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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
araiwa · 02/05/2025 13:11

Tldr

"What can we say to get rid of her"

Playdoh45 · 02/05/2025 13:11

I think they may have done this because they wanted to keep you quiet and paniced where you were taking it next .....

Playdoh45 · 02/05/2025 13:12

araiwa · 02/05/2025 13:11

Tldr

"What can we say to get rid of her"

snap, my thoughts 😁

Hoppinggreen · 02/05/2025 13:12

I am pretty sure I predicted this post.
Find a Hobby OP

Catapultaway · 02/05/2025 13:12

Yep, still bonkers 😂

Mapleunicorn · 02/05/2025 13:14

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loropianalover · 02/05/2025 13:14

‘I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed’ 🤣🤣🤣

The chair said ‘get this off my desk before the weekend’

DappledThings · 02/05/2025 13:15

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!
Good luck with that. I still think your attitude is horribly smug and smacks far more of joy at "winning" than any genuine wish to right a perceived wrong.

Your interpretation of what you've been told is yours and the fact they've conveniently wrapped this up so quickly suggests to me more that they've still had a quick consideration of it all, decided no further action but have given you the words that make it sound like they've done a big investigation. They've successfully placated you. Well done them!

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 02/05/2025 13:15

'Champagne on ice'. Fucking hell 😂

Hobnobswantshernameback · 02/05/2025 13:15

Any saga that becomes a three thread wonder on here probably stopped bearing much relation to reality about two and half threads ago

ARealitycheck · 02/05/2025 13:16

Read between the lines. They have told you what you wanted to hear to shut you up.

The teacher isn't embarassed, the entire school staff will be laughing at you behind your back and trying to avoid you as you are clearly incredibly vindictive with far too much time on your hands.

You're an adult, both males and females make stupid, crass and inappropriate remarks while drinking. Especially in nightclubs. Can't handle a one off remark with no follow up, stay at home.

FMc208 · 02/05/2025 13:16

This isn’t real 😂 I am cringing so hard at you totally misinterpreting the whole situation and thinking you’ve ‘won’ 😂 you’re an embarrassment OP.

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

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Bigearringsbigsmile · 02/05/2025 13:16

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This one of the most batshit things I've ever read on here

summerscomingsoon · 02/05/2025 13:16

Are we still bored this afternoon op?
Sure the school are mightily relieved your dc no longer attend.

Ht just waffle really to get rid of you. 'They can't tell you' means they atre having a good laugh at you and glad to be rid

Lammveg · 02/05/2025 13:17

Is this an awards acceptance speech?

DappledThings · 02/05/2025 13:17

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

Nice try to skew it. 100% of people voting YABU are saying simply that. You are, and have been, unreasonable.

Senzaunadonna · 02/05/2025 13:18

I don’t think I’ve ever cringed so much in my life.

menopausalfart · 02/05/2025 13:19

I thought what he said was disgusting. I don't think you are looking any better by gloating.

Nodancingshoes · 02/05/2025 13:20

Sorry OP - there's probably a photo of you up in the staff room so they all know to avoid you. The man was a creep but you went well overboard.

Maray1967 · 02/05/2025 13:21

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I don’t want my DC to be taught by someone who talks about sexual fantasies he had involving seeing mums at parents’ evening.

He needs to realise that teaching involves a level of responsibility outside working hours.

Hopefully he will learn from this. But he might be an arrogant dick who should not be in a classroom at all.

SummerIce · 02/05/2025 13:22

araiwa · 02/05/2025 13:11

Tldr

"What can we say to get rid of her"

Exactly my thoughts.

Sorry you didn’t get him fired like you hoped.

1SillySossij · 02/05/2025 13:22

You so desperate to prove everyone on here wrong and the school wrong. No one has ant way of knowing whether your very speedy update has any truth to it. Your 'update' suggests that the school has admitted to no proper complaints procedure. So you have any clue how many unhinged complaints like yours a typical school receives in a day. Large schools emply people whose sole job is batting way nonsense like this. In most cases the teacher concerned isn't even notified of nutty allegations like this.

1SillySossij · 02/05/2025 13:22

You so desperate to prove everyone on here wrong and the school wrong. No one has ant way of knowing whether your very speedy update has any truth to it. Your 'update' suggests that the school has admitted to no proper complaints procedure. So you have any clue how many unhinged complaints like yours a typical school receives in a day. Large schools emply people whose sole job is batting way nonsense like this. In most cases the teacher concerned isn't even notified of nutty allegations like this.

whatdoidonowffs · 02/05/2025 13:22

🤦🏻‍♂️

Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update