Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

[SophEll]

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

You’re hilarious OP! By the way, that is not a compliment. I am not sure you can ‘read the room’ but batshit has been mentioned once or twice, so that should give you an indication

I doubt it

I'm waiting for the one where the Minister for Education gets in touch based on this thread and OP is now in charge of executing judgement over all teachers

Again with the underlying hint of threats. You really won't rest until this man is hung, drawn and quartered in the playground will you.

The head didn't agree he politely said off you fuck you complete lunatic in the most professional way he could.

1. Yes, if he said it to a CURRENT PARENT it would be different
2. Threats again OP?

Sadly good teachers are leaving the profession. I think the HT was wrong and suspect that many HT would not have acted in that way. I think your vitriolic postings demonstrate a somewhat combative approach and the last posting referencing your husband was inappropriate which makes me wonder about your behaviour when you met this teacher - of course we only have your word for your behaviour/body language etc .

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Just to clarify I voted YABU - not becuase I think the school should have taken stronger action, but because I think you are unreasonable for persuing this.

I am sure I am not alone.

Sorry Al Capone 🙄

The most shocking thing about this is the fact you have friends. You must be an absolute nightmare to be friends with, and either they will be agreeing with you to keep the peace because they haven’t got the confidence to pick better ones, or it’s a case of ‘birds of a feather flock together’ and they are equally as batshit as you, in which case their opinion doesn’t count for a lot 🤣

She had no choice you were digging

Still plenty of people on this thread thinking you're off your rocker but you interpret things how you want.

Oh and you've still been fobbed off
embarrassing

In the light of OP's newest threat to set her friends on him, I hope by now the teacher has been alerted to the discussions about these threads going on right now in teacher FB groups (my OH is in some) and is thinking about what action he can take against OP in real life. I'd start with a restraining order.

Oh get over yourself you silly woman. No wonder this place gets the rep it does!

Aside from your smugness - the worst part of this is that you’ve taken time away from people who are there to provide an excellent education. They shouldn’t be pandering to your need to prove a point. So yes, ridiculous stories like this do contribute to the teacher shortages - bat shit crazy people

Yes

Because of batshit people who are either hard-core trolling or harassing and threatening a man

Oh

Now that really shows how you did not give a fuck about what he said at all and just went on a crusade

Or you're a trill who is having the best day

You're calling me silly?! With the crap you've churned out over the last two days? Give me strength.

I'm not joking about the FB teacher group discussions either. MN put your second thread on their FB page and it has spread far and wide. He knows who you are in real life. He'll know these threads in which you've incited people to call him a rapist and paedophile is about him. You're not bulletproof just because you've used an anonymous name on here, you silly woman.

Yes I’m sure that’s exactly why most people find you to be a prize dickhead.

The only person who needs to get over themselves is you. You are a fucking lunatic.

I'm actually more worried now that OP is a troll

This teacher never existed

But people are going to read this and start going "oh I bet that's DD's teacher, Mr Bloggs, he gives those vibes."

Trying to make light of it now, just when I thought @op could not be any weirder.

@op You really haven’t been gunning for a light-touch approach in your previous posts but now you’re having a bit of a laugh about it, huh?

Maybe you could have employed your wonderful sense of humour at the time and met the teacher’s comment with a clever put down?

You come across as a very strange person.

Half of mumsnet right now 😂

Meanwhile, I’m sipping champers enjoying my victory.

In hindsight, maybe I should have taken him up on his kind offer.

I’d have ate him alive!

You realise they probably have not done anything, or even spoken to the teacher about it, right? They have fobbed you off by saying what you wanted to hear. What 'victory' have you had, exactly?