Sick of vile, rude teenagers

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DD was learning about VE Day at school and got wine a few of her friends would be going down to the war memorial this afternoon for the remembrance event. She asked if we could go so I said I would walk her there for 20 minutes so she could quietly see what was going on before bedtime (it’s just round the corner).

We arrived but there was a group of about 8 teenagers sat in the middle of the square making an absolute scene of themselves. Shouting obscenities, vaping, running around, showing off to each other and rolling about on the floor. After 10 minutes of this, having seen the exasperation on the faces of some very elderly people who clearly felt too vulnerable to call them out, I went over and told them to stop embarrassing themselves and to go if they were just there to make a scene. Of course they carried on (although a few seemed to back down). They actually looked shocked like they’d never been told off in their lives. They probably hadn’t.

I’m just so sick of it. These types are everywhere. They’re absolute losers who will likely do nothing with their lives and cost us all a fortune. I know it’s not PC to say it but it’s true - I feel like these types are everywhere, bullying people who are unlikely to respond while leeching off the state.

I absolutely accept teenagers act out and fully expect that (in a secretive and limited way), but this was just so disrespectful and it was so disheartening to see yet another event ruined by yobbos.

I expect I’ll be told IABU.

The majority of teens near me are well behaved and I live in a UK major city up north.
When I was a teen the police would disperse groups of teens in different directions, if they were causing a nuisance.
I have had a bottle of lucozade thrown at me by a load of yobs congregating on the corner.
I did phone police non emergency, and they sent a patrol out.

Thank you. I know it’s trendy to act like this is normal behaviour and they just need a little bit of guidance but honestly. They’re a lost cause. They don’t even look right, mentally. I’m only in my mid 30s and remember doing the whole smoking/drinking/parties thing, but mainly we kept our rebellion behind closed doors and I certainly wouldn’t have shown myself up like this. I still had respect for other people.

Good, that’s exactly what I was aiming for. Hopefully I did annoy them.

Interesting that you bemoan the attitudes of teenagers and then say they’re “losers” who will do “nothing” with their lives.
You’re the adult here and to have that attitude is pathetic.

OP is right though. It's a generational problem where I used to live. Feral packs who terrorise communities up to and including murder, before breeding the next generation.

I don't recognise your description at all. My experience of young people is that they are mostly polite, friendly, and drink and smoke a lot less than we did when we were young.

I don't recognise your description at all. My experience of young people is that they are mostly polite, friendly, and drink and smoke a lot less than we did when we were young.

It's really bad in a lot of Scotland. Central belt, Dundee and Aberdeen especially.

Yes and costing us all a fortune

Benefits
Police
Court system
Social services
Endless interventions and placements for their feral, unhealthy kids
All the while they terrorise the community and make it a depressing place to be

I work in crime and see this time, and time, and time again. It’s a very well worn path and all the interventions in the world only very rarely make a difference. It’s really disheartening

Of course some teenagers behave this way, but it's unfair to say that they will never amount to anything. Lots of people do very stupid things as teenagers and still turn out to be respectable adults. Also teenagers behave very differently when their parents are not around so it could be your child out there one day.

Then you’re very lucky, or live in a wealthy area (do you?)

There are teenagers and teenagers. I've worked in three secondary schools. One of them had truly feral kids. Some of them were absolutely horrible and I can only imagine they'll end up in jail. Obviously I hope they don't, but honestly. I think it is lack of boundaries in school and at home. My current school is nothing like that. The majority of the kids here are so civilised. It is like night and day

Anyway yanbu to have found this behaviour awful and yanbu for telling them off nor for imagining they had never been told off in their lives - they probably haven't been. There are some parents who let their kids do whatever they want. There are some weak teachers too. The worst is when parents figure out how to stop their kid being disciplined at school ("it's making him anxious, what about his anxiety, you can't ask him to do detention/be suspended/excluded gasp" - meanwhile this kid rules the whole school, invades lessons, never goes to his own lessons, calls members of SLT disgusting names in response to them trying to get him to a lesson and laughs heartily while he does it. Sorry, but anxious my arse. Sigh).

Anyway, yanbu.

Those at the local park and friends with the neighbours teen children are all immature, rude and ignorant. Vulgar language, vulgar behaviour.

I would becareful approaching youths as a lot of them carry knives.

Ha! Good on you OP.
Some of the teenage feral kids around here are just out of control and something has to be said sometimes.
Those that don't experience the behaviour of some of these kids don't understand what they are capable of...

I have to ask 'AusBoundDD' have you seen these kids when they're out and about and don't know they're being watched, because quite honestly a lot of kids behave like the OP has described, when they're out of sight of their parents, albeit they might behave while at home and in school.

Think we've found one of the parents.

You think wrong, as mine are aged four and not quite two. So not really old enough to hang around without me.

But lecturing and taking it upon yourself to be bossy and self important in the way described by the OP is never going to be particularly effective. To be honest, half the time people do look for so called feral youths in order to confirm to themselves the world has gone to the dogs. Not sure why. Our local Facebook group is full of it.

Or future parents!

But lecturing and taking it upon yourself to be bossy and self important in the way described by the OP is never going to be particularly effective.

So what do you suggest then?
So much for the village.

Probably some gentle art therapy that they don’t turn up to and a hot chocolate?

To be honest, it depends how much it was bothering me. If it really was then like most people a polite ‘would you mind if’ does tend to be more effective.

If you take it upon yourself to be meddlesome and rude then others won’t respond well: that stands true whether the recipient is fourteen or forty.

Unemployable little clowns, no one will put up with them when they get into the workplace and they will likely spend their lives on benefits
Parents are probably the same

They vape instead, a lot easier to hide the smell.

I work in a secondary school. The majority of children are lovely. But there is an element that isn’t and a much smaller element that scare me.

I immediately saw that it was a typo and you meant ‘wind’. Pretty thick if anyone actually thought you meant that your daughter took WINE 🙄🙄🙄

Just speaking up in defence of teenagers. They're not all feral, rude, abusive and "vile". Some are. Just the same as some adults are vile and rude.

I have a 16 year old and he's not vile and none of his friends are either. I have also been working in a school this week with 15/16/17 year olds sitting their exams and the kids I have encountered in the school have all been very polite and friendly to me.

This thread isn’t called ‘all teenagers are vile’ and I’ve repeatedly acknowledged the majority are not.

And so have a number of pps.

Someone always joins a running thread on here and heroically states "I'm going to go against the grain here and stand up for the downtrodden" <hands on hips, superhero stance>...and then says what numerous people have already said 🙄 😂