To think it's inappropriate for parents to use sexualised humour around their 18+ children?

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Really just curious to find out what others think.

I personally find it really uncomfortable and I'm not ok joking with my own kids in this way.

We were with friends of family at the weekend and they were openly joking with their kid (19) sexual innuendo type humour. One comment made was 'his favourite animal is definitely the beaver'.
Multiple type jokes directed his way throughout the evening.

Is this strange?

It's a bit gross isn't it?!

We must have quite a relaxed relationship with our 14 year old dts (boys).
I don't think it makes us low class, tacky etc.
We've just got a sense of humour we share with our children.
They know full well not to joke like this unless you know people well and know they don't mind.
It's really not a big deal to us.
Why did it shock you so much op ?
Is this really the first time you've observed something like this?

No they aren't. Some are adults.

Saying young teenager gives it a seedier edge of it being a 13/14/15 year old
Rather than possibly and 18/19 year old who is an adult

But then this is MN so anyone under 30 is a child who shouldn't be trusted

I remember my much older brother, who was essentially my father figure after my dad died, making sex jokes when DH and I moved in together. Oh, the cringe. It grossed me out massively. I suppose it depends on family dynamics and history though. Still...🤢🤮

It’s seedy for a father to be bantering and bonding about sex with his young daughter no matter the hairsplitting about age.

OMG. Adults can be young too.

That’s awful OP. Some boundaries wouldn’t go amiss.

It's noncey as fuck.

Agree.
There are thousands of other topics for father and daughter to “bond” over. Besides sex.

No, calling them "young" in this context is a deliberate attempt to infantalise them and make things seem much seedier. A classic MN problem.

ODFOD

No. It's not. Not if she is an ADULT

I find it unappealing and would avoid sexual humour in general around my family. Jokes about their or my sexuality specifically would be even worse and possibly inappropriate, depending on the exact joke or other circumstances. I know not everyone feels this way, but it's just gross, imo.

Your posts are giving off really unpleasant vibes.

Are you of the male variety by any chance?

I find it totally gross but then I don’t like sexualised humour anyway. As I’ve got older (now mid 40s) I just hate it. Totally makes me cringe and there’s just no need.

Ahh we are ticking all the MN boxes now:

Infantalising adults to make men look worse
Calling men nonces when there's not proof they had anything to do with actual pedophilia
Calling people who disagree with you men

No, I'm not a man. I'm a woman with a different idea

I'd cringe if my parents did it. Each to their own though, I wouldn't say it's inappropriate.

We are pretty open with our young adults. We also have a dark humour and no topics are taboo as such.

Having said that, we don’t use sexual humour with them. It is because none of us find sexual innuendo or double entendres funny anyway so it would be weird to use it in the family.

Me too!! 😂

Have two adult DD's and we do have risque banter. It is just how we are as a family and no-one gets offended.

I read their post and eye rolled too.
I often wonder if people actually believe the stuff that they post or if they just do it so they can argue with someone online.

If a woman, you do make me wonder what happened to make you think that you think your dad having sexualised bants with their young daughter is normal, as you said a few posts ago. I was very lucky to have a very lovely, typical dad I guess.

Same here.

It is NOT normal.

But they were horrified because you have brought them up to be horrified. They aren't so prudish in the other family so see nothing wrong in it.

Quite. My daughter tells me everything and told me about losing her virginity and discusses intimate gynae stuff with me when needed. We are very close and have a respectful relationship. Funny enough, we managed it without sexual innuendo.

I don't find " sexulised humour" funny at all.
To me it's childish and immature and something that belongs in the school yard as part of the growing up process.

I would view parents who told smutty jokes to their children as them desperately wanting to appear " cool" in their children's eyes and only succeeding in making themselves look infantile.

So no I wouldn't be telling dirty jokes to my son. And he would absolutely be disgusted if I'd ever done anything so ridiculous.