Sick of vile, rude teenagers

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DD was learning about VE Day at school and got wine a few of her friends would be going down to the war memorial this afternoon for the remembrance event. She asked if we could go so I said I would walk her there for 20 minutes so she could quietly see what was going on before bedtime (it’s just round the corner).

We arrived but there was a group of about 8 teenagers sat in the middle of the square making an absolute scene of themselves. Shouting obscenities, vaping, running around, showing off to each other and rolling about on the floor. After 10 minutes of this, having seen the exasperation on the faces of some very elderly people who clearly felt too vulnerable to call them out, I went over and told them to stop embarrassing themselves and to go if they were just there to make a scene. Of course they carried on (although a few seemed to back down). They actually looked shocked like they’d never been told off in their lives. They probably hadn’t.

I’m just so sick of it. These types are everywhere. They’re absolute losers who will likely do nothing with their lives and cost us all a fortune. I know it’s not PC to say it but it’s true - I feel like these types are everywhere, bullying people who are unlikely to respond while leeching off the state.

I absolutely accept teenagers act out and fully expect that (in a secretive and limited way), but this was just so disrespectful and it was so disheartening to see yet another event ruined by yobbos.

I expect I’ll be told IABU.

agree OP! feral idiots, you can only imagine what the parents are like

Interesting that you bemoan the attitudes of teenagers and then say they’re “losers” who will do “nothing” with their lives.

You’re the adult here and to have that attitude is pathetic.

I very rarely come across vile or rude teens and I don’t think it’s right to tar them all with the same brush. It must be area dependent as the vast majority of DD’s peers are all genuinely very nice and respectful!

YANBU, but I don't think taking an alcoholic drink to the memorial was appropriate on your daughter's behalf; she may be part of the problem (assuming she is a teen if she drinks wine).

DD was learning about VE Day at school and got wine a few of her friends would be going down to the war memorial this afternoon for the remembrance event.

That was an unfortunate typo straight out of the gate given the subject matter.

I think you're making a few assumptions about their ultimate career/life prospects based off a snapshot of a single afternoon. That behaviour isn't confined to just teenagers either (unfortunately).

Wine was supposed to say wind.

Honestly, there are MANY adults like this round here - and they have to start somewhere don’t they? To be fair my title should’ve said ‘people’.

Oh, sorry - ignore my comments about alcohol then.

What’s pathetic is turning up to a war memorial event to ruin it in front of some people who looked in their late 90s and probably lost friends if they weren’t directly affected themselves. I don’t even care any more, these types need dealing with.

Where do you live? Teens here don’t act like that but I suppose it’s area dependant. There will always be some that are disrespectful.

The area I would say is average or slightly below average.

There was, I will point out, FAR more teens (and even small kids) who were beautifully behaved and taking part as part of the scouts, cadets etc

I really know it’s not all teenagers, and a minority - but sadly a minority is enough to ruin an event like this.

It's disgusting. Mine would never sit down again, behaving like that.

No one is disagreeing with that.

However you as an adult describing teens like that is pretty gross

An op always loses me with the word "vile". See also " 'vile racists thick bigots " "vile gammon faced right wing twat " ... Usually those types. Gets boring.

Although the teenagers in question do sound bothersome.

Why didn't the event organisers stop them?

Well done for saying something. I was a well behaved, respectful teen but it's easy to get swept up in a group and forget yourself at that age. I remember being told off by a stranger once and I was mortified, it stuck with me for years and made me much more self-aware.

I’d be blaming their parents not them, they’re just kids at the end of the day. And kids will be disrespectful little shits if they haven’t been taught not to be by their parents

A small percentage of people are badly behaved. This is not new. People have always moaned about this.

What would help is if the people who moan about it supported government/council/charity efforts to engage with those who are going off the rails.

Sorry that happened OP. Unfortunately, blaming the parents isn't always fair either.

Sadly, it's irritating and disappointing, but there isn't much you can do other than keep your explanation to your daughter very specific, without predicting disaster in their futures or terrible parenting.

It is just very, very frustrating. People who are fortunate enough to live in areas where such issues don't exist or only rarely, are very fortunate.

Just do your vest for your daighter and screen out everything else.

Focus on the good. Your teen wanted to go and you saw lots of well behaved teens there - cadets, scouts etc. So majority of teens there were respectful and appreciated event. Just a few bad apples as with any age group.
I volunteer with tweens and teens and they are lovely.

Who are “these types?”

Teenagers where I am are generally decent. Most are amazing young people who deserve to be treated with respect.

Lucky you!

There's troublesome teens in most places but they are the few thankfully. There are gangs of them tearing up all our green spaces constantly on quad bikes at the moment, driving dangerously on the wrong side of the road and all sorts. They are totally feral and untouchable. I do worry my own teen comes across these sorts on his way home from friends/gym/training or wherever. A young boy was threatened by 2 older teens with a knife a couple of weeks back who stole his bike. 6pm in a public park in a nice area. You're right, their futures are bleak.

I think you were officious and annoying.

I 100% agree with you, OP.