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Keirawr · 02/05/2025 06:21

Reform had a good night, winning county councils, probably will win a mayoral seat and won the parliamentary by election also.

You don’t have to be a Reform voter to acknowledge that they are taking votes off Labour. Or that they are being electorally effective.

No doubt the ‘basket of deplorables’ crowd will be along in a min with their usual quips calling reform voters names, having learned absolutely 0 from Brexit. Insult the voters at your peril.

These same people also totally miss the point that winning is winning. Feeling all moral and superior about ‘oh well, what will they actually do’ changes nothing.

Perhaps those who label everyone that wants immigration limiting as ‘racist’ Will think again. But likely not.

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LoremIpsumCici · 02/05/2025 12:43

OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 10:52

I am calm and certainly intelligent and literate - I have a double first class degree from Cambridge University.

I read in detail all of the policies on children and families from the main parties. Reform are the only one who properly acknowledged the valid choice of Stay at Home Parents. They would increase marriage tax allowance and front load child benefit for the first 4 years of a child’s life. After years of questioning both Labour and Conservative politicians about what they would do for families like mine, they couldn’t explain about anything other than more hours of free childcare, which I don’t need or want. I didn’t want my babies in childcare from 9 months old, I don’t want my 2 lovely (now a bit older) children at free breakfast clubs, I love having breakfast with my children.

Being a SAHM is the most important part of my life, and I am delighted to find a party which does not ignore my choice and would actually do more to support families like ours. I’m very disappointed with the other parties on this issue.

Me me me me me
looking out for #1
thats how you vote.

savory · 02/05/2025 12:45

ilovesooty · 02/05/2025 12:33

I can't imagine why anyone would vote for Jenkyns.

I know of someone who didn't vote in the Runcorn by election because the Labour candidate was fat and her clothes looked cheap. 😡

Stupid is as stupid does. I would be favour in a test before you can vote like the Citizenship Test - 20 multiple choice questions - not that difficult and you need to get 80% to vote. Could be a free test - so one you have to be arsed to do the test and two you have to pass it.

Kardamyli2 · 02/05/2025 12:45

LoremIpsumCici · 02/05/2025 12:43

Me me me me me
looking out for #1
thats how you vote.

Isn't that how everyone votes?

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 02/05/2025 12:46

Kardamyli2 · 02/05/2025 12:45

Isn't that how everyone votes?

No, not everyone

Serpentstooth · 02/05/2025 12:47

To make any sense of this thread, a comparison of party leaders use of grammar would be helpful. Did I hear the hallowed Jenkyns woman say 'was' instead of 'were' this morning? I think I did. Twice. Sack her now, not fit to hold office. Although her English usage is the least of it.

LoremIpsumCici · 02/05/2025 12:47

Toootss · 02/05/2025 10:56

Can I just say that it’s a recognised fact that the middle classes are being stuffed - high taxes, no free child care ,no benefits propping them up - there’s a reason so many Brits live in Dubai or have moved to Australia.

And whose fault is that? Those pesky disabled on benefits? The immigrants who are also working with no benefits? Or maybe it’s the rich old boys club of which Farage and his buddies are members taking and taking from the country?

ComeAsYouAreAsAFriend · 02/05/2025 12:47

OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 11:27

So you’ve just completely agreed with my opinion on the dominant view of the major parties towards SAHPs, thank you. I have every right to exercise my democratic right to vote in a way that fully expresses my strong disagreement with them.

So you’ve just completely agreed with my opinion on the dominant view of the major parties towards SAHPs
Yes I have.

I have every right to exercise my democratic right to vote in a way that fully expresses my strong disagreement with them.
Yes you do of course. And as you are an intelligent woman, Cambridge educated no less, I assume you have questioned your local Reform candidate on how they are going to fund their election promises? I mean wouldn't we all want to live in the utopia they describe in their manifesto but has it been independently costed? Have they indicated where the finance is coming from to fund their proposed public sector spending? I don't know if they have so that's why I'm asking, not to be goady. Normally it would be suggested that taxes would increase particularly on the rich but I don't hear them say that.

I don't believe the other parties don't want the option for a parent to stay at home during the child rearing years (mum or dad) but it is an economic risk to have so many of working age economically inactive, hence the policies incentivising people to work. With an aging population and the pressure that will bring a decrease in those in the working age range contributing to the exchequer marks a massive decrease in public spending.

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 12:48

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 12:35

You won't be satisfied until you fuck up the country. BREXIT was not enough you want to go deeper until there are no immigrants. Since Brexit more immigrants have come to this country not less. I had a random conversation with a woman and I was telling her we are selling up and moving she thought I was leaving the country. A lot of people have imigrated since Brexit to live a better life. People were happy before Brexit the country was stable. I can't tell you who you should or shouldn't vote for. There is an old saying "Who don't hear, must feel".

Wow, such emotion and fascism. Yes, the left are perfectly capable of dictating and controlling. I will give you a little anecdote of my own. When I worked in FE, during Brexit, anyone voting leave were afraid to say it because of the bullying from other lecturers. What a great example to set to students; don't have your own opinion on politics ..how dare you, unless you align with the left. I know that's a concept I glad to not be part of. My vote, my choice, my life. You do you.

inkognitha · 02/05/2025 12:50

thepariscrimefiles · 02/05/2025 12:29

It was a valid comparison of Reform's proposals to allow women/mothers to stay at home with policies of extreme right wing parties from the past.

Nazi Germany made women and mothers a priority in their political rhetoric. Many women supported the National Socialist Party because it urged returning to the family values of the past when women were encouraged to stay at home and concern themselves with taking care of the household.

If you had expressed your point this way, it would have been a contribution to the debate, what you went for was a nasty swipe imho.

One could also argue that most societies and civilisations on this earth have wanted women in the kitchen, but it's just Reform you mention (which you assimilate automatically with naziism), to taint and discredit a valid POV. Hitler loved dogs, not all dog-loving people are nazis.

Alexandra2001 · 02/05/2025 12:50

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 02/05/2025 12:27

Reform are doing well in many areas of Devon (still lots to be announced).

Starmer needs to go after this. Labour need to clamp down on immigration - the main issue driving people to Reform. He needs to do something to ensure that people coming to the UK (and already here) are integrating fully into UK culture.

...just how does that happen?

Fancy a care home with no staff? slaughter houses with no staff.... warehouses, factories etc etc no staff....

Universities gone bust?

Immigrants coming here are coming here to either work or study, they wont come here if they cannot bring in their partners or kids...

How do you stop x channel migration?

Everyone is against it but so far no one has come up with any means to stop it...

ComeAsYouAreAsAFriend · 02/05/2025 12:51

Kardamyli2 · 02/05/2025 12:45

Isn't that how everyone votes?

No. I tend to look at the wider picture and vote on what will be good for society as a whole and what sort of country I want to live in and the values and experience of the candidates and do those align with mine.

ThisUsernameIsNowTaken · 02/05/2025 12:51

Yes, let's vote in right-wing bigots and watch them dismantle democracy, like they are currently doing in the US, Hungary, Israel, etc. Brilliant idea and it will be so easy to reverse the damage!

"Sir, my need is sore. / Spirits that I've cited / My commands ignore."

ToWhitToWhoo · 02/05/2025 12:52

So what you are saying is that the only way to beat Reform is to agree with them
or at least to shut up and never contradict them? If I call a racist a racist that will just encourage them to be even more racist? We should just bow down and grovel before Farage and his cohorts or they will just punish us for insulting them by gaining even more power?

That is a horrible approach IMO. Just because they won (or rather came second to the winning Why-Bother-to-Vote party) in certain areas doesn't mean that they are right!

What I DO think is that Labour need to stop trying to be the Tories and clamping down on pensioners and disabled people and poor people, or voters will just go for anything that looks like an alternative, or more likely just not vote.

Zonder · 02/05/2025 12:52

Kardamyli2 · 02/05/2025 12:45

Isn't that how everyone votes?

Thankfully no.

LoremIpsumCici · 02/05/2025 12:52

No they won’t, another free moon cheese for everyone promise that will never be funded.

Kardamyli2 · 02/05/2025 12:52

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 02/05/2025 12:46

No, not everyone

Why would you vote for a party or candidate that doesn't represent your best interests or put you or your family first? Genuinely interested to gear your reasoning.

Kardamyli2 · 02/05/2025 12:54

Zonder · 02/05/2025 12:52

Thankfully no.

Is it some sort of self-harm compulsion that would lead people to vote against their own interests?

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 12:54

YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/05/2025 12:43

"As a brown person I feel slightly nauseous this morning."
The Reform Chairman is a brown person.

I'll never forget when Suella Braverman said "intergration doesn't work" and yet she's married to a white man?

People like him and Suella are confused. Donald Trump is stamping down on immigration but yet him and the rest of the so called American's are all immigrants. Trump is Farage's best friend.

EasternStandard · 02/05/2025 12:54

ComeAsYouAreAsAFriend · 02/05/2025 12:51

No. I tend to look at the wider picture and vote on what will be good for society as a whole and what sort of country I want to live in and the values and experience of the candidates and do those align with mine.

The problem for Labour is they are not good for many parts of society. As felt by a fair few pensioners, businesses, farmers etc

LoremIpsumCici · 02/05/2025 12:54

User135644 · 02/05/2025 11:05

So much of it is unnecessary immigration as well..yes we need skilled workers and in health and care sector.

How many deliveroo riders and Turkish barbers do we need? People coming in on skilled worker visas to work in kebab takeaways

Almost half of that million are international Uni students who will only be here a few years while paying the £25k/yr in tuition fees to our desperately cash strapped Universities.

ChesterDrawz · 02/05/2025 12:55

OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 11:20

Oh and also, my DH pays tax and would prefer more of his money to go to me, his wife, rather than random childcare settings he has zero interest in our kids using 👌🏻

Well I, and DH, pay mountains of income tax and we don't want it to go to you to fund your lifestyle choices.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 12:55

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 12:48

Wow, such emotion and fascism. Yes, the left are perfectly capable of dictating and controlling. I will give you a little anecdote of my own. When I worked in FE, during Brexit, anyone voting leave were afraid to say it because of the bullying from other lecturers. What a great example to set to students; don't have your own opinion on politics ..how dare you, unless you align with the left. I know that's a concept I glad to not be part of. My vote, my choice, my life. You do you.

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You're happy good

Itsnotmyjobtoeducatestupid · 02/05/2025 12:55

Really Horse rider! Don’t equate the working class vote vs the aristocracy of the 19th century landowners and the women achieving the vote with racist reform in this country. They fought for self determination and equality when the majority of people in this country were white!

Like I said Farage and Reform ignore them at your peril. Your issue isn’t with people voting reform it’s the absolute shit show of the last 3-4 decades of labour and Conservatives. when you have labour who can’t manage their anti semitism and the conservatives and their Islamophobia - these r just two extremes never mind the glaringly obvious issue of both parties and their abject failure to deal with lack of social and racial cohesion in communities up and down the country.

Why is it if a working class person complains about a few of us brown and black people they’re racist but dear Middle Class mum in a leafy suburb moaning about the grammar school intake is predominately Asian isn’t.
As they are two examples of the nuance of racism that isn't racism when people or middle class wealthy / or educated intellectuals talk of the concept of ‘urbanisation.’ Oh but chavvy so and so doesn’t like the Asian gangs walking around.

come on we all don’t live in a bubble. It’s shit that we are having so many extremes you think I feel safe walking down the street as a non white woman or my son being hurled the n word by children from one of the top Surrey private schools- go away with your sanctimonious nonsense. I’d rather people were honest and tell me to my face than have a wolf in sheep’s clothing smiling and then desperately trying to get their precious daughter to a lily white private school then the perfectly amazing comprehensive because of the - oh you know it’s a bit loud for dear so and so - no you mean you don’t like that it’s socially and racially mixed

it’s out there - there are many people who adhere to Reform: go and march and protest fat lot of good that will do

Zonder · 02/05/2025 12:55

Kardamyli2 · 02/05/2025 12:52

Why would you vote for a party or candidate that doesn't represent your best interests or put you or your family first? Genuinely interested to gear your reasoning.

Thankfully a lot of people have a bigger picture. They can see that it's worth voting for the good of the country, for the poor and disadvantaged to be looked after and not just for our own bank accounts to get fatter.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/05/2025 12:56

inkognitha · 02/05/2025 12:50

If you had expressed your point this way, it would have been a contribution to the debate, what you went for was a nasty swipe imho.

One could also argue that most societies and civilisations on this earth have wanted women in the kitchen, but it's just Reform you mention (which you assimilate automatically with naziism), to taint and discredit a valid POV. Hitler loved dogs, not all dog-loving people are nazis.

Frankly, I would have much preferred to be a SAHM but I had to work. I also got lumbered with all the childcare and housework as DH worked very long hours.

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