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Woman declared legally dead is being kept alive due to state’s abortion laws

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Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 18:02

Anyone see this story?
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/may/15/pregnant-georgia-woman-brain-dead-abortion-law

TLTR
US women is being kept alive on life support due to abortion laws. Woman was 9 weeks pregnant when she became brain dead. Family have no say in the matter and do not want this. The foetus if it survives may have life long health conditions and suffer from brain damage. Family are also having to pay for medical fees occurred and also for future birth fees.

I am being unreasonable to say WTF. Where is the outcry about this? This actually happened in an episode of The Handmaid’s tale.

YABU - this is the law, law needs to be upheld even after death
YANBU - WTF. Women are not safe even after death.

Pregnant US woman declared brain dead is being kept alive under state abortion law

Doctors are keeping Adriana Smith on life support months after medical emergency until baby is ready, family says

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/may/15/pregnant-georgia-woman-brain-dead-abortion-law

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MammaTo · 17/05/2025 22:44

Lamelie · 17/05/2025 18:30

Actually I’m not sure I’ve ever told anyone in real life that abortion saddens me and I only mentioned it here in the context of finding this utterly horrific. I’m certainly not marching or petitioning.

I think you should start telling people and let them make their own mind up about you. If you’re going to hold these beliefs then say it with your chest.

Lovelysummerdays · 17/05/2025 22:50

Thelnebriati · 17/05/2025 22:13

Would they be allowed to treat a convicted criminal the same way? Deny them medical care, then keep them alive to harvest their organs?

Organ harvesting from Chinese people sentenced to death row. The organs are sent to other countries too. Some inmates were reportedly killed by removing their hearts for donation.

I think I read somewhere your family gets an easier time of it if you agree to donate your organs.

https://www.aljazeera.com/amp/news/2022/4/6/holdchinesemedicskilleddeath-rowinmates-by-taking-hearts-report

Chinese medics killed death row inmates by taking hearts: Report

Academic study finds doctors might have removed vital organs before the executed had been officially confirmed dead.

https://www.aljazeera.com/amp/news/2022/4/6/holdchinesemedicskilleddeath-rowinmates-by-taking-hearts-report

Kreepture · 17/05/2025 22:56

Lovelysummerdays · 17/05/2025 19:30

I don’t think that’s correct, she had headaches went to hospital they sent her away with medicine, didn’t do any tests/ scans.

Woke up her partner gasping for breath, he called 911. Ambulance to hospital, there they fix a ct scan and found blood clots, her mom is next of kin gave permission for surgery that wasn’t successful.

I think it’s common for A&E here too. I’ve been admitted to hospital a few days after attending A&E and being told nothing serious.

if it isn't i will stand corrected.. but the story doing the round on USA social media are that

  1. she has a DNR
  2. Her partner and family don't support this
  3. Some form of life saving care when she WAS alive was refused in case she had a miscarriage when she attended the day before., and then was later declared brain dead.
Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 23:05

AndorTheRelentless · 17/05/2025 22:23

What about women who have been brutally raped or gotten pregnant due to incest. What are your thoughts on those women who choose to have abortions?

So is it ok for women who didn't have sex for fun to be denied abortions? If it's ok to have abortions for the reasons above, then are you standing up for the foetus or punishing the woman?
(I know you were asking the pp about their views)

I know you’re asking this to the PP, but I will reply. I believe every woman or girl should be able to have the choice to have an abortion full stop. Whatever their reason it doesn’t matter to me. It is their choice. I think if you say women or girls can only get an abortion if they’ve been raped we start getting into a much darker conversation. It becomes less about choice and more about control and punishment. It’s very responsible to choose to have an abortion if you feel you wouldn’t be able to raise the child for whatever reason. All abortion laws do is punish the woman for having sex. Abortion doesn’t punish men the same way.

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RhannionKPSS · 17/05/2025 23:11

This is a tragic story, that poor family.

I think the fetus is most certainly not viable and the pregnancy will cease very soon, then the poor woman will be allowed to die with dignity.
Pregnancy is a precarious state in the best of circumstances and situations, and this type of situation makes me more sure of my pro choice stance, and because of personal experience.
Sepsis nearly killed me when my twin boy & girl both died in my womb , but I didn’t miscarry and had to have a D & C which saved my life.

I hope this woman passes in peace and dignity

SeaToSki · 17/05/2025 23:24

I think the key in this case is that Georgia law confers personhood on a fetus as soon as a heart beat is detected. So if you extrapolate that, a hospital turning off the mother’s life support might be considered to be murdering a person (the fetus) I imagine the hospital are concerned about the implications and are trying to work out what the best course of action is while protecting their staff from prosecution and respecting the dignity of the mother and fetus. I am guessing this scenario has not arisen in Georgia since this law came into effect, and might generate some clarification for this circumstance in the future.

Just for info Georgia law does allow termination of a fetus if the fetus has a condition that means it is medically futile to continue the pregnancy. It also allows for treatment of ectopic pregnancy and those that physically endanger the life of the mother and it instances of rape and incest that have been reported to the police where the fetus is pre 20 wks.

its just a horrific scenario from so many different angles

Lovelysummerdays · 17/05/2025 23:37

Kreepture · 17/05/2025 22:56

if it isn't i will stand corrected.. but the story doing the round on USA social media are that

  1. she has a DNR
  2. Her partner and family don't support this
  3. Some form of life saving care when she WAS alive was refused in case she had a miscarriage when she attended the day before., and then was later declared brain dead.
Edited

Possibly the ct scan it’s essentially a series of c rays and the radiation could harm the fetus thst said she could of worn an iron apron to protect the fetus if necessary.

Earlier diagnosis could of saved her life. I’m not sure if they’d routinely do a ct scan for a headache though there. I was in A&E with an awful headache once and I had no tests / ct scan. Then I developed stroke like symtoms so had to go back to be admitted and then I got a ct scan.

I think ideally everyone should have proper diagnostics but I don’t know if they didn’t go a ct scan as she was pregnant or if they didn’t think one was medically necessary.

Babyboomtastic · 17/05/2025 23:43

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 22:41

I think the whole topic is very complicated. I absolutely agree that pregnant women need a discussion around what they would want if something like this happened to them, so they could choose and go through their options, as not every pregnant woman will have a partner that is supportive or family to help raise the child and in terms of the child had a lifelong condition, would the child have quality of life?

I also think we need to see long term research on the children that this has happened too. My nana who is 78 was telling me something like this happened when she was 15, woman was ran over who was pregnant (not sure what stage) but she was in critical care or dying and they delivered the child. Not exactly the same but similar.

100% agree with what you’re saying about oxygen deprivation. For me I believe in quality of life over quantity. My cousin jumped off a bridge when he was in his early 20s and declared brain dead. He’s still alive now over 25 years but in a vegetative state. He has a team of carers 24/7. I honestly don’t even know how much this has cost but he’s just lay in his bed for 25 years no quality of life whatsoever. If that happened to me I would rather they just pull the machines off.

It's v complicated. I've got a long-standing interest in medical ethics, hence why I've got such an interest in this case.

Babies born to a dead mum isn't that unusual tbh, but it's the duration that's she's being kept on life support that is. For example paramedics can perform a perimortem cesarean section on a woman who is in cardiac arrest or already dead, to try to save the baby (and where mum is still alive, her too obviously). Last year there was that tragic case where a heavily pregnant woman fell from a tower block. She was declared dead at the scene and her baby born shortly after. Despite the fall and circumstances of her birth the baby survived.

I agree about quality of life being the important thing and I'm really sorry to hear about your cousin :-(

From the other side of this, but kind of linked, what do you think of pregnancies of babies with conditions like anencephaly, where the babies will die at birth, being continued so their organs can be donated? One one hand, that baby will save the life of several others. But they are being kept alive so their body parts can be harvested, which sounds horrific. What an awful decision to have to make.

Strawberriesforever · 17/05/2025 23:58

ThejoyofNC · 17/05/2025 19:53

I've made a point of not getting deep into abortion debates on Mumsnet as people come here for advice on their own lives and it's not my place to upset them. I stated my view which already tells you the answer to your questions.

But when a pregnant mother receives life saving care and a side effect of that treatment is the loss of her pregnancy, that isn't considered an abortion.

What about if that life saving care is a termination of a pregnancy?
How do you decide what constitutes life saving care? It sounds simple, but it really isn’t in many situations.

Someone2025 · 18/05/2025 00:02

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 17/05/2025 22:41

I think the whole topic is very complicated. I absolutely agree that pregnant women need a discussion around what they would want if something like this happened to them, so they could choose and go through their options, as not every pregnant woman will have a partner that is supportive or family to help raise the child and in terms of the child had a lifelong condition, would the child have quality of life?

I also think we need to see long term research on the children that this has happened too. My nana who is 78 was telling me something like this happened when she was 15, woman was ran over who was pregnant (not sure what stage) but she was in critical care or dying and they delivered the child. Not exactly the same but similar.

100% agree with what you’re saying about oxygen deprivation. For me I believe in quality of life over quantity. My cousin jumped off a bridge when he was in his early 20s and declared brain dead. He’s still alive now over 25 years but in a vegetative state. He has a team of carers 24/7. I honestly don’t even know how much this has cost but he’s just lay in his bed for 25 years no quality of life whatsoever. If that happened to me I would rather they just pull the machines off.

Agree
25 years is crazy, do you mind me asking who is paying for this enormous cost of care

Jc2001 · 18/05/2025 00:11

This is so depressing it's unbearable. The United States is imploding. It's the sort of thing you'd expect to see in some backwards third world country.

AthWat · 18/05/2025 00:12

Riaanna · 17/05/2025 22:01

Nailed it.

Same question to you then. What countries have been governed by the left over the last 15 years and done these things that you claim "let the right in"?

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 18/05/2025 00:18

I work in healthcare (clinical role) so my job everyday we have ethics to think about. Of course there are guidelines and we try and do what is in the best interest for the patient. But it’s sometimes just not a black and white case. There are certainly many grey areas and whatever my personal view is I do my job professionally.

I agree with you about the length of time.And think I actually remember that case you’re talking about. She was quite late in the pregnancy? I believe that was the right thing to do, such a sad story but great the baby was saved.

Thank you, I just find it sad because I’ve had to watch my aunty become almost a shadow of herself due to the stress. It’s the remaining family that suffer the most in these cases.

Honestly that’s should a hard answer and never really thought about it before. I believe the mother should be able to make that decision I wouldn’t judge her for whatever she chose to do. There are babies that need transplants and in order to get them some babies sadly will die in order for it to happen. Morally we could question who are we to play God. But without transplants a lot of people would die. I think we’ve also gotten past that stage since we have IVF, life prolonging medication. For me personally, if I chose to have the baby and found out at a scan it would die soon after birth, no chance of survival would I go ahead with it as it could save other babies lives via transplants, then yes, possibly I would go ahead with it. For me though I wouldn’t want the baby to be in pain so if there was a chance they would feel pain after birth then no, I would get an abortion.

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Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 18/05/2025 00:29

Someone2025 · 18/05/2025 00:02

Agree
25 years is crazy, do you mind me asking who is paying for this enormous cost of care

The UK taxpayer. Aunty also had to have her house modified so all his medical equipment would fit - hoists etc which was paid for. She also won a huge payout as he was under psychiatric care at the time and had escaped several times and went missing with the last escape ending in him trying to kill himself. This I’m very conflicted about.

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Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 18/05/2025 00:30

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 18/05/2025 00:18

I work in healthcare (clinical role) so my job everyday we have ethics to think about. Of course there are guidelines and we try and do what is in the best interest for the patient. But it’s sometimes just not a black and white case. There are certainly many grey areas and whatever my personal view is I do my job professionally.

I agree with you about the length of time.And think I actually remember that case you’re talking about. She was quite late in the pregnancy? I believe that was the right thing to do, such a sad story but great the baby was saved.

Thank you, I just find it sad because I’ve had to watch my aunty become almost a shadow of herself due to the stress. It’s the remaining family that suffer the most in these cases.

Honestly that’s should a hard answer and never really thought about it before. I believe the mother should be able to make that decision I wouldn’t judge her for whatever she chose to do. There are babies that need transplants and in order to get them some babies sadly will die in order for it to happen. Morally we could question who are we to play God. But without transplants a lot of people would die. I think we’ve also gotten past that stage since we have IVF, life prolonging medication. For me personally, if I chose to have the baby and found out at a scan it would die soon after birth, no chance of survival would I go ahead with it as it could save other babies lives via transplants, then yes, possibly I would go ahead with it. For me though I wouldn’t want the baby to be in pain so if there was a chance they would feel pain after birth then no, I would get an abortion.

@Babyboomtastic

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Gemkls · 18/05/2025 06:42

Under his eye

Cantsleepdontsleep · 18/05/2025 06:51

Lovelysummerdays · 17/05/2025 23:37

Possibly the ct scan it’s essentially a series of c rays and the radiation could harm the fetus thst said she could of worn an iron apron to protect the fetus if necessary.

Earlier diagnosis could of saved her life. I’m not sure if they’d routinely do a ct scan for a headache though there. I was in A&E with an awful headache once and I had no tests / ct scan. Then I developed stroke like symtoms so had to go back to be admitted and then I got a ct scan.

I think ideally everyone should have proper diagnostics but I don’t know if they didn’t go a ct scan as she was pregnant or if they didn’t think one was medically necessary.

good lord! You have no idea what you are talking about.

CT scans use X rays. You get a CT scan if clinically indicated and potential benefit out weighs risk. An ‘iron curtain’ (you mean a lead gown, although they are not made of lead any more), would not be helpful and could actually increase dose to the foetus.

Sounds like in your case, you didn’t initially
meet the threshold for a CT. When you represented with ‘stroke like symptoms’ you did. Also sounds like you hadn’t actually had a stroke or anything that was detected by the CT so your clinicians were entirely justified in their initial assessment and decision.

Riaanna · 18/05/2025 06:52

AthWat · 18/05/2025 00:12

Same question to you then. What countries have been governed by the left over the last 15 years and done these things that you claim "let the right in"?

Edited

Any and all watering down of sex based protections.

LeavesOnTrees · 18/05/2025 06:52

It's different if an emergency CS is performed to save a baby if the mother is dying or has died. She isn't being kept artificially going in order to incubabte the foetus.

A few PP have wondered why this case is considered so horrific, it's becuase a fœtus is being gestated in its dead mother's corpse. It's all very experimental and extremely unlikely this particular baby will ever be born alive.
The family do not consent and I don't think it should be allowed.

pinkfloralcurtains · 18/05/2025 06:56

Lamelie · 17/05/2025 18:17

Give over. I’m allowed an opinion.

And people are allowed to disagree with your opinion.

PermanentTemporary · 18/05/2025 07:04

Just a reminder that Malta has some of the most restrictive abortion laws in Europe and also has self identification of gender. There is absolutely nothing stopping a government of any type deciding that they're going to implement more restrictive abortion laws except constant vigilance. I'm as pro choice as its possible to be but I recognise that culture has more impact on the laws that get passed than the label on the government. Tbh the long history of posh British women of left and right being into eugenics has some influence on why we have the abortion and contraception culture we have. But it still means that the foundational freedom not to be used as an incubator whether dead or alive is ours.

QuaintShaker · 18/05/2025 07:20

Riaanna · 17/05/2025 22:01

Nailed it.

Absolutely, a cracking impression of a dimwit.

FedupofArsenalgame · 18/05/2025 07:20

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 17/05/2025 19:51

The laws are less "medical abortions are no longer acceptable" and more "any medical intervention that could knowingly lead to the death of a fetus is illegal". They were deliberately written to be both broad and blunt.

But surely it would be stopping the medical intervention of the mother? Don't understand this at all. Its not an abortion and it's not medical intervention that could lead to the death of a foetus by turning off a machine. In fact its just letting nature do its own thing

YellowOrangePink · 18/05/2025 07:24

JHound · 17/05/2025 22:31

”It’s your fault I hit you!”

Not comparable. It was never locked down because they wanted to hold voters hostage over it. Dreadful.

YellowOrangePink · 18/05/2025 07:25

PermanentTemporary · 18/05/2025 07:04

Just a reminder that Malta has some of the most restrictive abortion laws in Europe and also has self identification of gender. There is absolutely nothing stopping a government of any type deciding that they're going to implement more restrictive abortion laws except constant vigilance. I'm as pro choice as its possible to be but I recognise that culture has more impact on the laws that get passed than the label on the government. Tbh the long history of posh British women of left and right being into eugenics has some influence on why we have the abortion and contraception culture we have. But it still means that the foundational freedom not to be used as an incubator whether dead or alive is ours.

If you're dead, what does it matter?