What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

There is no right to have a child.

I totally agree with this! It’s what my (late) husband and I did. Absolutely no point in continuing a relationship if our respective children didn’t get on well enough, as we would all be living together permanently.

I think it's an unfortunately mixture of both because undiagnosed ND parents are more likely to struggle with the relentlessness of parenting. ND also has a higher overlap with MH conditions along with physical or autoimmune health problems. This leads to problems holding down employment or being able to earn enough to accommodate material needs for your children.

So the children have a genetic susceptibility to ND which is compounded by parents who may be overwhelmed by the needs of their children or have made poorer choices in partners and relationships. Which all leads to a much higher chance of trauma, abuse or neglect in childhood.

That's not an unpopular opinion.
That's hateful.

What the heck is glinner?

What if your baby is born with teeth 😂

That having one small glass of wine a night doesn’t automatically make you an alcoholic.

Factory farming is not natural. That is why many people choose to avoid meat

Having babies way in your 40s.

Exactly this.

In some other cultures, they regard British parenting as borderline abusive because we infantilise people that are of adult age (16, 17, 18, 19) and who should be capable of far more than we expect them to be.

I left home at 17. Found a job, moved to London on my own. I'm no more capable than the next person so if I could be independent, the vast majority of 17/18 year olds are capable individuals too.

It's MN wisdom that bad/obnoxious behaviour is always down to ADHD/MH, it never occurs to some, that people can be horrible and behave badly because that is the just the way they are.

I started full time work three weeks after my 16th birthday, I was NOT a child.

My unpopular opinion is that the UK has become hyper focused on labelling children instead of dealing with the increasingly narrow education system and an epidemic of shit parenting. A lack of boundaries is also leading to poor mental health and complete lack of resilience in the children and youth of today.

Getting off my soapbox now.

I didn't contradict myself:Osempic/Mounjaro reduce feelings of hunger so you automatically eat less. There is no "obligation to do the works" as some posters claim. You will lose weight just by eating less thanks to the jabs.
You sound very angey so you are clearly invested in this while I just gave my opinion on different topics. Feel free to disagree, that's sort of the point with this thread.😄

I have an ex student who is 17. Is finishing up an apprenticeship. Has saved £12,000 and paid cash for a car, after passing his driving test. Is about to move into a job paying over £30,000 a year. Is now saving for a deposit for a house.

He's also severely dyslexic so his SEN has complicated life for him a LOT.

You do realise what a tiny percentage of the population have access to a tractor and land to learn to drive it on?

Agree.

i was working 60 hours - sometimes more - from 2 separate jobs aged 17

That all benefits (including OAP ones like winter fuel allowance and free prescriptions) should be means-tested;
that there should be some basic tests/education to be undertaken before people have children;
that the country needs proportional representation;
that the government should prioritise spending on mental health support;
that pre-school childcare should be free;
that elderly care should be free.

In case it's of interest, I'm a labour voter.

Perfectly OK.

Some working class ‘uneducated’ people- adults and children - can also be vile pieces of shit

I thought I was an adult at that age, had a job, had met my future husband etc.
Unfortunately I wasn't an adult and waltzed into a marriage that was emotionally, physically and financially abusive.
But the time I was mature enough to understand I had kids and whilst ending the marriage was the lesser of two evils it was still damaging to the kids.
I think at 16 you can be independent but you still need guidance and parents who will step up if things go bad or there is someone mistreating you.

That won’t work in this context, said to little children in east Lancs when they ask for proper pop!

You might not have been a child, but you will not have been a fully mature adult either.
You don't suddenly wake up one morning having attained a certain age, or started work.and have magically gained adult levels of life experience, reasoning etc.

We're not really apex predators. We're omnivores.

Where Do Humans Really Rank on the Food Chain?

That is another one for the pot

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"You do realise...' then finished with something that missed the point of the conversation entirely.

Yes I realise there are fewer opportunities to access a tractor, and am thankful for it but the conversation wasn't about which vehicles do young people have the most access to, learn how to drive in, it was about the age one can learn to drive.

Also while I have a farming background, I was not born on a farm nor was any of my then relatives in farming.

I got a job in farming, despite being a townie. So access to tractors is limited but not impossible for people willing to learn.

Women who won’t even consider or try breastfeeding, just because they “don’t want to”, are selfish and don’t have their children’s best interests at heart.

Step mums who are fully involved in their step kids’ lives (I.e. the kid(s) live with them for a decent percentage of the time), have every right to attend parents evenings/advents, take them to the doctor/dentist, do school pick ups/drops offs, etc, as long as the children’s father (i.e., their partner), is ok with it, and the kids’ bio mum has no right to veto any of it happening.

If you call an ambulance when you don’t need pre-hospital emergency care, then you should have to pay costs. Too many people in genuine need are left without resources because ambulances are attending Johnny with a head laceration or Julie who can’t stop vomiting and “has no transport to the hospital”.