To not complain about nursery handing our daughter off to a man they haven’t seen before

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So background: my father in law is a silver tongued fox and very personable.

He was visiting the area and decided to pick my daughter up from nursery on the way in, I arrived at the nursery to see him in the doorway, holding her hand and saying goodbye to the nursery staff.

My wife thinks we should complain because they didn’t know him from Adam but I think if we complain they’ll just say that they wouldn’t have let them leave until a parent got here cos he was still technically in the nursery and the nursery is attached to the school and I don’t think kicking up a fuss is the best first impression with the primary school.

Any thoughts? AIBU for not wanting to complain?

Yep, same!

Good Lord, my nursery require an email with a photograph and a password if anyone beyond usual carers are picking up.

Have they (and you) forgotten about the random man that strolled into a dance class and killed children? I know that seems over the top but it happened.

Also nursery attendance has sod all to do with primary places so you really shouldn't care more about making a good impression on a potential school than the safeguarding of your child and everyone elses

My daughters nursery request a list of people able to pick them up, also require a password be given and ID to be shown before access ti child is granted. I dont know what on earth your nursery were thinking but you most definitely should report

You should definitely complain! Children should be handed over only to those authorised to pick them up. A huge safeguarding failure!

Report it. Re your OP if the school doesn’t like you raising a really serious safeguarding concern, don’t send your child there.