What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

This will highlight your point here because I will get slated but it's that perhaps Meghan isn't the witch she has been made out to be by the press and very clever P.R etc...

Co-sleeping seems to be the answer to everything. And don’t get me started on “he/she is only 3 and a half, they aren’t ready for toilet training”.

Toilet brushes are fine but needs soaked in bleach in a clean toilet frequently.

Private companies diagnosing Autism and ADHD should have a license and be regularly checked by an external agency to ensure they are meeting all diagnostic criteria.

People in adjoining houses or flats should legally not be allowed to run a business with clients attending there home under any circumstances and if they do they should be closed immediately by the council. It's far to disruptive to there direct neighbours especially when the business owners direct them to use residents car parking space.

Social media is damaging young people as is to much technology access.

The term anxiety is over used. Many people don't seem to realise nerves are normal and most people suffer them at some point but life crippling anxiety is not.

Most people rely on cars far to much and it's part of the reason we have an obesity epedemic.

Or perhaps it's her actions and behaviour and that of her husband?
They're their own worst enemies. Thet should stop complaining and over sharing.

it's not unpopular, it's just a meaningless slogan that's used for virtue signalling. Palestine could have been "free" at so many points in history but doing so requires unpopular compromise and an actual desire to do all the boring state building Not quite as catchy a slogan as " from the river to the sea", right?
It's not the sentiment that's a problem, it's the ignorance.

A size 14 is not obese.

A size 6/8 is probably very thin unless you are under 5'4''.

Not all Trans people are perverts.

Adult children need to pay rent.

Lending money does not mean you're a mug.

Living in a wealthy area and using the state school is not leveling the playing field.

Having sex with your husband is part of marriage.

Not wanting a man to earn more than me.

Not all marriages that start with an affair are doomed.

As I said, this will highlight the O.P's point of the thread!!!!

Weddings are boring, self-indulgent overpriced wank and take up far too much of people's time and energy and I never want to talk about them under any circumstances.

Dogs are OK and the odd one in a pub or cafe doesn't spell the end of civilisation

Your husband and children alone can't sustain your social life and everyone benefits from occasionally seeing other people outside the family. Being an "introvert" doesn't make you interesting.

People in a household won't automatically contract a Victorian disease because they occasionally share towels.

I don't actually think these are contentious, but they certainly seem to go against the grain on here:

Most people helicopter over their kids way too much. I use no tracker apps, never nag them to tidy their rooms or do their homework. I also didn't do their pack lunches once they were at secondary and didn't do their laundry or hoover their rooms once they were 13/14. Raise them to be independent and they will be.

JK Rowling isn't a champion of women's rights, she's a bigot. I get that it comes from a place of fear, but still.

To be honest, for these "unpopular" opinions, I just think they are divisive. Which goes to show that perhaps we are used to living in a social media echo chamber whereas on this site we might be exposed to a broader diversity of opinions.
Plus the fact that it's anonymous perhaps allows people to be more extreme and insistent than they might be otherwise.
Like with the Palestine example, I've seen both extreme pro-Israel and pro-Palestine posts, neither of which stances I would agree with. Haven't seen either being more or less popular. I would tend to hope that the middle ground is less heard as people get less het up about it, such as that this is not a zero sum game and that you can be both pro-Israel and pro-Palestine and want the best for all people living in that region. ❤🇮🇱🇵🇸❤(hearts for the people, not the govts or leaders)

The niche hobby! I forgot about that, I think most do it just to add drama about their boring non problem.

I like weddings. It's fun to get dressed up and celebrate my friends with my other friends and have a nice meal and meet some new people.

I enjoy having friends/family to stay - we have people to stay every three weeks or so for a weekend.

I don't understand the appeal of having a pet, especially dogs.

I don't think responsibly rehoming a pet if things don't work out for you with it is a horrible thing to do.

I don't feel any guilt at all for using childcare

I had no hesitation about sleep training and am very grateful we did.

I hate cosleeping and have never found it to help

Oh gosh yes, fair play to be angry at both of them!

I think it tends to become problematic when the other woman becomes the target of all the anger while the husband skips blame or consequences because the wife wants him back. The "she stole him away" narrative is BS, and cheating rat men love those situations and usually exploit them to dangle both women. I always end up wishing in those circumstances that both women wise up and kick the shitty man to the curb.

The hard work starts early.
Check out immigrant families where the kids are highly successful when parents work hard but not in higher paid careers.

I like weddings - ie the actual wedding. I don't want to be in the low tier though and only get invited to an evening do with a terrible buffet and waiting for the top tier guests to finish.

Parents are not under a moral obligation to fund driving lessons or house deposits for their offspring, or provide accommodation for them once they have finished their education.

When you've just had a baby, it's lovely when people visit you!

Before I had my daughter last year, I was dreading the visits. But they were wonderful and memories I treasure.

If we have a second baby I will welcome guests with open arms and not be quite so precious about it all.

@Thepeopleversuswork I think the whole point about the dog threads as it is not "the odd one" in cafes, restaurants, shops etc. it's the increased numbers.

"Blended families" are not in a child's best interests. If you split from your child(ren)'s other parent, you should either stay single or only date when your child is with their other parent, until your child is an adult. This applies equally to men and women.

16 is a teenager not a child 😆

@JHound
“It’s absolutely fine for people to quote the OP even if they are the first response.”

You monster! 😂

Ooh I need to look this up.

Well you’re wrong. Anyone under 18 is a child 🤣

That some kids are just naughty… and often it’s the fault of the parents and the way they parent.