Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

[SophEll]

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

What you went through 😂😂
Champagne on ice 😂

Just when you think you have seen the most batshit thing ever on MN along comes another bonkers thread. 😆

Best laugh I have had in ages.

I haven’t posted previously, but I just wanted to say that you come across as absolutely insufferable. I find myself actually feeling sorry for the drunk sleaze-bag.

The school have no doubt palmed you off. I would have done the same to be fair. “Tell her what she wants to hear.”

But to hear the glee in your posts, hoping that you’ve finally gotten someone into the trouble you feel they deserve, is quite ugly.

And I hope there is some truth in what goes around comes around, and someone complains to your work about something you do or say in the future, that is completely unrelated to your current job.

The crazy thing is, I think the teacher was wrong and his behaviour poor. But now that pales compared to what I have read over the last three threads.

That head is a class act! This is exactly how governors and heads should shut down ridiculous complaints. It’s textbook.

No doubt they are already aware of this mumsnet thread.

Kudos to that head!

And wish there was a separate vote for you’re still wrong which I see you didn’t allow.

Nope still think you are a fruit loop and while I didn’t vote because I don’t agree with your voting descriptions, I still think YABU but not for the reason you have put in your post

Is she pished on the champagne yet?

Fuck me if that's her sober the drunk version will be even funnier.

Picturing the scenario later

Op being pished on champagne decides to allow her other half a bit of hows your father....provided he showers with boiling water, keeps the lights out and stays utterly silent.

Oh and has another shower afterwards

Bloody hell - for Jason Mamoa l'd bring my own desk!

Agreed!

I might nip out and get some popcorn ready for the show.

Op, GET OVER YOURSELF.

Maybe she'l drunkenly tell her OH she thought about banging him over her work desk and he can complain about her to her boss

The term “how can we make this person shut up and go away before our long weekend?” springs to mind 🙈

I've had a horrible thought

OPs husband is also pished and relates some 50 shades scenario in the throes of passion.

Monday morning gets final written warning from the Chief Inspector

Great minds🤣

I hope that's the way the teacher says it actually happened, whether true or not...

Would be totally believable due to the OP's actions

She's definitely displaying the behaviours of a rejected woman.

DH did suggest a roleplay scenario, the dirty bugger. I’ve not had that many glasses yet!

Did he suggest he'd been a naughty teacher and you were the HoG who had to punish him 🤣

Oh, so now it's funny when your husband is suggesting it? Guess that makes him Pervy Dad. 🙄

There is something about your manner and attitude that really makes my flesh crawl.

I bet they have a penis beaker.

You’re trolling.

Gross. You are gross.

This is how one school responded, the face remains this happened outside the school in a private place and you are not the parent. Yes the man was inappropriate but it was in my view not relevant to his employment. Teachers like the rest of us have a private life. Hope that he was/is a superb teacher and leaves that school to one where the management have more common sense.

Promise this is the last update??? Promise??

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!