Petty neighbour

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So I’ve been living in my flat with my family for just over 3 years now, everyone has been lovely never had an issue with anyone, we have 1 allocated parking space for each flat and the parking is really tight, I always be careful to not hit anyone’s car door with my door but sometimes I have to lean my door on there’s to get in and out as I won’t fit otherwise and I think it’s gotten harder now as I’m 37 weeks pregnant!
so in my post box today I found a handwritten note from the neighbour who parks next to me and she’s said she’s noticed some paint marks of my car on her car and if we could call her to look into it together 😐 its just transferred paint and will come off even if you lick your finger I’m so shocked she’s actually said something like this as she knows I’m pregnant and we’re also moving out in 2 days!
Do I act like I’ve never seen the note and just leave or do I actually call her I’m literally waddling around in so much pain moving house and heavily pregnant I thought she’d be more considerate

Did your husband ask her permission before fiddling with her car this evening?

Wise up, he just wiped off the mark she had complained about. He has quite literally solved the problem!

@LaMarschallinYes were friendly to each other but she moans about others a lot we’ve never had a problem between ourselves before or anyone else in the flat and the mark is gone like it was never there I knew it was just a bit of paint lol she really didn’t have to take it as far as putting a note in our letter box like that

@MathsMagpieOh don’t worry I’m sure she’ll be over the moon that it’s gone and won’t worry if he’s been fiddling with her car for Christ sake 😂

@CanelliniBeansBut it wasn’t really damaged was it ? Ive had my brand new stone bath damaged and scratched my brand new brass radiator scratched from top to bottom, my new door frames bashed, my flooring completely ruined after paying so so much for it as well and I’ve said nothing! Because some of them was an accident and accidents happen I don’t go around asking people to go pay for it I know a lot of people would and I probably should’ve

If it was so easy to sort why didn't you wipe your neighbour's car door when you knew you might have rubbed paint onto it? You know your door has been leaning on hers, you could have checked for paint and cleaned it off. This would have stopped any drama.

"Call her to say what sorry I got a bit of paint on your car"
Yes, obviously that. It's common courtesy to reply to her very straightforward and polite note to let her know what's going on.
You could have sorted all of this out really quickly and simply, hours ago, in the time it has taken you to disagree with everyone on here.

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That’s what I wondered lol. Bit odd her husband went out at 11pm and magically wiped it all clean. Wouldn’t it have been easier to actually view the damage and sort it in natural daylight?! OP just sounds entitled and immature inbetween banging on about her stone bath and brass radiator damage 🙄 and how she doesn’t mind as if everyone should have her approach to life. Completely pointless thread really when it all it took was her husband and a tissue after all that and she’s going back and forth on MN for hours arguing with strangers😂

So it's nothing to do with you being pregnant?

I wonder how she's managing not to lean her car doors on your car?

You are rude, entitled and dont give a shit about other peoples property

Bet your neighbour is glad youre fucking off

To be honest if you can't open your door without it pushing into her car then you shouldn't park there. Paint doesn't just come off cars. It will have been scraped into the other car to come off.

How does writing you a note mean she was crying over it?

If I'm parked close to another car so that there is a risk of my car door touching theirs, I always hold on to the door around the widest bit to make sure it doesn't. If I can't open the door and get out without hurting my fingers, obviously I'm parked too close and I either repark or get out the other side. It's really not difficult to avoid hitting another car in those circumstances.

I agree too OP. Sometimes you do need to rest your door on a car parked to get out in a tight space. I can’t understand really people saying they’ve never had to do it. Some parking spaces are just super tight and if you are somewhere alone you can’t just not park your car. It doesn’t damage either car. I don’t think I’ve ever had paint transfer doing so but as you say paint transfer normally comes off so I’d just go out and do that for the neighbour and let them know.

Not sure why your litany of problems are anything to do with her.. she's not gonna refrain from complaining about your actions because you're pregnant,back pain,damaged bath,moving house etc. and why SHOULD she? It's literally not her problem you're knocked up!

FFS!!

I cannot fathom the hard time the OP has received on this thread. Utterly pathetic - the lot of you 😅

The paint mark came off !!! Drama over now folks. You'll have to go and clutch your pearls over something else now. Maybe have a gander at my 15 year old car and all its scratch marks that I do not give one shiny shit about because It Doesn't Matter....

Wowzers - rude

You've marked their car - If its the kind of mark you can wipe off, wipe it off! If it's anything more, pay for it. Your pregnancy is irrelevant.

NRTFT. No poll but YABU. How the fuck do you think this is OK?

Strange because you're certainly coming over as one.

Alright 😂 professional victim.

That is because your car is 15 years old and full of scratch marks and you don’t give a shiny shit about it because you don’t think it matters! 😂

I don’t think you’ve come across well on this thread OP. You’ve obviously got a lot going on.

TBH you have made a mountain out of a mole hill. She only asked to meet with you to discuss the matter. You could have met with her armed with your baby wipes and wiped the marks off- job done! No need to sour relations.

FWIW I understand you need to lean on the car next to you, I’ve done it myself when pregnant. I use my hand between the cars at the widest bit between the doors where they touch to ensure there isn’t any damage- however irrelevant (to you) that maybe.

Good luck with your house move, I’ve renovated- it’s tough! You need to come down harder on your contractors, they are taking the piss causing all that damage for which they will be insured for. I’ve no idea why you aren’t addressing their carelessness and excusing it for accident.

I’m sorry you’ve had a lot of life stress at the moment, I can’t imagine renovating, moving and having a baby in a short space of time!

My suggestion is;

• Call or text your neighbour to say that your husband’s managed to wipe the paint off but you are happy to look at the damage together if need be.
• Stop reading this thread as some of the insensitive comments on here are not going to help you.
• Take a deep breath.

Enjoy your new home and new baby!

Why have you spent so much money on your house recently if you’re moving in 2 days

YABVVU to even ‘rest’ your car door on someone else’s car! If I saw you do that to mine, I’d be pretty pissed off… Oh and if you’ve left paint on hers, that’s not just a transfer. Stop being an entitled dick.

OP when you’ve eventually given birth you’ll have a baby to get out of your car usually in a car seat. Unfortunately many spaces you’ll park will be tight and lots of places won’t have a child and parent parking spaces.

You may want to consider adjusting your method as I don’t imagine it will get the reception to match your attitude.