To be in a different room to my kids

[Pinksundress]

Kids are four and a half and (nearly) two

by 6 I’ve had enough of them (I know!)

Four year old goes in the shower. I can see and hear her. She likes playing in there.

Two year old I pop in the spare room and watches CBeebies on the TV in there. And I sit in my room.

I feel a bit mean sometimes like I should be interacting with them but … Anyway I guess I’m wondering if I’m BU?

I don’t think you need to be in arms reach of a 4 year old in the shower. Yes, accidents can happen, but I’m not in arms reach when they’re at the playground either and that seems more dangerous in terms of accidents. It doesn’t feel necessary for simply standing in the shower.
If she was in the bath, with actual depth of water, then that would be different. But if the plug is out and there’s some sort of non-slip on the bottom of the bath then I wouldn’t feel like I had to sit right there.

Of course you can, unless your 2 year old is the size of a horse and can’t fit in your bathroom

This is my thinking as well. I’m wondering when people actually step out of the bathroom. After all, she could easily slip when going to the toilet, washing hands etc.

Bath them both together.

It’s not the size of the child but the size of the bathroom! I honestly think some of you think all houses are identical. It’s an en suite; it’s tiny.

I knocked that on the head a few months ago.

I’m shocked that your only shower/bath in the house is in your tiny en suite. I don’t think all houses are identical, but I do think in a house with en suites it’s incredibly common for their to also be a normal size family bathroom

I think mine went in the bath together at this age. Then I'd put them to bed and do stories together. I can understand you wanting a few minutes peace though.

Dd1 likes showers, so she uses the only shower that is in the house which is the en suite. She’s right in front of me. I honestly can’t really understand how this is unacceptable but if I was an equal distance away but in a bathroom it would be OK!

I wouldn’t leave at that age ! Put them to bed and have your time when they are asleep or get up an hour earlier to have time to your self

I totally understand
But no I wouldn't leave a 4 year old alone in a shower
What if she put the plug in and drowned..they only need a small amount of water ,she could slip and bang her head .
Plus if your anything like me ,are you not worried you might fall asleep
I'm always so tired by then ,I'd be worried I'd nod off.
It's so near to their bedtime 6 pm ,just try to hang on a bit longer .
We used to pop ours in bed and put a story cd / tape on ,for them to listen to before going to sleep, especially if we were very tired ourselves

They get stupidly hyped up if they bath together and it’s just not worth the stress. Plus, one likes showers and one hates them. This way takes longer but is a lot calmer.

But I’d see her if she did that @Veganpug . She’s literally in front of me.

That's good she's in front of you
You know best xx

Your surprised people think a 4 year old shouldn’t be left alone in water?

Young children’s bath/shower time isn’t the time for parents to be relaxing!

I would not call an en-suite another room. It’s fine.

Slip and hit their head

What do you do if your 2 year old calls out for you or starts crying? Get the 4 year old out of the shower to attend to her? Or leave the 4 year old completely unsupervised? 2 is a good age for popping something in their mouth and silently choking.
Not something I'd do.

In a bath/pool sure but shower? Assuming the water is draining while running?

Well that missed the point.

the OP is making the point that her en-suite is small and attached to her bedroom… so she can see into it from the bedroom.

The size of any other bathroom in the house is irrelevant.

And when she stands up, slips and smashes her face, you'll be able to see that too.

You won't be able to do fuck all it about it though...

Nah girl, yabvu

You need to be in the same room as them tbh, especially the one bathing

A better idea would be to bathe both, then stick them in bed with a tablet or tv on and some snacks. Then go on your phone with earphones

Or put them together with a ring camera watching them while you're just in the next room

4 and 2 is far too young to be doing what you're doing xx

Mines 6 now and she plays in her bedroom but I see her on the ring camera. I completely understand the exhaustion by 5pm, but safety first x

Edit, not to judge you at all, i know its exhausting. just to say, maybe try something different that still gives you a 'mummy minute' as I call it x

Slipping, hitting her head, being dumb and putting soap in their eyes, messing with the water and burning themselves?

Can’t you bring a book and just sit there in the toilet watching?

No you missed the point. She said she cannot be in a room with both of them, because they wouldn’t all fit in the en suite. If she wanted to she could, they could all go in the family bathroom or she could atleast have the 2 year old in her room with her.

Surely you can see the difference in safety terms between a child in the shower and a child in the bath?