To think it's inappropriate for parents to use sexualised humour around their 18+ children?

[HangryGooose]

Really just curious to find out what others think.

I personally find it really uncomfortable and I'm not ok joking with my own kids in this way.

We were with friends of family at the weekend and they were openly joking with their kid (19) sexual innuendo type humour. One comment made was 'his favourite animal is definitely the beaver'.
Multiple type jokes directed his way throughout the evening.

Is this strange?

It's not for you if that level of innuendo shocks you

My parents do this and I despise it. They think it's funny to make innuendos about their own sex life. Any reaction just eggs them on. I find it so pathetic and cringy.

My mother also like to make jokes / comments about me 'accidentally' falling pregnant with another baby. Never mind that in nearly 20 years of being sexually active I've never had an unplanned pregnancy, or that the pregnancies I have had have been high risk and left me with permanent injuries, or that I've explicitly told her it would be unbelievably distressing to me if I did become pregnant again. She still thinks it's funny to comment over and over again about how it could happen.

I'd rather have some silly banter and make a few dirty jokes than be a miserable prude who thinks the level of innuendo found in a panto is shocking

A lot of kids would find it humiliating.
Hope that isn't the case.

I see this behaviour in middle class wannabe edgelords sometimes.

Don't buy cards against humanity OP. Your head will explode!

It's not the joke.

It's who the joke is happening between. Parents and kids.

But they are adults...

Bless your mum!!

Also sidenote, I absolutely love your username 😆

Yes. Still parent/child relationship though, although all adults, it doesn't change that fact. It's just something I don't feel comfortable with.

While my parents are individuals and have lives outside of just being mum and dad, I don't want to joke about sex with them. My young adult daughters feel the same with me and their dad.

I went to an Ann Summers party with my mum when I was 19! Lots of fun. We play Cards Against Humanity and make all sorts of smutty jokes. My mum's always been very open about sex and relationships though. It's meant that I've felt fully comfortable talking through gynae issues, and because she was open from a young age I was fully prepared for sex. It wasn't some mysterious, enticing thing and I first had it at age 17, after avoiding some very dodgy situations and people. I've learned how to say no effectively and advocate for my own needs with partners. Very thankful for my mum, even if others might say she is 'inappropriate'!

That's so lovely to hear that you are able to talk with your mum, it sounds like you have a wonderful relationship. I think it's important to be open about sex and relationships, for advice and guidance.

I don't think that's the same thing as innuendos and joking with your children about sexual activities.

It's not the same thing but for us it sort of goes hand in hand. We can laugh and joke about crap sex we've had, but equally she can give me advice about it. It's meant that neither of us are squeamish or embarrassed when talking about any body parts or whatever. We both know that we're both having sex and that we're adults - no need to get all flustered about it IMO.

Jokes are fine with adult DC imo provided you don't personalise it either to yourself or them (who wants that mental image?) and the joke is actually funny. So, clever, original, witty, subtle. The beaver comment fails on both counts for me and just sounds like something a dirty old man would come out with. Embarrassing.

I have a really open and honest relationship with my mum, and feel like I could talk to her about anything gynaecology related etc without getting flustered in any way, but I’d find her making smutty jokes to me a bit cringeworthy 😳. Mainly because that’s just not her personality, or mine. But we are all different, and I don’t think it’s inappropriate as long as all parties are happy with it!

But the relationship can and does change.

Fine if you don't find it comfortable but don't call it inappropriate

Sounds really crass. I wouldn't like that humour at any age tbh but definitely not with my adult children.

Quite frankly, a father bantering with a young teen about sex is disturbing.

Snap 😂

You added "young" in there...

Of course it's not weird.
Would you talk to your boss the same way you talk to your friends? Or a customer?

Every teenager is young.

It's not my cup of tea, but don't find it inappropriate. They are adults and as long as they aren't being humiliated by it then let them crack on.

But is your mother's sexual partner your father? If so, I would find that inappropriate. Different if she has a lover with no parental relationship to you.

Log it with 11 to be on the safe side

What teenager isn’t young??

It’s very inappropriate. I would worry about a man who thinks the way to bond with his child is via sexual innuendo and banter.