To think that this rude comments/ remarks are very racist ?

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DS is in year 7 and goes to an independent school. He is new to school and has made many good friends. So DS was invited for a birthday party and was 3 hours late as he had a fixture at school.

While he was going to the party DS was sent number of audio records by a boy who was also invited to the party and was already at birthday boy’s home. In that audio I can hear boys laughing and 2 boys especially mocking and making rude and offensive remarks to my son.

I will phrase it to give you a better understanding of it. (We are of Asian descent and DS was born and brought up in London) I can hear 2 boys saying - “don’t come to the party, play cricket and go home and eat curry”,
”go to your mother and sit with her”. These 2 boys made entire 5 minutes audio mimicking Indian accent, calling my son from his nickname and shaming him for being called that and asking him not to come to party repeatedly and making fun of his haircut. Please note, none of the comments was made by birthday boy so other classmates asking him not to come doesn’t bother DS.

He is very bothered by the comments made by 2 friends about his ethnicity and parents. DS is emotionally and psychologically down. I can see he is broken and this incident had torn him down. As a mother I am furious to see my child sad and what trauma it had caused him. He has never faced this kind of racism/ situation in his entire life.

One of the 2 boys realised his mistake and is really sorry. I am happy that he realised his mistake and promised to be a better friend in future. I appreciate that. However I want to take this matter forward to school and let them handle this situation.

I think that the entire situation was highly racist and needs to be handled properly. What you all think ?

thanks

Then do that. Whatever you do, do not contact the Parents.

I disagree, I do not think it is appropriate to involve the school as it happened outwith school at a weekend. If it happened at school, or whilst travelling to and from school, involved the school. Otherwise it’s nothing to do with the school at all.

Definitely tell the school. It's very rare for people to have evidence of racism. You have the voice notes to prove it.

Why are you surprised? There are racial and religious hatreds all over the world.

The guidance on this is always go to the school, not the parents. There are certain things like racism, crime, violence, that the school will get involved in. Advocate for your child. As you have evidence, the police will also be interested.

If a pupil sexually assaulted someone at a party would you tell the school?
If a pupil vandalised all the cars along your street would you notify the school?
If a pupil was involved in an online bullying campaign would you tell the school?

if yes to any of these then what is it about racist bullying that is not something you would notify the school about?

Defo tell the school.

I'm sorry he had to hear such racism

As I have said to someone else

If a pupil sexually assaulted someone at a party would you tell the school?
If a pupil vandalised all the cars along your street would you notify the school?
If a pupil was involved in an online bullying campaign would you tell the school?
if a pupil was selling drugs to the neighbourhood kids would you tell the school?
if a pupil was spreading nude photos of his girlfriend around his friendship group would you notify the school

if yes to any of these then what is it about racist bullying that is not something you would notify the school about?

3 hrs late for a birthday party is pretty ridiculous though.

What has this got to do with racism?

Why are people saying the school shouldn't know?!

What does she hope to gain? Oh-I don’t
know. Letting the school know it’s got a problem and finding out what they intend to do about it? Letting her kid know she has his back?

How are white people getting dragged into this????????? Muslims and Indians are always spatting with each other

No, I wouldn’t tell the school, it’s not their issue.

I work in a school and I would disagree. My school would want to know this so that they could watch for similar behaviour in school/ would do assemblies on racism, etc.

No, I wouldn’t tell the school, it’s not their issue.

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There are over 200 million Indian Muslims, are they spatting with themselves?

I would inform the police.
Stop trying to imply racism that's not there.

Schools have enough to deal with and this didn't happen at school.

Nothing, it's to do with rudeness.

The police would be a more appropriate choice to inform rather than the school imo. I feel ppl are using schools as parents instead of doing their own parenting.

I would report this to the school so they are aware of the foul behaviour and attitude of the students. School may ne the only place someone will help them look at themselves/raise their awareness.

If there's a parents WA group I'd also be tempted to share the messages there - shame the parents raising these miscreants and make others aware of the foulness within the group.

I'm sorry your family has to deal with this nastiness 💐.

Agree.

Report this immediately. It should absolutely not be tolerated

It's likely the OP notified them of the fixture and they were happy for him to attend regardless. Not expecting this would open him up to racist abuse of course.

@Mum2jenny do you understand safeguarding?