to think brides need to issue rules about what people are allowed to wear?

[SnoozingFox]

No white
Nothing with even a HINT of white/cream
No pale colours which in a certain light might look white
No lace
No red
No black

etc etc etc. Is this the new normal as it certainly wasn't when I got married, none of the weddings I have been to were we ever asked to run outfits past the bride before the event.

Madness.

I’ve got a posh creamy white top and a pale green floaty silky pleated skirt for my next wedding coming up. Am I going to be in trouble?

to me part of the enjoyment of going to a wedding is choosing a nice new outfit. I should think people all know not to wear white to upstage the bride
just thinking how on earth they would have viewed my mum, in the 1970s she wore a cream woollen dress knee length black court shoes plus a black floppy hat with red rose. she looked lovely but according to that she broke quite a few rules. perhaps people were not so dictating in those days

I'm getting married and I couldn't give a monkeys about what my guests will be wearing.

At the end of the day, I will look better.

100% this . I genuinely cannot remember but do remember that my Mum was thrilled with her outfit that she got from a charity shop ! She looked bloody marvellous 🤩

What's wrong with an orange suit. It doesn't matter what they wear they are just guests not part of the wedding party.

It’s a dress code and you are a guest, or not, you don’t have to say yes.

It's a wedding for loved ones. Not the armed forces. Guests should wear what they already own or can afford and suits them.

Burlap sacks is the only way to go! 😁

I thought the only rule was not to wear white or upstage the bride. Everything else seems way too controlling - brides need to remember that they are hosting guests and the point is for everyone to enjoy themselves. It isn't a military operation!
Who wants to go to a wedding where you have to send photos of your dress to the brides friends for approval?

you organised your wedding for the photos????????

It’s fine unless the dress code says otherwise.

Thank goodness it’s not compulsory! It’s definite no from me!

No, there was a dress code, that is all. What a bizarre comment. Do you wear pyjamas to a job interview or jogging bottoms to a black tie event? No, because it’s rude.

never been to an interview where I was told what colour to wear!

Invites are not obligatory, nor are the dress codes attached. But if you do attend, you abide by your hosts code, to do otherwise is very rude.

People are well aware of what is appropriate to wear to a wedding. It is a formal occasion and 99 out of 100 people will dress accordingly and do not need to be told that a bikini or leggings and hoodie isn't the done thing.

That is NOT the same as stating a specific colour.

No. No need. Everyone with one ounce of common sense already knows what the rules are.

I'm so glad my presence has always been more important to my friends than adhering to a colour scheme other than the usual no white/don't wear the colour of the bridal party.

Ooooooops I obviously didn’t get any memo as I’ve been to 3 weddings this year

wedding one - red - I’m not a cougar/cradle snatcher and although I love my nephew there is no incest there

wedding two- black? Mourning the loss? ( bank balance as omg venue was sooooo expensive )

wedding three- green - oh well I can’t stand the needy bride my cousin can do better 😂

No. Demanding that guests wear a specific colour is what is rude.

I would always dress nicely for a wedding, but I would not wear a colour that didn't suit me or that I didn't already have because a bride had no manners.

Fortunately, I don't know anyone that would do anything so daft as to try to dictate what people wear to what is supposed to be a happy occasion.

Huh, didn't know red was bad. Or green. Am now thinking through every wedding I've been to and trying without success to remember if I've ever worn either...

Would have thought it was obvious that you don't go to a wedding looking like you think you're the bride, or going to a funeral. Do people do this?

Obviously if it's a religious ceremony or a different culture there may be rules that I don't know about and fair play. When I got married I didn't care what people wore. I just wanted my friends and family to have a good time and share in my joy marrying my husband. The list the OP made about lace etc just seems pointless to me but maybe in some religions lace means something bad? But for me marrying my husband was what my wedding was about and hopefully everyone having a good time. I appreciate there may be cultures that I know nothing about but I was referring to a more general non-denominational or Christian sense that I presumed the OP was alluding too. Also I was being a bit tongue and cheek. Showing up in a bikini may be slightly inappropriate 😂

I wore black to my friend’s mid-winter wedding. It was one of those years where other colours weren’t really available and I struggled to find anything suitable that wasn’t black! I have another friend who married in red.

People are well aware of what is appropriate to wear to a wedding.

what I learnt from MN is that many people are NOT aware! I can't tell if they are being genuine or not, basic rules are so simple and not recent. It can't be that outrageous to wear smart clothes to a wedding.

The dress code is much more casual today anyway. It's now acceptable to wear black, people can see the difference between black for funeral and black for wedding. If Kate Middleton can wear black to a friend's wedding, surely it's good enough for the rest of us.

Women also go bare-leg if they want to. Kate Middleton still wears tights at every formal engagement to be fair, but the rest of us don't. Or not all of us.

If it gets so restrictive that red black and green are out as well as the expected no all white or cream dress code it has got very silly and the whole point of getting married has been lost