What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

[Rosebush1245]

Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

I agree. I was going out at 17 and don't remember my parents ever telling me I had to be home by a certain time - and I was an only child.

What does age matter? But I’m younger than you. As a manager I would not discriminate against someone’s age. There are plenty of jobs in restaurants/ food shops and clothes shops that they can do and can work within the business goals. But perhaps it is a rural thing. I’ve never had an issue getting a job when I was young, neither did my friends and there’s always young people looking for work at my place. We have a few under 18s in our place and dozens across the company. They can only with a certain amount of hours per day/need breaks but this has never been an issue.

Same with me and my friends. My parents trust me. Nothing bad ever happened. I’m still alive. Did have one friend who was the only one who had a 1am curfew up until 18 and she was so embarrassed. I remember a few years later her actually mentioning it saying she felt really left out and babied as her younger brother who was 17 didn’t have a curfew. I guess you would feel like that when you’re the only one in that situation.

I asked because things changed massively in the ten years or so after I was 16. With Sunday opening and so on, suddenly there were far less traditional "Saturday jobs" than there had been.

Every employee was/is expected to be fully flexible. Which meant that a lot of former SAHM could get a job working the whole weekend when Dad was working during the week and they didnt have to pay childcare. This is still the case.

I have never discriminated due to age but if I have a budget for one staff member, I will choose the one that can do the whole job not part of it. Thats just economics. I work in hospitality and its only in the big outlets that there is a place for under 18;s, the smaller ones simply dont have the budget for it.

I would be in the category of having a less traditional Saturday job then. Would work a few 4 hour shifts after school then on the weekend. We have around 30 staff, so we aren’t huge but not a small business. But we’re very flexible in the contract hours, can be 40 hours down to 4/8/12 hours. Just depends on the hours we need filled and who applies/best suited for the job. But say I needed a 16 hour contract, it wouldn’t be an issue employing 2x 8 hour contracts.

You can drive at 16 in the UK, under certain restrictions. Although I'd wager even a small tractor (the vehicle you are allowed to drive at 16) is more than capable of an enormous amount of damage more than a car.

I learned to drive in a tractor at 16.

Really? What restrictions? Did you feel you were ready to drive a tractor? Although I have noticed know they do offer driving lessons to younger kids in my area… like from 10….

A huge salad will not fill you up for the whole day.

Niche hobbies aren’t outing. At all.

Going on holiday with in-laws, parents, adult children - is a good thing. Its nice.

Having family over for dinner (especially Christmas) is NOT “hosting”.

Hen parties are great.

Botox and fillers CAN look good.

Council estates have more normal people than “naice” leafy middle class areas. The “naice” areas tend to be full of fruit loops.

Yes I loved it and well up for the challenge, I'd have been happy to do it at any age

Then again I find a lot of things exciting not frightening. I used to break and school young and problem equines, ridden and driven a lot of different vehicles for pleasure and work, including MCs and JCBs

Here's the rules for today, I just needed a provisional license which included tractors on it at the time

https://www.gov.uk/learning-to-drive-a-tractor-or-specialist-vehicle/age-limits

I don't really care who is in the toilet or changing cubicle next to me.

My neighbours and I take parcels for each other with no issues whatsoever.

I like fireworks.

Glad you don't know me? Is that an implied threat?

And I can tell you one thing, if ever I was threatened by someone bigger and stronger 'money or your life', you can bet I would hand over my money. That is not falling on my sword, just the opposite. It's valuing my life more than anything else.

Not to mention if heaven forbid it would be my children's lives that are in danger, I would never continue fighting. Only a suicidal maniac would do that.

In this case Hamas started a war with Israel, and as long as they continue the war, they continue to suffer devastating losses. If they had a shred of mercy for their own people and their own children they would have long surrendered. Heck, the civilians of Gaza should have long surrendered en masse, rather than continuing to fight to the last man standing.

As I wrote before, when you are losing, and your children are dying, you tap the fuck out. You don't fight to the death, especially not the death of your innocent children.

3 I think this was actually mentioned by someone.

The lumping together of the non-verbal, non-communicative, not-toilet-trained, severely disabled, with the fully functioning, high-earning, albeit socially awkward under one ASD umbrella, hasn't done anyone any favours.

Suggest you actually do your research and you will see who actually started it.

Whatever, I'm not turning this thread into an Israel-Palestine debate. It's an unpopular opinion thread, and it seems mine qualifies.

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Things that have come up over the many mumsnet years that I don’t agree with

1. I don’t like a lot of women, I prefer chatting to men
2. hen dos abroad are a bit 🙃
3. Baby showers are naff
4. Save the day cards are ridiculous…just send the invite
5. Weddings are too ott these days….just get married and stop being a bridezilla
6. Pensioners are lovely and should get a higher pension plus the winter fuel allowance
7. National insurance and tax should be raised for all and there should be no lower tax free amount
8. Farmers should not pay inheritance tax on farms
9. The Private schools new tax should be abolished
10. School teachers should be stricter, students are running amock these days
11. Parents should pay for travel to school whatever the distance, reason or circumstances
12. UC should be lowered and the minimum number of hours to work to receive it should increased to full time and not be shared by parents
13. The new welfare/ PIP shakeup is a good thing
14. Meat eating is not good for a humans or the planets health
15. The bar for free school meals should be raised we can’t afford all this free stuff ( unless of course we go for no7 big time.

I think I’m done
but I found that very rewarding

ps I name changed 🤣🤣

I don’t usually wade into the trans debate, but I agree with this. Stating an indisputable biological fact is not ‘hate’, and suggesting it is is simply a tool for shutting down debate.

That people who have the least to spare are often the most generous.

That peanut butter, cheddar cheese and mango chutney on a sandwich is delicious.

Teaching assistants and nursery workers are not paid enough.

I agree with this. I went to school with no uniform and my DD goes to school with no uniform. Most of Europe goes to school with no uniform. It causes no issues at all. No issues about tie length, no worry about the colour of shoes, no detention for not having a blazer.

That most normal, happy families (and friends) put up with a bit of selfishness, tactlessness or other faults in each other in order to keep the relationship close, and are happier for doing so.

That (non abusive) families have responsibilities to each other well beyond nuclear parents raising infant children

That a number of mumsnetters don't like people generally and following their advice may end with you feeling self righteously correct, but also socially isolated and miserable

That Palestine is one of the greatest moral crises of our times, that it's madness that it's not more on our minds as a society, and in 20 years those that didn't stand against the genocide will pretend they did, so as not to be seen like those who didn't oppose South African apartheid

I can never get over the hatred of step mums on here...

That so many people have to say they or their kids are autistic/ADHD/ASD or whatever … like having a “label” is a badge of honour

That kids names have to “go with” each other

Most accidental pregnancies, were not an accident.

I'm not surprised that some here have been cheated on, if it's a true account of how they treat their spouses. Nothing makes cheating acceptable, but one person can't just make unilateral decisions about the marriage and expect the other to just conform.

So much hatred towards the PIL, but I bet those posters will still greedily take any inheritance. Not good enough to be in their lives, or kept at arms length - then the PIL money shouldn't be good enough either.

Most of the 'mental load' that posters claim to be crippled by, isn't that mentally loading.

That dogs should be allowed everywhere. I love dogs and grew up with them but I also understand that not everyone wants them around when they’re eating, working or trying to lick their ear when they’re on the tube (okay that last one was quite cute).

i feel they say it to try and excuse any bad behaviour. I wonder how many are actually diagnosed instead of just adding they are.

oh yes all the MIL hate, most of what goes on here seems like very normal behaviour to me. I’d never say it in reply to one of the the many threads but do none of the posters ever think if they carry on the way they are through life then they’ll repeat the cycle their DIL will do the same to them?