Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

Make sure you check around the house for other sabotaged or broken items.

Noone writes like that ? Do they?!

Yes, there's lots of threads like that. It's better just not to read or reply to them if you think the OP is lying than to demand photographic evidence of some broken jewellery.

I'd shit on her doorstep and fuck the bloke.

No, of course not. But some people buckle under police investigation and come clean, maybe under pressure of texts she will admit it to OP - it’s early days. I’m just saying that it’s worth reporting whatever the outcome, and my point about the notice is in response to other posters who say it’s not serious enough to investigate in the first place (it is a crime).

What does “I will not hesitate to pursue the matter with the utmost urgency” even mean? Does it mean you’ll take her to Court via a small claims? Does it mean you’ll file charges with the Police?

Is the jewellery costume jewellery or fine jewellery?

Can you please post a picture?

This is psychotic!!

She has compelling circumstantial evidence – the friend was the only other person in the house when the damage occurred, the friend concocted an implausible excuse for the damage and the friend specifically referenced the items being broken when OP hadn't said anything about their condition – she just asked if the friend knew anything about it. Yes, it's a minor crime in the scheme of things but it's still criminal damage committed in OP's home. Why should she not pursue it?

Surely if you’d stumbled and fallen, you’d have simply knocked whatever they had been placed on (presumably a little dish or something) and they’d have fallen onto the console or the floor? They wouldn’t have broken or become bent!
Also the fact that she immediately said she didn’t break them. She clearly did!

I don’t know OP’s individual policy but I doubt it would be covered because she invited her friend into her house.
And if it is, it probably, wouldn’t be worth claiming once you’ve taken the excess and the increase in premiums for the next few years, into account.
I’m so sorry OP, when you invite people into your home you expect to be able to trust them.

“Compelling circumstantial evidence” she has no evidence .. neither The Police, or you, can disprove that she didn’t fall into it and break it herself … and is looking to blame the friend in order yo recoup the money, or, claim on the Insurance.

Police “why did you say it was broken”
Friend “because I saw her fall into it and break it”

Thanks Sherlock

You must've fallen pretty heavily and fast on all of the jewellry which was lined up in a row when you fell on it, after you knocked it all over on the floor having crashed into the table. None of which you remember of course but luckily she was there to pick it all up and place it neatly back on the table and remember what had happened.

A likely bloody story.

Good grief, no! OP shouldn’t be within a mile of the fruitcake ever again.

She's obviously lying but I can't see the police bringing a prosecution about this.

I don't understand how you know it's £300 of damage. And can't you just bend it back again?

Why do you keep your jewellery on display in the hall? Especially if it's valuable.

No I can’t see them bringing a prosecution. But they might record it and they might speak to the person who did it.

That's really spiteful.

OP, follow your gut instincts and go NC. If she's caused this damage, she will do similar again. Next time she could even hurt you.

😂

Were you both pittled?

Serioulsy, you think they will spend time interrogating her over £300 worth of broken jewellery?

If the OP really wants to pursue it she should do it in a civil court where the burden of proof is far less onerous.

To be fair, £300 if it's multiple pieces isn't really valuable jewellery. Could be 5 £60 pieces.

OP your “utmost urgency”(very formal for a text between so called friends) is to block her and make sure she can’t track you.
Sounds like a stalker in the making who will slash your tyres if she thinks you’ve gone anywhere near this man.

It’s not about the damage. It’s about her behaviour.

I think it's more that £300 worth of jewellery has been damaged, rather than £300 of damage has been done.

Obviously, unless it's all non precious metal and not worth mending, broken jewellery still has some value.

Not to the police it isn't.