AIBU to expect relatives to learn to spell and use DDs name?

[Bella5C]

my Dd is almost 2. I am a single parent with grown up children as well. Dd doesn’t know her biological father. He’s not in the picture. However, his family are. They see her weekly/fortnightly or less if they’re on holiday or have medical issues.
Dd has an Irish spelt name. It’s probably one of the harder ones to spell/pronounce. I love it, I learned immediately how to spell it. I have no concerns that she will struggle. As far as I’m concerned once you know how to spell it, you know? People still spell my name and my grown up kids names wrong so I look at it like, with it being quite a unique name, you are going to learn it so you’re not getting it completely wrong.
my Issue is that her relatives (not mine) refuse to learn how to spell it and just refer to her as ‘the wee one’. I easily picked up on this in their texts and didn’t think too much of it. Accepted it really, but then, her Grandmother said to me ‘oh he (her partner) saw a woman holding a child at the end of the road and stopped and said he thought it was Bella5C and the wee one’
she obviously heard herself as she then said to me when leaving, I call her the wee one because I don’t know how to spell her name? AIBU to assume she doesn’t like her name and is refusing to use it? I can understand not spelling it in a text if you think you’ll spell it wrong but to not say her name out loud and use that excuse is surely, a load of crap? Just looking for opinions really, although I may eventually say something?

Awe, that's sweet. 😊

I wouldn’t worry about it and I’d let them call whatever they want. My name is almost never spelt correctly and that includes my own parents. My sisters and brothers all use an abbreviated version. I don’t mind at all, in fact I think it’s funny. Your daughter is only two so I doubt she minds either.
People rarely know how to pronounce my name either but that also doesn’t bother me. I like that people ask me about my name.
My kids have French relatives and they call my kids an assortment of names.

I have a common English name with an unusual spelling (but a legitimate one) and it’s been misspelt all my life- by close relatives, colleagues etc. Even nowadays with my name on work emails, Teams, saved contacts on phones, social media etc, it still gets spelt wrong. Don’t know why my parents bothered.

My ds towers over me now, but I still call him wee man it's his nickname with both sides of his family