Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

Any updates OP?
Does she work in a job she would need to declare if there was a criminal investigation against her?
Please warn your mutual friends she sounds unhinged

I think your over thinking this. She was pissed, she did something bad, denied it & will probably just equally avoid you.

Yes she shouldn't have done it but unless your going to come straight out and accuse her + deal with the fall out from that then there's no point going ahead with anything she's an adult. She knows the police won't do anything & for everyone person who sides with you (of her friends) they'll be 1 who thinks "but why would she do this, I've never had her brake my shit"

Either demand the money to fix & face her not paying or move on with no contact because you know she did it

I'm glad you're doing something about this and not letting her get away with it. So many people on here have 0 confidence and would rather enable criminals for an easy life.

The police can also dust for her fingerprints. The fact she mentioned they were 'broken', is also very telling. Your message could have meant 'missing, moved, covered in something' etc but she instantly knew they were broken. Not only that, she then tried to gaslight you! She is psychotic! I would be telling said mutual male about what she did - She's a red-flag! Prevent what might be an abusive relationship, if she gets her hands on him....?

I would also definitely be telling people what she did, even if she does pay up. She cannot use money as a bribe or entrapment. What an awful girl.

You may have evidence; her fingerprints could be all over the jewelry,

They literally won't check for prints

'The police can also dust for her fingerprints'

What on some damaged jewellery?!

I think they save fingerprinting for serious crimes.

I'm here for the photo , I can't quite imagine how jewelry is broken...chains snapped?

You'll have to write it off as there's no way you can prove she did it, no way on God's green earth is anyone going to come and take fingerprints. You say she did, she'll deny it.

I’m petty as anything so I’d suddenly be finding the mutual friend a lot more attractive and getting him to play along with it. Sounds like classic narcissistic rage. (Seen this myself before)

Actually she's not "literally" stepping on you. (Although she may have stepped on your jewelry.)
Check out the difference between "literally" and "metaphorically."

There is no way the police will dust for fingerprints. Two people I know got burgled last year, the police didn’t even come out. Actual door broken , burglaries. One had the car keys taken. They did find the car.

they are too busy arresting people who are trying to exercise their freedom of expression on Whatsapp or Twitter.

True

So many people use that word incorrectly these days. It's just now used to (unnecessarily) emphasise a point.

can U send us photos OP

Try to get an alcohol test :

Alcohol can be detected in the body for varying amounts of time, depending on the testing method used and individual factors. Generally, alcohol remains detectable in blood for up to 12 hours, in breath for 12-24 hours, in urine for 24-48 hours (or up to 80 hours with specific tests), in saliva for 12-24 hours, and in hair for up to 90 days.

With friends like you, who need enemies?

The evidence would be a test revealing no alcohol consumed in past 80 hours

Tell her if she pays you back you’ll sign something to say you won’t tell people what she’s done .

Maybe she will. My point is that I have no idea what I paid for several pieces of non valuable jewellery. It just sounds like a number plucked out of the air to me.

Something about the way this is written makes me think you are being a bit dramatic and probably trying it on re the amount you are quoting .

No response from Boiler. Easiest way out for her would be an unmarked envelope of cash through letterbox, no admission, no guilt, problem solved for good.

She sounds nuts. Police won’t do anything. Just tell her how weird she is, fuck that guy, warn friends and move on.

I've been following this throughout the day and I just wanted to say that I think your message to her was the perfect response. Stick to it.

You need to tell all and sundry about her behaviour though, preferably before she spins a story.