School's punishment of all boys in year 6

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My son is in Year 6 and has done SATS this week, today was meant to be a fun day for them as they've finished all the papers.

But my son came back from school really upset as the teachers had separated the girls and boys and he says the girls got to do fun activities and given treats but the boys got told off and given a lesson on respect.

He's taken this badly and has said things like 'I must be bad because I'm a boy'.

It's such a shame because he's worked really hard and was otherwise enjoying SATS week, but now feels horrible about himself, the teachers who told them off and the girls getting rewarded when all the boys were punished.

I feel like I need to speak to the school next week and find out what's gone on and why. I also feel like making a complaint. But I'm not sure what they are going to do to make things better even if they did agree with me that it was not a great way to deal with some boy's bad behaviour and also very bad timing so should I just forget about it...?

What sort of schools do you know because in every school I’ve known boys aren’t in completely separate complexes from girls.
At the end of the day they will know exactly what’s been going on.
The clue will be in the girls chatting excitedly to their parents being picked up and the boys being miserable

I think it’s very safe to say all the boys knew exactly what the girls were up to
It’s also worth noting If all the boys are being punished it will have been explained to them that they are being punished. One look around and they will see ……. No girls!

I think anyone thinking otherwise is really grasping at straws here
Even the TA didn’t deny it

Having just read OPs update
at the end of the day the girls had sweets and were finishing up ice cream and the boys had nothing
This makes my blood boil and I find this extremely upsetting!

Fgs
Those teachers need a lesson themselves by the sound of it.

I really agree.
There would've been blue murder in any school my children attended if this occurred.

Blue murder.
There is no way my extremely dissatisfaction wouldn't be going to the top of management of that school.

By all means discipline those involved but for the entire group, appalling lack of judgement.

Lazy discipline and completely unacceptable.

I am a huge supporter of firm standards and discipline but not random scatter gun discipline that teaches nothing to any child except unfairness is rife in life.

🤣. Sounds like the Y6 teachers have had enough. Y6 pupils at this stage in the year have checked out of primary school in many cases. I think was very unfair to withdraw the treats from anyone. Fresh start on Monday.

My son is at Senior school now. The punishments for the same offences, talking etc, are still given unfairly between girls and boys.

That's really bad, OP.

My only ever detentions were whole class detentions and it made me incredibly resentful.

Yes they clearly grow had what they wanted from them with the tests then couldn’t be arsed. I’d be going to head and then governors with school behaviour and discipline policy in hand if what the boys who weren’t involved hadn’t had what they missed reinstated

Not just a fresh start though
The innocent boys should get an apology from the staff who discriminated against them
And
Those activities and treats !

This. Surely the perpetrators can be identified and they could make it up to the other boys.

I wouldn’t be apologising to any of the boys. Where would you start and finish? The treats could be earned by an improvement in behaviour over the week.

Collective punishment is a war crime

With that reaction from the teachers, I would actually take this higher.

It's bad enough punishing wholly innocent children, but then to threaten them with worse punishment for speaking up about it is reprehensible - I would say abusive, even.

The innocent ones didn’t do anything wrong!

When you make a mistake you apologise

But it wasn’t all of them and some don’t even play football or in that area and some had received the unkind behaviour too. 🤔

You've not been anywhere near a school recently then, especially a Senior School. That's exactly how they deal with the boys.

Don’t be ridiculous. The teachers have probably put up with two and a half terms of back chatting and poor behaviour. Some cohorts are just difficult.

🤣 because girls never back chat or have poor behaviour whilst apparently all 100 boys do 🤣🤣

This thread just shows the problems we have with kids today.

Get over it, it's not that deep. Teach your child to take it on the chin and move on.

As I have said before, we need to teach resilience and stop fussing about every thing that happens and running to schools to complain.
It's ridiculous and we are all going to rue the day we pandered to a generation of children - in fact, I think we already are!

And you ou clearly have no idea what SATS are like. It’s all that is talked about and focused on throughout much of year6 and makes learning dull. It’s not for the kids.

yes but it’s not exactly a levels is it and parents should be supporting their kids by telling them that they aren’t all that important

I know exactly what SATS are like, thanks.

That's my point - the education system is ridiculous because of the focus put on these tests. Because of that emphasis schools end up cheating.

But once you get a bit of distance from Primary School.you see how uniimportant they really are - except to the school.

Part of resilience is speaking up re unfairness and wrong behaviour. The school is in the wrong.

Yes - the child and his friends should speak up, they're old enough.

And I don't mean back chat or whine, I mean ask to speak to the Head or seek the Head out and speak to them & explain their point of view.
A Y6 child is old enough to do that & not need his mum to do it for him - if he really feels wronged then yes, encourage him to speak up.

ETA - it's called "pupil voice"

They really do. For some reason the detail of the sweets and ice cream for the girls and not the boys at the end of a long, hot tiring day is really really upsetting, such calculated cruelty somehow, unbelievable, horrid

In your original post you said your son came back from school upset… which implies he only told you about it when you got home. But updates say you were at the school wanting to sisal to the teacher about it. So which is it? Did he tell you had home or at the school? If he told you at the school surely there would have been over parents to speak too about it?