Petty neighbour

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So I’ve been living in my flat with my family for just over 3 years now, everyone has been lovely never had an issue with anyone, we have 1 allocated parking space for each flat and the parking is really tight, I always be careful to not hit anyone’s car door with my door but sometimes I have to lean my door on there’s to get in and out as I won’t fit otherwise and I think it’s gotten harder now as I’m 37 weeks pregnant!
so in my post box today I found a handwritten note from the neighbour who parks next to me and she’s said she’s noticed some paint marks of my car on her car and if we could call her to look into it together 😐 its just transferred paint and will come off even if you lick your finger I’m so shocked she’s actually said something like this as she knows I’m pregnant and we’re also moving out in 2 days!
Do I act like I’ve never seen the note and just leave or do I actually call her I’m literally waddling around in so much pain moving house and heavily pregnant I thought she’d be more considerate

@LaMarschallinWell being pregnant makes it twice as harder especially when your struggling with severe lower back pain and finding it difficult to get in and out

@ReadingSoManyThreadsTHANK YOU! somebody who finally understands! I usually am really careful as well as I wouldn’t want to damage my own door who does? But if you have no other choice and the car door doesn’t open all the way and you need to squeeze out what can I do? It’s literally some paint! I’ve never hit her car door hard or anything ever just had to lean on it to squeeze out

Go and look with her. I’m sure she’s tried rubbing it off. Even pregnant women shouldn’t damage other people’s cars. Park elsewhere until you move if you can’t exit the car without damaging others

@olympicsrockOk so you’ve never ever done it before? Yep ok because you fly out of the roof of your car yep 😂

You genuinely can't see why she's annoyed? You keep brushing it off as 'just paint' but you must be able see where she's coming from?

@CanelliniBeansnobody purposely would want to “damage” someone else’s car if I’ve done it then it’s clearly because I couldn’t fit where the space is so tight, my flat is on a steep hill and I suffer with severe lower back pain atm the last thing I want to do is park down the main road and walk up because I have a tiny bit of paint on her car 🫣

@raisingstars honestly you do sound quite entitled. Just because you have a lot of things going on in your life right now doesn’t negate anything (no matter how small it may appear to you) going on in hers. If you’re so sure that’s all it is then why bother making a MN post lol. If it’s all very first world problems just give her a call then go investigate, whip out your magic wipe and job done! Good luck anyway with your baby and move!

Yes much better to damage someone's property to ease your own existence

@BallerinaRadioI do get where she’s coming from but I wouldn’t do something like that and leave a note myself but I guess that’s just me and I’m too nice especially when we were friendly and nice to each other it’s come as a shock tbh maybe she could have worded it nicer in the letter I don’t know she was asking us to sell our wardrobe to her the other day and now she’s talking to us like this it’s just come as a bit of shock tbh

Jeez. Your pregnancy, your car, your inconvenience, your stressful renovation… It all doesn’t revolve around you? If you couldn’t get out of your car without transferring paint onto her car, park somewhere else!
Fix what you did - even if it’s just “a wipe off”. Bet your neighbour can’t wait for you to move. She’s sure as shit not the unreasonable one.

Precisely, “it’s clearly because I couldn’t fit”.
Your space is therefore not appropriate for you to use at this time as you can’t utilise it without you causing damage.

She asked you politely to look at the damage you'd done to her car. I'm not sure why you've taken such offence to this

@Panterusblackishyeah because I enjoy purposely damaging other peoples property makes me feel so much better

I was gonna say it definitely isn't only the OP that's looking forward to moving day 😂

@CunningLinguist1She moans about everyone in the flat she’s going to have a good moan about the new tenants nobody bothers her but she’s one of them ones who thinks she owns the place! So good luck to her everyone else says how nice and quiet we’ve been and are upset to see us go we’re not trouble makers she’s just like I said “petty” 😂

Just because the red paint just wiped
off yours, doesn't mean you've done the same damage to hers.

i HATE my car being damaged by other cars doors, so i park as carefully as I can, but it still happens. My neighbour who I get on with very very well. Chipped paint on my door the other day & im pissed off because she's hit careful.

but my paintwork is scuffed in places due to people 'l resting' their doors on mine, then getting out. The change in height (their dirt moving up and down due the change in weight as they get out scuffs my paint work. It pisses me off, but what can you do??

I've mentally prepared to have it sprayed at some stage.

You’re too nice?

Go and rub the paint off if it’s so easy to get rid of and let her know you’ve sorted it

Praise be! Your actions have caused me damage and costs to my car

bless you and bless that you couldn’t get out but you did anyway

@sheknowsitstoolateMy husbands just done it now he said there isn’t a single mark left it was only 3/4 tiny white spots literally omg I can’t believe she was crying over that 🫣 wow if I’d seen it before I would’ve just done it myself honestly I’d be embarrassed to write someone a note without trying to sort it myself

Well she's not the only one embarrassed herself writing something out....

@BallerinaRadioDont think I’ve embarrassed myself at all I’ve just proved my point 😂

No I'd be quite embarrassed reading this thread back

I’m too nice especially when we were friendly and nice to each other

Really? You're not sounding very nice here.

Also, one minute you say you "were friendly and nice to each other" then say:

She moans about everyone in the flat she’s going to have a good moan about the new tenants nobody bothers her but she’s one of them ones who thinks she owns the place!

Presumably, the mark will get fainter and easier to remove and your neighbour will get nastier until everyone on MN agrees with you.

You sound very entitled and unreasonable. Try and imagine having your car damaged that way by someone so entitled.