What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

NOTHING brings out the latent class prejudice of well educated middle class people more than either -

(as a child/teenager) - saying out loud to middle class people that you wanted to go to a ‘working class’ school

OR

saying you intend to send your children to a ‘working class’ school

That children are capable of walking to school and other places and staying home alone from around 7 years old, and that it's good for them to encourage increasing levels of independence and responsibility.

No uniforms in schools works perfectly well and doesn't turn into a fashion parade. Though I do understand that those whose only experience of no uniforms is the occasional non-uniform day don't realise this because that is different to no uniforms every day.

I use an ensuite bathroom.for any function you would normally use a toilet or bathroom for and do not find it grim or vile

I celebrate my birthday and enjoy celebrating other adults birthdays

I ask favours from people and they from me, it's a mutual thing and seems normal rather than cheeky fuckery

I find class WhatsApp useful

I'd wear jeans or a hoodie multiple times before washing.
I do laundry for all the family because I think it would be faffy and inconvenient for each person to do theirs separately

My wedding costs thousands and was at a golf club and was not on fb or instagram

The majority of cats are incredibly dim.

No trained professional doctor is going to mistakenly diagnose a neurotypical child as ND because of ‘lazy parenting’

Thank you.

this has genuinely made me lol today

That it's OK to regard your step children as no more than a nuisance.

Some people's hygiene routines seem excessive.

Oops, sorry - just to be clear the opinion I see on Mumsnet that stepchildren are just a nuisance is what I disagree with!

Re paying for travel what about severely disabled pupils? One of my neighbours has a severely disabled son (non-verbal and in a wheelchair) and his school is nearly an hour away. There are no closer schools that can meet needs and I doubt she’d be able to afford the travelling costs. A lot of these families are on UC because of caring duties, taking away means to get their children to a suitable school would be a disaster.

I want to bring back the days of 3/4 TV channels and 27 million people watching Morcambe and Wise

4 Not offering up incriminating information about yourself isn’t the same as lying. If your husband went to a strip club or had a drunken kiss 15 years ago and you’ve only just found out by accident, he hasn’t been ‘lying’ to you for 15 years. He’s been prudent.

Honestly, confessions are rarely about the wronged party. They're usually about the person wanting to ease their own guilt by offloading it onto someone else. I actually think it’s selfish. You made a mistake and feel bad? Tough. Suck it up. Don’t make it your partner’s burden too.

And while we're on the subject, I’d make any decision about the relationship based on the last few years, not on one stupid thing that happened over a decade ago. Reacting like it just happened yesterday, even if that’s when you found out, doesn’t make much sense.

I think it’s fine to go on a hen do and not be a principal player in the wedding. Hen dos are fun events like nights out. Weddings these days are often very intimate events with limited guests. Therefore if wouldn’t offend me to be invited on a hen do but not to the wedding reception.

I didn't go to boarding school but I did work in one and for the right children, they are a good option.

Community book shelves are just middle class fly tipping and create mess and vandalism. Just put your Murder Most Horrid / Matt Haig in the recycling or compost.

Lockdowns and school closures caused much more harm than good: I thought so at the time, and said so (and was roasted with “you are a granny murderer” for it), and I still think so. And I think that the main motive for many of the mad rules (not lockdown itself) was “let’s experiment with exactly how much we can frighten, manipulate and micromanage the public, before they start questioning and resisting”. And now that the precedent has been set, I still think lockdown could happen again, maybe for a completely different reason, and that we have a public duty to question and resist it immediately, not kneel at the prime minister’s feet and plead “please lock us down harder”. This is a hill I will die on.

Cat owners often write in a particularly annoying way. I don't need to know that Sir Fluffington Tabbyworth rises at 5am to deign to request that his slaves furnish him with a biscuit. I just asked what time you get up.

Anyone can cheat. Posters insisting they just know their husband would never cheat are wrong, not in the sense that he necessarily will (I'm sure most of them won't!), but because unless you knowingly shack up with a big shagger, no-one expects their partner will cheat on them.

If the OW/OM knew the affair partner was in a relationship, then they're also culpable for the hurt and anger caused. Yes, 'they didn't make any vows to you', but there are lots of things we don't make any vows to people about and still don't go about doing. The pious whinging at devastated posters who've discovered their husband was having an affair over being vitriolic towards the OW is just virtue signalling. Of course it's easier to be, in the short term, more viscerally angry towards someone who you don't have to unpick your life apart from, who you don't share a history with.

Childfree/destination weddings are fine so long as the b&g accept that some people may not be able to make it as a result. People insisting their kids be invited because they remember having fun 'sliding around on the floor' (always the sliding) at weddings as a child are invariably the sort who would sit beaming while their child yelled throughout the vows.

Envy is a totally normal emotion, in the same way happiness and anger are.

Neurodivergent parents homeschooling their neurodivergent children is a disaster waiting to happen. It may work in the short run to reduce anxiety but they will have no employable or social skills as adults.

That some children are just badly parented and it doesn’t mean they have SEN.
Any parents posting about a behavioural or parenting issue and it seems that everyone wants to diagnose the child with ADHD or autism.
Sometimes parents need to take responsibility for their poor parenting rather than seek a diagnosis to excuse it.
Ducks and runs for cover!

If your parents are wealthy and you’re on the bones of your arse, they should help you out financially.

@colonialwomanonthewing

Cat owners often write in a particularly annoying way. I don't need to know that Sir Fluffington Tabbyworth rises at 5am to deign to request that his slaves furnish him with a biscuit. I just asked what time you get up.

I agree, it's twee as fuck and I speak as a complete cat obsessive.

Obsess about your cat to your heart's content but don't labour under the belief that giving it cliched faux aristocratic nomenclature makes you interesting or different.

It's fine not to answer your front door or phone. It's up to you.
Ghosting or 'cutting off' friends because they've pissed you off isn't a great idea.
Work colleagues CAN be your friends.
You can celebrate your birthday and have a great time even as an adult.
It's understandable that grandparents would want to see their newborn grandchild.

Exactly (and I also like cats!) Like on threads where the OP is upset about something and people randomly pile in with photos of their cats, unprompted - thanks, that will surely make them feel so much better.

This is a really tricky one: I can completely see why people who are at their wits end with a child struggling in school take this decision and I have a lot of sympathy... but yes over the long term it's a really bad idea, it simply reinforces the idea that you can go through life avoiding difficult social situations.

Luckily a trained professional isn’t going to be ‘tricked’ into diagnosing a child who is actually NT.

Generally neurotypical children are very easy and straightforward to parent, if there are such difficulties and challenges that a parent comes to an online forum stressed and at the end of their tether it’s not too reaching to suggest the possibility of other issues.

Obsession with hygiene and cleaning is unnecessary and damaging for the environment. What is actually going to happen if you don't wash your bedding or mop your floors every day? Funnily enough those obsessively clean people aren't noticeably healthier or longer living

We infantilise children too much and they should be allowed to leave school at 13 and work if that’s what they want to do - many have had to become mature and grow up quickly - for various reasons