Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

You understand that I am saying what will happen, yes, not what I think ought to happen?
And that that I am not telling her not to report it? I've never suggested for a minute she shouldn't report it if she wants to.

I think that's a good response. Sometimes you have to get a bit uppity to impress upon people trying that psycho shit on you that a) you're not letting them walk all over you, b) you're not their friend any more, and C) you're more than prepared to hold them to account for it.
Even if you don't do anything, it'll give them something to chew on.
The idea of several pieces of jewellery on a table being bent out of shape by somebody falling on them is quite comical really.
How did you two ever become friends?

If she continues to deny it, just say "no worries I will check my indoor camera" 😉😂

"Spite marriage" is as good a reason to marry as many other reasons 😁

What do you think the police will do? £300 of damage, unproven who did it, one word against another. It'll be a civil case that will get nowhere.

But it is not even a crime unless it is clear who did the damage. Friend says OP did it herself by stumbling. Why would the police get involved in a tiff between ex-friends?

Hmm,

Now, why do I feel like I really would like to hear the friends version of the encounter?

Something about the energy of the OP's last two posts have the got the old spidy senses tingling.

Police won’t get involved as friend says she did it. The Op is rightfully angry but also coming across as a bit unhinged too tbh

Did they reply to your message op?

What a horrible woman

You are right she's painted herself into a corner. Her only option is to stick to her story and tough it out and that's what I'd expect to happen.

She will know that it's very unlikely you would complain to the police and even if you do they won't be interested.

If you want to freak her out, tell her you are in the process of getting finger prints lifted privately
https://www.private-detectives.co.uk/services/fingers1index.html

If she needs to continue her lie, all she has to say was you knocked into the console it went flying and she picked it up and put it back which is why it had finger prints on it. She didn't notice whether it was bent or not so can't say whether it happened before or after she touched it but it wasn't her.

Another way to freak her out is to tell her that you have to report it as a crime because unless she pays you will need to claim on insurance... that may interest the police in her mind.

Scarlett O’Hara did it, after all…

This is a very tricky situation.
You need to keep her at arms length, can't see her owning up to what she must have done.

She is not your friend. Check your handbags to ensure that she hasn't shat inside all of them.

Don't believe her if she plays the 'You have a jewellery hating ghost in your house,' card.

She is a nasty witch!

I think, just be thankful she did not smother you with a pillow whilst you were sleeping. Block her.

This!

But in a nice, concerned way, “ Have you seen psycho bitch, recently? I am a bit worried about her, she deliberately damaged some property of mine when she stayed over the other night and now denies it! I know she is very fond of you, so do take care as I suspect she is having problems with anger issues and jealousy - some of which I suspect is centred on you. Let’s meet up for a drink soon”

Call her bluff! Tell her that when you checked back on the home cctv it was evident what really happened. She has 24 hours to pay for the damage or you hand the footage to the police.

This is my take too - something about the OP seems a bit off. I’d be interested to hear the ‘friends’ side of the story.

*sorry i meant to quote a post further up.

I wish people wouldn’t throw around defamation without understanding it.

Maybe she is very rich and can pursue one of the vanishingly rare cases that make it to High court each year. No doubt also the defendant could waste the friend’s money with an argument that it was her honest opinion at the time and the complainant’s significant losses/ tangible emotional distress were what exactly?

I’m sorry, OP. The broken jewelry is a material loss but it’s also really unsettling to have someone you trusted in your home while you sleep do something malicious like that. You've called her on it but she’s going to keep denying it and there’s no way to prove she did the damage (yes, logically you can be positive she did but that’s not the same as proving it) so I’d say now it’s time to turn your energy to getting her out of your life and moving on.

Do give the male friend a heads up. I’m hoping the suggestions of pursuing or sleeping with him in this thread are all jokes, but obviously don’t do that. This woman has done enough damage without letting her provoke you into being an even shittier human to someone else who has nothing to do with this.

The sort of thing a six year old might do in temper. Not an adult. This woman is trouble!

By all means report so you feel you've done what you can, but she's already thought up her excuse and you'd have a hard time proving anything.
Sounds like you've lost a pretty worthless friend and you're better off without her - concentrate on other friends.

The police won't do a thing, it's her word against her friend's.

Surely, surely this destroyer of jewellery in hallway consoles has form for such destructive behaviour op or is this all new?

I think this is one of those situation where you could either spend your time and energy thinking 'what would Mrs Vito Corleone do?' or just chalk it down to a bad experience, sever the friendship with the newly revealed psychopath and move on. Be thankful that you didn't own a pet rabbit.

The Police are rubbish, so I doubt they'll do much apart from put it down as a domestic squabble between women.