To think it's inappropriate for parents to use sexualised humour around their 18+ children?

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Really just curious to find out what others think.

I personally find it really uncomfortable and I'm not ok joking with my own kids in this way.

We were with friends of family at the weekend and they were openly joking with their kid (19) sexual innuendo type humour. One comment made was 'his favourite animal is definitely the beaver'.
Multiple type jokes directed his way throughout the evening.

Is this strange?

No he definitely wasn't and was very much enjoying it!

Absolutely, not suggesting they should change. I feel pretty strongly about not doing it though and wondered how others felt.

It's a real crossing boundary issue for me. It feels very wrong.

True, they don't. I don't think our parenting styles were very similar at all.

Fair enough if you're all ok with it. I think that's a good way to look at it. The teen was very happy.

It's not for me and mine.

I have saw this t shirt, hilarious! I like the humour, just not sharing it with my kids.

I think it’s more about sense of humour than anything else.

Some people like innuendo and rudeness, others don’t, I don’t think it’s much to do with the parent/ adult child relationship.

I think it also probably relates to how open you are about sexual stuff and rudeness/ dark humour generally. Personally I’m not big into innuendo but I know people who are; we are big into black humour which some others would find distasteful.

different strokes and all that.

I have twin 18 year girls and they would be mortified if we spoke to them like that either.
They were horrified for the poor lad getting roasted by his parents!

Boundary crossing why?

I think you're very prudish. They're adults.

I agree, if the teens didn't like it, it would definitely be wrong.

Another very dark humour house here too. Some people don't like it so we have to be careful.

It’s a bit cringeworthy in my opinion but it’s not inappropriate.

I disagree, I don't think I'm prudish at all.

Boundary crossing because I wouldn't joke like this with my children, that's my boundary.

With the right crowd of friends or with my husband, an innuendo can be very funny at times.

Interesting thoughts on it.
I actually don't mind the humour, but personally would never joke with my children in that way. My children would hate it also.

Definitely different strokes for different folks.

I am and will be that parent. I made a Uranus joke to a 9 year old today.

i fully expect I will pull out a that’s what she said joke when they are older.

I think there's a difference between using sexualised humour to your offspring and using sexualised humour towards your offspring.

I might do the one but I certainly wouldn't do the other.

Once round the dinner table my friends mum openly told us all " your father never wears condoms " haha!

Don’t do it then.

Other families don’t have to have the same boundaries as you. Daft innuendos and laughing at smutty jokes with adult kids might not be your thing, and that’s fine - but it’s not harmful.

My mum’s 80 now and recently had me in hysterics informing me that she’d been ‘reading up on that pegging business I keep hearing about’.

I agree re different comfort levels. When I was about 18 at a friend's house they told a dirty joke to their family in my presence. I was absolutely gobsmacked and didn't know where to look but they all roared laughing. There is no way in a million years I or anyone else would have told that joke in my house.

Yuk my grown up dc would call me out. Not that I'd even consider talking like that. Bleugh!

It's not my thing, but they're all adults.

Crass, tacky and lowlife.

I see this as pretty tame and wouldn’t think twice about sharing that sort of thing with adult kids (assuming they had similar sense of humour). Ditto my own parents.

In-laws are more uptight but they’re quite old-fashioned.

You sound very judgemental of people who have a different boundary to you.

Your reaction to these jokes is prudish.

My eldest is almost 17, so not an adult yet, but I’m enjoying the more grown up sense of humour we share. But the idea of sexual innuendo becoming a jokey thing between us makes me cringe from the inside out. I’m not keen on all that ‘wink wink, nudge nudge’ type humour in general though. DP seems to find it funny. It’s like living with bloody Dick Emery sometimes😅

To each his own and all that though.

This is so true. The beaver comment to an 18 year old by his parents - just cringe and yuck.

Jokes about sex are fine. Just not jokes or comments about the sex you or your children (or anyone else in the family) might be having.

My early 20s kids would be mortified by the joke OP described and would have said so.