Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

[SophEll]

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

YABU not " because the school should have responded more strongly"
But because you're just unreasonable full stop. HTH.

No dice. YABU = you (yes, you OP) are being unreasonable. That's what people are voting. Stop deluding yourself.

Please can someone link to the original thread?
On face value there’s a pervy teacher somewhere who’s had a smack on the wrist and nothing else but reading responses there’s definitely more to it!

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference

I'm actually dying. Is this a BAFTA acceptance speech?

Exactly. How thick does she think we are. She added the vote in 5 mins after she posted when she saw it wasn’t going her way.

“Champagne on ice” - Jesus Christ, OP, he might have been a letch but he’s probably lost his job.

It's still a complete overreaction on your part and the champagne comment just compounds how you have come across.

Irrespective of the rights and wrongs of the situation, it's you who has displayed the seto be entitled, arrogant and completely insufferable.

Literally 🤣🤣🤣🤣

You’ve just become the joke of the decade OP, not sure I’d be celebrating if I was you, I’d be embarrassed. He certainly won’t be, you’ve just made yourself the local crazy lady and he’s known as the one who dodged a bullet

SO much more and the Teacher is not pervy
Your post demonstrates why people like OP are so dangerous

I'm not sure I'd have pursued it as far as the OP did but I do think if I was his boss I'd want to know about things he had said that related to the workplace.

If I said to a former customer that I'd always wanted to do x y and z to them when I used to have meetings with them, I'm pretty sure that my employers would be interested and would consider that I was affecting the reputation of the company, irrespective of whether they were still a customer. So I don't agree that its nothing to do with the school, and I don't agree with posters somehow saying if anything happens with his job it's the OPs fault. If you don't want to get disciplined for affecting your employers reputation, then don't do shitty things to affect your employers reputation

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’m having a flashback to Halle Berry’s Oscar acceptance speech in 2002. “This moment is so much bigger than me. This moment is for Dorothy Dandridge, Lena Horne, Diahann Carroll. It's for the women that stand beside me, Jada Pinkett, Angela Bassett, Vivica Fox. And it's for every nameless, faceless woman of color that now has a chance because this door tonight has been opened. Thank you. I'm so honored. I'm so honored.” Don’t forget to thank the Academy and your agent, OP. 🙄

He hasn't, for a whole variety of reasons

Whoever said way back that this was the stuff of a Channel 5 drama was spot on.

I picture it as a minor sub plot in a wannabe show that has not got Sara Lancashire as beleaguered headmistress so the bar is in York and the op played by Jill Halfpenny who now lives in Wetherby/Ilkley/Skipton and Derek Jacobi her father in law wishing he was still school governor whinging in the background

Any thread that starts “well, well, well” is always bound to be good fun.

I am glad you are able to cherish a moment of victory but I suspect pp’s are correct and the school has done a collective eye roll and hopes you’ll go away quietly.

oh ffs ! Mrs Smug has posted her 3rd thread.

So the voting is you are right or you are right?!

This cannot be real.

Any chance of covering personal details and screenshoting the email? I find this update really hard to believe. If it is true, expect more teachers to drop out due to nutty parents/ex parents and shame on the school for caving into you. A shortage of teachers and you think your behaviour is reasonable. Grow up.

Do you think teachers don't go back to the staffroom and comment on the hot Mum or Dad at parents evening. Just the same as people in any other occupation.

What about the parents going home after parents evening commenting on how s/he would have stuck in at school if the teachers were as attractive back then.

Some people have no sense of proportion.

There wont be a slap on the wrist, they’ll all be laughing their tits off at you while thinking you need to get a hobby, a job or better still, a life

Exactly, it's so cringe worthy that she thinks she has " won". The rest of us can blatantly see exactly what's happened

My god, you are such a loser and this is such a made up post. Get a hobby.

And she only posted that after she started getting YABU votes! 😂😂😂

Just don't celebrate by going clubbing.

Neither of this options fit my opinion, which is the school have wasted valuable time on having to fob you off. That response is standard. Nothing different has happened except the Head has had to waste his time on it when there’s a lot more important stuff he could have been doing. I doubt the member of staff will even be made aware this has all gone on to be honest.
Nobody criticising you on the other threads was wrong about what would happen, so no tails between legs.