05/2025 10:22

ExtraOnions · 28/05/2025 10:04

Nige wants to tighten abortion rules, remove the 2 child cap .. and would not surprise me to see him look to end free contraception.

He wants us breeding, and staying at home … he wants the population increasing … the White One anyway.

It’s all part of a bigger agenda to restricts women’s rights, choices and opportunities

Totally agree with this

FatherFrosty · 28/05/2025 10:22

OutandAboutMum1821 · 28/05/2025 10:16

My own best friend has. Also, my own sister, who is Gen Z, massively approves of the current trend of celebrity boasting about it at award ceremonies, saying they have every right to be ‘proud’ of it. That’s going way too far. I don’t think having an abortion is something anybody really aspires to do.

are you mistaking boasting as not feeling any shame for accessing health care?

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