Is this an awful wedding guest dress?!

[Bumblingbee101]

Looking for opinions! I'm a mum of 2 little children and rarely go to events anymore, both children under 4, size 14-16, 5.3 and wanted something that hid my legs and tops of arms and skimmed over tummy so that I felt slightly more comfortable. I've always had reasonable success with Monsoon dresses and found this in the sale. I've been told by brides friends to all send photos of our outfits (unsure why!) And that I cannot wear this and will upstage her. I asked if it was anything like her dress and they said not even remotely close! I read all the reviews before purchasing and most have worn this dress as a wedding guest! Is it my poor taste?!

@alwaysamused Just because someone is a bride does not mean they get full control over other people's lives. That's just nuts.

This dress in no way upstages a bride. You should have never been asked to send pictures of your dress. They are overstepping and are being incredibly rude.

maybe they were just trying to stop you from wearing such a hideous dress and didn’t want to be rude.

I think that is a very pretty dress. Does the bride know that her friends are controlling her wedding?

No, I don't 'know' it. I do not think it looks bridal. That clear enough for you?

Do you always struggle with the idea that not everyone has the same opinion, or is it just on this particular subject?

Nah, it definitely looks bridal. Irrefutable, can't be argued with I'm afraid. I know you're lying if you pretend otherwise, and so do you.

I wouldn't vet what people wore (and didn't) but that's the bride's choice. Her wedding, her rules. If people don't like her rules they are free not to attend. That's their only other choice beyond centering themselves and being arseholes on someone else's wedding day.

can rely on mn for made up rules and invented etiquette
no long dresses, no mid dresses. They’re for bridal party only
nothing pale in case the flash of phone renders it white or too bridal

that Pale blue dress won’t look bridal

btw saying something is a fact, doesn’t necessarily make it a fact. It remains an opinion
Emphaising something in CAPITAL doesn’t add gravitas. It’s a bit feety stampy, princess has spoken

Do you alway struggle with reality and facts, or is it just when you're lying to try to prove a point?

Whereas you seem to have no such scruples...

Not wasting further keystrokes on you, you're embarrassing yourself now. Enjoy your day.

Nah, it's deffo bridal looking, that's why they vetoed it. And the OP knows it, of course.

Bunch of weirdos on MN who think if they say the moon is made of green cheese that makes it so 😅

Maybe because it doesn't.
I can't believe the name nonsense in Mumsnet about what guests wear to a wedding. Most normal people in real life are just happy that people have made the effort to attend. Guests are never mistaken for the Bride and nor do they upstage the Bride whatever that may mean!

Evidently not irrefutable, as I and others disagree. Therefore it’s an opinion but not irrefutable and has been argued with

Doesn't look bridal to me at all, but it does look like my mum's nightie from about 1976...😏

I’ve never been to a wedding where the guests have to forward photos of their outfit, is this a new level of Zilla?

I think the dress is very nice.

Got to go out now, so don't have time to keep responding to fairy tales.

So, OP, you know as well as literally everyone else on this thread, that the dress looks bridal. You are fully aware that this is why it has been vetoed. It's extremely weird to pretend otherwise.

I don't agee with brides policing outfits, but it's not your wedding so your choice is - suck it up and wear something else, don't go, or wear the bridal looking dress make it about yourself and cause a drama.

I think you'll go for option 3 since you're already pretending not to get it. Enjoy the drama llama ding dong you cause.

And to be clear, I don't, actually care. But just so you know, everyone knows you fully understand the problem, you are fooling literally nobody 😅😂

are you the friend who is requiring the photos?

Surely it depends on the type of wedding and dress she is having. If it is a church wedding and she has the big dress then you are fine. If it is a small registry office do and she is wearing an off-the-rack white knee length dress then you will look more “done”

Repeatedly asserting your point with increasing emphasis won’t change anyone’s mind. It is amusing as you’re very over invested in really asserting your point

This was my thought. It’s a nice, pretty dress but if it overshadows the bride what on earth is she wearing? It must be pretty underwhelming.

🙄 at the idea of checking out the guests outfits for approval but…

It is such pale blue that I thought it might be white at first. Full length, floaty fabric in almost white does look too bridal/bridesmaidy IMO. I could imagine a bride wearing that dress for a low key wedding.

I think if you hadn’t said anything about the CF request to submit a photo of your dress for approval and had just asked if the dress is suitable for a wedding guest, you would have got different answers.

Are you the OP? Projection is a real thing, so I will have to assume you are personally invested in the bridal choice of dress now.

Thanks for that, now I understand why you're lying :)

Ok, must fly, ciao!

Thanks all for your interesting responses. The bride will be wearing something big, expensive and designer is all we were toldbat the hen party! And bridesmaids are in pale green and pale pink so no clash on colour. I did wonder if it maybe looked bridesmaid dress but the reviews on Monsoon were mainly for people using it as a wedding guest so I ordered it to see myself. I thought it looked pretty but maybe I'm out of touch (in my grand old age of 31!) Any other options would be gratefully considered while deciding please link away!

Literally everyone else?
No
You have several posters who are challenging your assertion. Literally

Doesn’t look remotely bridal to me, and I’d be surprised if BM dresses were similar.

Have definitely seen similar wedding guest dresses, though TBH there are nicer dresses on the Monsoon site. I’m a similar size to you and find v-neck a bit more flattering than high/ round necks.

Keep the dress and wear it.