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To think Starmer is utterly reprehensible

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Thegreyhound · 12/05/2025 20:31

I know everyone will disagree, that’s ok- But I just have to say that Starmer today seems to have sunk lower than I ever believed he would with his incendiary ‘island of strangers’ and ‘incalculable damage’ rhetoric.
I find it particularly shocking because he has calculated this and decided it’s worth it to throw immigrants under the bus and essentially give all the ground in the debate to Farage, Tommy Robinson and Enoch Powell types.
Policy can be altered without making statements that are designed to impact race relations and make life even more difficult for people who are just trying to get along and make a living here.
Starmer is vile. This country does indeed feel like an island of strangers these days but the strangers are not the immigrants :(

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Dangermoo · 13/05/2025 00:39

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:36

I’m not sure you realise @JHound that people like you are why people are inching towards the likes of Reform. People are sick of those so eager to be woke and not offend, all the while turning a blind eye to actual problems in favour of appearing tolerant.

I don't believe for one minute that poster has lived in an inner city, especially Birmingham.

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:40

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:28

Why are you adding random words?

The “hysterical” comment was aimed at the men worried about their wives being shot or stabbed walking around London with newborns. That’s is hysterical.

A completely separate post and point.

My post you quoted was about somebody taking issue with ethnic minority “majority” areas in parts of Brum. To which I say: “so what?” And also note being of an ethnic minority and being an immigrant are completely different things.

Edited

One could argue that any use of the word hysterical is misogynistic- a bit problematic when you’re accused oppressed women of misogyny.

The “so what” part comes when those communities are overrun with people with dangerous and disrespectful misogynistic ideologies. And/or people who don’t continue the economically but take take take and don’t engage with services at all, putting a strain on the economy and have a knock-on effect on the most vulnerable.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:40

Totallymessed · 13/05/2025 00:35

I grew up near the Saddam Hussein mosque, if you know where that is (I imagine it might have had a name change!). Anyway, I think a problem with people who are very pro immigration is behaving as though immigrants are some kind of monolithic group. Which ironically seems quite racist.

I lived just down the road from the Saddam Hussein mosque for a few years (you are correct the name has changed but everybody in my age category will always call it “The Saddam Hussein mosque”.)

The only people I have seen on this thread acting as if immigrants are a monolith are anti-immigration people.

But to repeat “ethnic minoroty” == “immigrant”.

Two completely different things.

Totallymessed · 13/05/2025 00:41

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:37

I would like to assess would be migrants the exact same way I was assessed each time I have moved overseas.

As an individual.

(Although I am not really going to go an lobby for any man for any reason so am not going to protest if any group of men is banned from
entering the UK.
it’s just weird the generalisations that abound here. I assume people here prefer to live in bubbles so it is easier for them to stereotype people.)

Is that really what you want? Because when I lived abroad I had to prove that I could support myself and would not cause any kind of cost to the host country.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:41

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:40

One could argue that any use of the word hysterical is misogynistic- a bit problematic when you’re accused oppressed women of misogyny.

The “so what” part comes when those communities are overrun with people with dangerous and disrespectful misogynistic ideologies. And/or people who don’t continue the economically but take take take and don’t engage with services at all, putting a strain on the economy and have a knock-on effect on the most vulnerable.

You could argue any use of the word “hysterical” is misogynistic.

You would be an idiot to do so though.

As for latter part of your post - none of that has anything to do with an area having an ethnic minority majority. Which was the specific concern. If the concern is non-economically active people or misogynists then state that.

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:41

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:32

I am saying if the culture and cultural attitudes are the issue then why do you think that
women will be immune to cultural beliefs that influence men?

Women will have A LOT less power and influence. And given asylum is for those escaping dangerous oppression, it’s fitting for women to claim but not for men. Men in Afghanistan are not oppressed (except gay men).

I think you think you’re being clever trying to throw out “gotchas” but actually you just look rather silly.

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:44

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:33

There is no one common denominator that unites them all.

I take it you actually looked then? Because you’ve gone from not knowing child brides existed to now having read all of the information and demographics on the 100+ countries that have legal child marriages. You must be a fast reader!

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:45

Totallymessed · 13/05/2025 00:41

Is that really what you want? Because when I lived abroad I had to prove that I could support myself and would not cause any kind of cost to the host country.

Read my post again.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:46

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:41

Women will have A LOT less power and influence. And given asylum is for those escaping dangerous oppression, it’s fitting for women to claim but not for men. Men in Afghanistan are not oppressed (except gay men).

I think you think you’re being clever trying to throw out “gotchas” but actually you just look rather silly.

What power or influence do fleeing men have in their new country than fleeing women do?

It’s not a gotcha. It just makes no sense.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:46

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:44

I take it you actually looked then? Because you’ve gone from not knowing child brides existed to now having read all of the information and demographics on the 100+ countries that have legal child marriages. You must be a fast reader!

There is no one common denominator.

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:47

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:37

I would like to assess would be migrants the exact same way I was assessed each time I have moved overseas.

As an individual.

(Although I am not really going to go an lobby for any man for any reason so am not going to protest if any group of men is banned from
entering the UK.
it’s just weird the generalisations that abound here. I assume people here prefer to live in bubbles so it is easier for them to stereotype people.)

Well that’s nice for you. But on planet earth we need to go off more than “I’m my own person” and be deeply concerned at those coming from high risk parts of the world.

Do you often emigrate to other countries as a rule?

MorrisseysMisery · 13/05/2025 00:47

HeatonGrov · 12/05/2025 21:34

Visit Manningham or Heaton in Bradford.

Or Dewsbury, Batley, Ravensthorpe. There's no denying areas have become squalid, it's plain to see.
Lived in the Bradford postcode for 42 years, it's plain to see with the naked eye what mass immigration has done to certain areas.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:47

Dangermoo · 13/05/2025 00:39

I don't believe for one minute that poster has lived in an inner city, especially Birmingham.

Ok.

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:49

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:41

You could argue any use of the word “hysterical” is misogynistic.

You would be an idiot to do so though.

As for latter part of your post - none of that has anything to do with an area having an ethnic minority majority. Which was the specific concern. If the concern is non-economically active people or misogynists then state that.

Edited

Do you understand the origins of the word “hysterical”? Of not, swat up.

Of course it has to do with being a minority - if you’re part of a hated group in your own community, that’s problematic.

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:50

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:46

What power or influence do fleeing men have in their new country than fleeing women do?

It’s not a gotcha. It just makes no sense.

JFC.

Actually you’re so right. A couple fleeing from a country where sh married him aged 13 and he was 28, and she had been raised as a literal second class citizen and in an unequal marriage, are definitely the same.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:50

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:36

I’m not sure you realise @JHound that people like you are why people are inching towards the likes of Reform. People are sick of those so eager to be woke and not offend, all the while turning a blind eye to actual problems in favour of appearing tolerant.

  1. What does “woke” mean?
  2. I genuinely do not care one jot if people want to blame, “people like me” for their voting choices. It’s a tired old trope now.
JHound · 13/05/2025 00:51

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:50

JFC.

Actually you’re so right. A couple fleeing from a country where sh married him aged 13 and he was 28, and she had been raised as a literal second class citizen and in an unequal marriage, are definitely the same.

What on earth are you talking about?

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:51

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:46

There is no one common denominator.

So you did look at all the countries and explored the demographics to identify there’s “no one common denominator”? You did that very quickly!

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:52

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:51

What on earth are you talking about?

I was answering your question when you pretended that men and women coming over from a country where women are deeply oppressed, are equal. What’s so hard to understand?

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:52

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:49

Do you understand the origins of the word “hysterical”? Of not, swat up.

Of course it has to do with being a minority - if you’re part of a hated group in your own community, that’s problematic.

I am fully aware of the origins.

I am also aware that’s irrelevant when talking about two men being hysterical about the risk of being shot in London.

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:55

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:52

I am fully aware of the origins.

I am also aware that’s irrelevant when talking about two men being hysterical about the risk of being shot in London.

So if you’re fully aware of the origins, why use it? Any use of it is unacceptable.

I also FWIW think worrying about newborns being stabbed in London is a bit odd and OTT. And plenty of children live in London and have safe journeys to school every day. However, this doesn’t mean that immigration hasn’t had a negative impact on London, among other things - but given I don’t live there I can’t say if that’s an accurate statement or not.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:55

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:52

I was answering your question when you pretended that men and women coming over from a country where women are deeply oppressed, are equal. What’s so hard to understand?

No you didn’t. You gave a random anecdote about a marriage with a clear power imbalance between an abuser and victim.

That has nothing to do with my question on why, if your fear is the importation of misogynistic attitudes, from misogynistic cultures, why you think all men are influenced by those cultures and no women are.

TheWombatleague · 13/05/2025 00:56

footpath · 12/05/2025 21:35

What should he do? Millions do want immigration reduced

He could simply go back to not counting International students in the figures. That's about a 400,000 drop with the stroke a pen.

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:56

JandamiHash · 13/05/2025 00:51

So you did look at all the countries and explored the demographics to identify there’s “no one common denominator”? You did that very quickly!

What common denominator do you think exists across 100+ countries from diverse geographical locations, governments, cultures etc?

Totallymessed · 13/05/2025 00:56

JHound · 13/05/2025 00:45

Read my post again.

I did read your post?

Anyway, it sounds as though we grew up quite locally. I think if you would deny that while there were many positives, there were also many serious problems in the area, I think you are being dishonest.

Like I said, some people treat immigrants as a monolith. If you did live in Handsworth for a long time, then you are fully aware that there have been long term problems with sexual harassment and abuse of young women.

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