Petty neighbour

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So I’ve been living in my flat with my family for just over 3 years now, everyone has been lovely never had an issue with anyone, we have 1 allocated parking space for each flat and the parking is really tight, I always be careful to not hit anyone’s car door with my door but sometimes I have to lean my door on there’s to get in and out as I won’t fit otherwise and I think it’s gotten harder now as I’m 37 weeks pregnant!
so in my post box today I found a handwritten note from the neighbour who parks next to me and she’s said she’s noticed some paint marks of my car on her car and if we could call her to look into it together 😐 its just transferred paint and will come off even if you lick your finger I’m so shocked she’s actually said something like this as she knows I’m pregnant and we’re also moving out in 2 days!
Do I act like I’ve never seen the note and just leave or do I actually call her I’m literally waddling around in so much pain moving house and heavily pregnant I thought she’d be more considerate

You are definitely being unreasonable putting your car door against another car door - pregnant or not. Maybe make an excuse this time to your neighbour about being heavily pregnant but don't do it again. That's not ok.

being pregnant isnt a get out of jail free card
speak to the neighbour

Have you read any of the replies? I haven't seen a single one as yes that suggests the neighbour is selfish or in the wrong?

Sorry OP but you are being a bit of a that. You posted in AIBU but you are over---defensive. Don't post if you don't like the responses.

Also, I would be massively pissed off if my card got marked. As someone else said you aren't the first person to be pregnant and if it was so easy to remove the stain why didn't you do it the first place?

Ugh, massive typos!

Absolutely do this, then call her and tell her you’ve had a look and it’s sorted.

I’ve no idea why she went to all that expense for a rented flat that she’s moving out of, but here we are 🤔

Absolute mountain out of molehill, anyway. As soon as you read the note, pop round with your trusty wet wipes, apologising as you rub off the paint. Oh and yes £100 for the wardrobe will be great, thanks Sandra. Job done.

I’d be furious too. I would not accept any marks on my car from someone else’s car. The cheek 😱

You've not answered the question. If it comes off with a wet wipe, why didn't you wipe it off? Then, according to you, there would have been nothing to see, and no note. You're coming across as a bit of an idiot here.

You're moving out in 2 days and just recently spent a ton of money on renovations? Something doesn't ring true here....

Glad it came off, but yes you should still call and apologise and let her know it’s sorted

Re all these issues:
”Ive had my brand new stone bath damaged and scratched my brand new brass radiator scratched from top to bottom, my new door frames bashed, my flooring completely ruined after paying so so much for it as well and I’ve said nothing! Because some of them was an accident and accidents happen I don’t go around asking people to go pay for it I know a lot of people would and I probably should’ve”

Yes you absolutely need to say something about all of these things!!
Even if some were accidents, the companies will be insured and should sort them out. Stop being a pushover

If these items are in your new house, you are going to be pissed off every time you notice them

If they are in your current house you need to get them sorted before the new buyers move in and complain!

People have different standards - what’s a small insignificant scratch for 1 person is a dealbreaker for another

Accept that, sort out the issues and move on - you will have plenty to focus on in a few weeks! 👶

Acknowledge the note, don't be a dick.
Fgs my children are aware that they cause damage to someone else's property. They must pay for the damage.
Don't be sly.

Just stop and think about what you're saying OP. You say "It's just transferred paint", but for paint to be transferred to car A, it must have left car B. So at least one of the two cars has less paint than it did before. You can't just assume that it's only your car which has lost paint in these little incidents. It's quite possible (indeed probable) that paint has transferred from her car to your car too. And if that's the case, then this is damage, and she's not unreasonable to be irked by it.

Sure you are struggling, and it does sound hard, but your position seems to be that:

(1) because of your own struggles, other people who have no personal connection to you should overlook things you do, and.
(2) because you are more laissez-faire about looking after your own property, anyone who is more careful / concerned than you are is being precious and difficult.

Sorry OP but those two things are red flags for you being a cheeky f**ker (CF).

Obviously the bath, radiators etc are for the newly renovated house that she's moving to.

It's hardly rocket science 🙄

So why DIDN'T you lick your finger and wipe it off? You caused the marks. If they're that easy to clean, YOU clean them.

YABU and your subsequent posts prove that you have a shitty, entitled attitude. Likely only to get worse once the baby actually arrives.

Not clear, and not rocket science at all. Bit then OPs posts pretty much are unclear anyway with conflicting info....well done you though for being on the same wave length as her....

There will be scratches from the paint transfer.
A wet wipe won't remove scratch marks.
I would be mortified, apologetic, requesting a quotation for buffing off the scratch marks.

Your attitude stinks.

Waddle down, sort it out. Move house in peace.

Good luck.

When the Daily Mail gets hold of this and finds out OP is the first pregnant woman in history, all hell is going to break loose. Follow-up story: AND she’s moving house, history is being made here.

YABU. If you'd added a poll then I'm pretty sure it would have been around 99% YABU.

You put your hand over the edge of the car door so the metal doesn't touch their car.

If it's just paint that can be wiped off then why didn't you?! That's do lazy and rude!

Contact the neighbour and go and clean the paint off. If there is any further damage then pay for a repair.

What you touch their car when getting out of yours? And as a result damaged their property? And you think YOU are the victim and they’re the problem. Come on, it’s common sense that you ensure you don’t touch other people’s cars, let alone damage them and being pregnant doesn’t excuse it at all. I have allocated parking spaces, I’m disabled with an autistic child and guess what - we have never even touched our neighbours car and if we ever damaged it you bet I would realise I’m in the wrong.

has your victim act got you far?

“Obviously”? Not remotely obvious from the original post where you planned to move without speaking to her.

So your problems are huge but hers is petty?

@KaToby 100% agree, I have a new car I work hard for and would be furious if I saw anyone pregnant or otherwise putting there door on to mine. I’ve been heavily pregnant in tight spaces I put my hand over my door so the door doesn’t touch the other car just my hand

I bet the neighbours have bought the bunting already!